Help, Advice,Direction????

[Prayforababy]

Hi, this is my first time posting on this forum, or any forum for that matter. Let me just give you a little background information about myself first. I had a beautiful daughter when I was 17 years old. Needless to say it was an unplanned pregnancy, however I would not change it for anything. She has been my whole life since the day she came into it 13 years ago. Things did not work out between her dad and I, being that we were both so young. He had an accident when she was 5 and was killed in a motorcycle accident. At 23, 7 days after graduating from college I married my first husband. We tried to have a baby for a year and a half. After some time when it still wasn't happening I tried to get him to go get checked out. Since I already had a daughter I just KNEW I couldn't be the problem. He never would go and get checked out. However a few months later our marriage ended when I found out that he had gotten one of his co-workers pregnant. So I went on about my way and took my lack of getting pregnant as a blessing. I decided that was just God's way of looking out for me. (Sometimes I think God for unanswered prayers!) A couple of years later I met my husband. The most wonderful man I have ever known. My best friend, my soul mate, the man of my dreams. We started trying to get pregnant right after we got married. After a year of unsuccessfully trying we decided to get some tests ran. His tests came back perfect. My initial tests came back with me having a cyst on one of my ovaries(so we couldn't start clomid yet) and with slightly low progesterone. It was a 7. But nothing really major that should pose a huge problem getting pregnant. No PCOS or endometriosis that they could see from the ultrasounds. We waited a little while to see if the cyst went away on its own instead of having it surgically removed. After about 6 more months I went back in and had another ultrasound. The cyst was gone and I could start on clomid! I was so excited. With everything I had read and heard I just knew I would be pregnant within a few months. Well I did 8 cycles on clomid and nothing! While it did raise my progesterone (it was even a 50 one month) I still wasn't pregnant. So then the Dr decided that a HSG might be a good idea. I went in and had the HSG done. She said that she did struggle a little at first pushing the dye through and most likely that was why I hadn't been getting pregnant. She did say that she finally was able to get the dye all the way through and that my tubes should be all clear and ready to go now. So once again I was excited and hopeful for the next couple of months. I even did another 2 rounds of clomid. Still nothing....it has now been 6 months since my HSG. And this month I had my shortest cycle, out of the 38 cycles that I have been charting, 20 days. I just don't know what to do now. I feel so discouraged. I have watched both of my friends get pregnant and have babies while I have been trying. One of my friends has now had a 2nd baby in the amount of time I have been trying. I have deleted my Facebook account on numerous occasions because the plethora of "We're Pregnant" posts are just more then I can bare. I have already spent several thousand dollars on fertility tests and treatments (which I know is a small amount compared to some) just to still not be pregnant. I have not had one positive pregnancy test out of all of this time ttc. I have a regular cycle. Normally 28-30 days, I'm not sure what is going on this month with the 20 days. I just wish I knew what else to do or try. I have prayed, I have cried, and I have tried. I feel terrible because my husband wants to have a child of his own so badly and I feel like I am keeping him from that. He is a wonderful step dad to my daughter and he deserves to have a child of his own. It breaks my heart every month I have to tell him that I'm not pregnant. I can't help but think of what our child would look like. What their talents would be. Would they be athletic like my husband or artsy like me. I guess I am just looking for someone out there that may be going through the same thing I am. Or someone that has a success story to provide me with some hope. I apologize that this post is so long. I guess that's what happens when you wait too long to let everything out.

 

[heres_hoping]

I'm so sorry for what you have been through. From what you have said here, and with your last cycle being only 20days, it sounds to me like you have a progesterone issue and short LP. I had max 10day lp before clomid, which is too short. My first cycle on it, I got to 13daylp, but after that it went back to ten days again. I mentioned tis at the clinic and I now use progesterone in the TWW which is working fine. Do you chart your cycles? If not, I suggest you start dong so, to be able to determine what is going on. If it turns out it is a lp problem, it's an easy fix.

Good luck x

 

[Prayforababy]

Thank you so much for your response. I do chart my cycles and have for 38 cycles now. When I was on clomid it lengthened my cycle to 30 days, but still no success. I have thought that it may have been a luteal phase/ low progesterone issue but I just don't understand why clomid didn't fix that being that my cycle was longer and my progesterone was very high when I was on it. What type of progesterone are you using if you don't mind me asking? Prometrium, the cream, or a suppository? I just wish I could find something that would finally work for me!

 

[heres_hoping]

I have cyclogest, a pessary, I'm in the uk. Are your charts seeing a short lp? If so you need to see yor fertility clinic /specialist about it and ask them aut progesterone support. Clomid alone fixes this issue for some but not all women. As I said it helped me for one cycle then it went back to how it was before.

 

[Prayforababy]

So I thought I got AF on cycle day 20 but now I'm not so sure. I am now on what would have been cycle day 24. And I am no longer spotting or bleeding. The first day it was a light to medium flow, but it was red. The 2nd and 3rd day it was light spotting, not even enough to make it to a pad, just when wiping. Sorry if TMI. And now today nothing. I have been feeling dizzy and tired. And last night I was experiencing some kind of weird pressure/pulling sensation. Very different from normal menstrual cramps. Is there still a chance I could be pregnant this month? Would it still be to early to test since I wasn't supposed to start for another 5 days? I hate the way my brain convinces me I'm pregnant each month. That is the absolute WORST part about ttc.

 

[popchick75]

Something to think about since you already know you're ovulating, tubes are open, and dh is ok.... Y

You may want to try getting some more tests before you sink any more money into more treatments. Ask about some basic bloods tests for clotting issues. They can prevent the embryo from implanting which could explain never getting a BFP. Depending on what the clotting issue is, it may be as simple as taking baby aspirin every day to fix the issue.

Also, maybe ask about Femara instead of clomid. Clomid is notorious for thinning out your lining to the point it would be impossible for an embryo to attach.