help, inspiration and a little support needed....

[hoot]

Hi, am new to this forum and need a little help from people who are struggling just like I am. We have been TTC since 2008. No success so far and I don't think I can take much more. I was wondering how all of you stay sane....literally. Ever month I build myself up, and every month I am crushed. I have a lovely life outside of this, but putting that into perspective is getting harder and harder. So I am looking for advice on what can keep me from not just giving up and staying in bed for the rest of my life? Books I should read? Meditation? Yoga? Anything for my mental stability at this stage. thanks.

 

[tamithomas]

There is no one way to remain sane. Everyone has their own method of keeping themselves occupied that works, it's up to you to find one that works for you. TTC since 2009 for me. In my case When I start to get the serious TTC blues I go online and start dream house shopping for the right house that we would get if we were to finally be able to bring life into this world.

I also am a major yoga fanatic even though physically i know i'll never be able to be expert lol. In the end, you gotta find your own method. We could throw a thousand and one ways but only one is right for you. sending you many good vibes

 

[Danniii]

I'm sorry you're feeling so low at the moment.

For me it comes in waves, sometimes I can cope, and other times I want to curl up and sob. The 'fix' for me changes too. It can range from being busy and making my life as it is better, to reading success stories and dreaming about what we'll do when/if it happens for us, other times I sulk and watch TV or try to enjoy things all those lucky people can't do as freely: drinking wine, sleeping in, just doing whatever I feel like with no child/pregnancy related responsibilities.

It's so different for everyone, but my suggestion is trying to live life as it is right now. Do you have good people to talk to? And make some cool plans, like a holiday or decorating or planning really amazing xmas presents. (I'm currently trying to start a greetings card business.) I think when you're doing everything you can to have a baby, and all you have left is to wait, you need distractions and something to take control of. I know I'm happier when I'm busy.

Good luck hun. Look after yourself and I hope you find some renewed inner strength.

Danniii
xx

 

[Nightnurse]

what people appear to be outside may not be on the inside,we all struggle,as for me I pretend to be strong first of all not to be pitied my other and secondly if I didnt I would literally have a breakdown and always be crying and stressing myself out

In my own way I try to expect AF so when she does come ui'm not so sad and then I take a break from the boards fot the week,it seems to help

 

[Natashaa1]

I try to think of each AF as a new start and another chance rather than a failure this helps me a lot, I'm also having acupunture at the mo which helps so much with the stress! TTC 2 years for me now.

 

[PinkPeony]

Actually I started doing acupuncture to sort of "fix" whatever is wrong with my body, but the main affect so far has been to stabalize my emotional state. I'm still a mess a lot of the time, but when I get down into sulk mode my acupuncturist says some nice things about building my body back up and sticks some needles in. If nothing else it's an hour of my week where I can just sit there and focus on my wellbeing. So that's been a help... I've also found some guided meditation podcasts. I've just gone through a bit of a depression over TTC and I often feel I'm on verge of going back there. I'm really just trying to find anything to force my mind to be in a good place... and hopefully it'll stay that way.

 

[Castastic]

Hi Hoot! You will find that this board is full of wonderful women who feel just like you do and understand your struggle. This has been a lot of help for me. I've not been here long but I find myself lurking everyday and it helps me with not feeling so alone. My husband has even seen a bit of difference in my moods.

One of the things that helps me is to keep my mind busy. I love learning new things and study constantly. I try to work out on my treadmill at least 4 times a week because I find it helps me sleep instead of staying awake thinking about how I'm still not a Mom. I have two obnoxious dogs that help keep me company and I talk to them. They're my 90 lbs furry children and they're not judging me.

It is a constant struggle because having a child is one of the most natural things in the world. And, it can be incredibly hard to stay positive. This has been one of the biggest emotional rollcoasters I've been on in my entire life.

 

[Kimiw]

Hi, am new to this forum and need a little help from people who are struggling just like I am. We have been TTC since 2008. No success so far and I don't think I can take much more. I was wondering how all of you stay sane....literally. Ever month I build myself up, and every month I am crushed. I have a lovely life outside of this, but putting that into perspective is getting harder and harder. So I am looking for advice on what can keep me from not just giving up and staying in bed for the rest of my life? Books I should read? Meditation? Yoga? Anything for my mental stability at this stage. thanks.

oh hunny first of all lots of . Welcome to the wonderful world of infertility. Have you or DP been tested for anything? I know that when DH and I started trying back in 2006 it took us 2 and a half years to finally go see if there was a problem, turned out there was...and it was me. I have PCOS and I honestly didn't know that it was a treatable disorder but it is. Well, to make a long story short, we finally got pregnant after 6 years with Clomid...but I miscarried...just recently actually . But as far as staying sane that is a tough one. We all learn to deal with it differently depending on our own individual situations. For me, it all came down to research and finding support systems (that is how I found babyandbump). Babyandbump has been a god sent when you are going through such a tough time getting pregnant.


I thrive on research, I want to know everything there is to know on infertility because that is the one thing I have become quite an expert in. I want to know everything about my disorder because I want to what I can do to increase my chances or things I need to avoid to increase my chances. I don't know, I am probably babbling...sorry. Just start finding something your interested in (like a new hobby) and put your energy into that. Infertility is no fun, and it comes with a huge emotional burden. I hope you feel better hun, there will be ups and downs, you just have to find something you can focus that energy on when you go through the downs.

 

[Anka87]

Hello Ladies! Just wanted to say that you are such strong beautiful women! Brings tears to my eyes just reading those posts.
Been TTC as well..such a struggle. Thank you guys for being here..makes me feel so much better.