help, dont know what to do now

[angels330]

hi there,

im 19 and 34 weeks and mostly happy except for my now ex. i broke up with the bf as he was being very rude and immature. he has since got a new girlfriend and refuses to acknowledge me or the baby exist. he thinks he can forgetabout everything and get on with his life and not tell anyone in his family which he isnt. he keeps sending horrible txts saying how i broke his heart and has no feelings towards "it"!, really getting me down im so upset about his reaction and he refuses to talk to me. i dont want a relationship with this man but im worried that hes disowning his own child just because i broke up with him, in spite. before we broke up he said he couldnt not be involved whatever happens but this has changed completely. my mum thinks his parents deserve to know and i agree i just dont know if it would be the best thing to do . xx

 

[Sarah88]

I agree, his parents have a right to know that they're going to be grandparents. And they may turn out to be invaluable support for you!

 

[Sophie1205]

He does sound very immature and irresponsible. Yeah you should tell his parents as they are the grandparents, and maybe they will talk some sense into him and make him realise that this baby is not something he can just walk away from and forget about. Even though you don't want a relationship with him, the baby is still his responsibility as well as yours. Good luck hun xxxx

 

[princess_bump]

i agree his parents should no, so sorry u have to deal with this. hope things work out for you. good luck x

 

[x-li-x]

i agree his parents sud no, i also think if this boy is a immature and sad as he sounds u will be better of without him. good luck hope it all works out for u xx

 

[Becky]

Is he also 19!! he need a kick into reality he is going to be a dad whether or not he likes it end of story!!

His parents have every right to know about what is going on he may have done wrong but dont blame them for it.

Im also 19 and pregnant so if you ever need a chat im here

x

 

[mrsdcooper]

his parents are about to be grandparents to a beautiful little baby - if he doesnt want to be in the babies life it doesnt mean they wont want to be. surely they have a right and so does your baby.

i would tackle it by taking my mum with me, calling his parents and asking when is convenient to go round as you would like to talk to them. they will then ask your ex what the meeting is about - giving him time to tell them if he chooses to.... and if not you and your mum can approach it together saying that you wanted them to know so they could choose to be in the babies life if they want. then you havnt done it in spite to your ex, and they can then make a decision they feel is right for them and hopefully your baby.

 

[leeanne]

I'd definitely tell his parents. They will do with the information what they want to do, but at least you did the right thing and told them.

Good luck!

 

[BeckyBoo]

I agree they have a right to know, why should they be punished for his immaturity.

 

[xarlenex]

Yeah tell them, im sure they would wanna love the baby even if he doesnt x

 

[Kirsti19]

I agree they have a right to know.
xx

 

[nightkd]

I agree on top of all the agreements. He should realise that you're not going to bow down to his immaturity and you're approaching the situation like an adult.

Hope everything goes well for you!!

 

[angels330]

thanks everyone for the advice. i sent a simple letter without pointing fingers to inform them theyre going to be grandparents, so they can do what they want with the information. I feel like it was the right thing to do, but i still cant help worrying that he is going to make it look like its all my fault and they will think badly of me. trying not to let it bother me though, his mum should have received it in the post this morning so shall see how it goes xx

 

[princess_x0]

hi there,

im 19 and 34 weeks and mostly happy except for my now ex. i broke up with the bf as he was being very rude and immature. he has since got a new girlfriend and refuses to acknowledge me or the baby exist. he thinks he can forgetabout everything and get on with his life and not tell anyone in his family which he isnt. he keeps sending horrible txts saying how i broke his heart and has no feelings towards "it"!, really getting me down im so upset about his reaction and he refuses to talk to me. i dont want a relationship with this man but im worried that hes disowning his own child just because i broke up with him, in spite. before we broke up he said he couldnt not be involved whatever happens but this has changed completely. my mum thinks his parents deserve to know and i agree i just dont know if it would be the best thing to do . xx

Hey huni, aww im sorry to hear about your ex. He doesn't sound like the greatest bf at all. And he's just being a coward about telling his parents. They definately deserve to know and I doubt they would be too happy their son kept it from them for almost 9 months! And even more so how he's treating the mother of their grand child. If I were you I'd tell them I'm sure they would be very supportive towards you xx