Help me get a life!

[jenny82]

I am so BORED at home. The kids are happy and I am fine with them during the day. It's just that I have nothing else and it is killing me, and making me angry at the world.

It's gotten to the point where I can't even remember what I used to be interested in. I used to be funny, outgoing, interesting. I used to run, dance, sell vintage clothes, be into music etc. I don't even know what I am anymore. I am turning into my mother :/

We just moved and I don't know anyone here. I would have no problem going out and meeting people/doing stuff though, if I actually knew what I enjoyed. I did apply for a patisserie course at the college here but I stupidly had left it too late even though I knew I wanted to apply for months, so it was oversubscribed. I am still really gutted! I cried for hours when I found out - bloody hormones.

It annoys me that OH is still able to keep up his interests. To the point where he flies home for gigs on a monthly basis. This really really fecks me off but I can't really complain as I know that if I wanted to do the same, he would have no issue with it (he only goes for one night anyway).

So I dunno, I just don't know what I can do to help myself. I looked at volunteering but the places near me, I just didn't know if I could help out properly, or they were during the day, which I can't do.

Any suggestions would be greatly received

 

[beth_terri]

You sound like me

 

[Squidge]

And me

 

[jenny82]

Sorry that you feel the same, it sucks!!

I did try to do some online free courses, but they're shortish, like 6-8 weeks, which means they are quite intensive. I just couldn't keep it up, which is a shame as I was enjoying them - even though it didn't get me out the house, it got my brain working.

 

[Princess Lou]

If you don't mind, where are you located? That may help with some suggestions.

 

[jenny82]

I'm in Berkshire.

 

[Princess Lou]

Have you visited the local council/library/surestart to see what groups etc they have running? Maybe try a few and see what gets your juices flowing?

 

[Marie000]

Sorry that you feel the same, it sucks!!

I did try to do some online free courses, but they're shortish, like 6-8 weeks, which means they are quite intensive. I just couldn't keep it up, which is a shame as I was enjoying them - even though it didn't get me out the house, it got my brain working.

was that on coursera? I am doing two classes there, and mine are not too demanding. It varies a lot from one class to the next. One of my classes (Dino 101 ) takes me maybe one or two hours a week.

Aside from that, I'm in the same situation. I have some hobbies, but none take me out of the home.

 

[lovelylaura]

What about meeting someone online and just going for a drink in the evening and see if they want to join you doing something? What about yoga/ gym classes?

 

[Varenne]

Meet me for a coffee I'm in Berks

Are evening classes an option for you? (languages, crafts, book club etc)
Are there any sports you'd like to get into? I like going swimming every now and then at my local pool and playing squash. You said you used to dance...could you get back into this?
Are you part of any parents clubs that meet and socialise while the kids play?
Could you volunteer at weekends or whenever your partner is home? Lots of places want Saturday work. I work at a retreat for kids with special needs at weekends.
Could you start a mini business making/selling things on Ebay or Etsy? It could be sewing, knitting, soap making, jewellery making etc. Not everyone's cup of tea but it keeps you busy and can be done with the kids around.
I'd definitely try the online courses again. It takes dedication but you can do it and it's so important to keep your brain active. Some courses are less intensive.

What do you have/want in terms of a career?

I know how it is, I've been in that hole for years before. You'll find a way out!

 

[Abigailly]

This was me for YEARS and then I woke up one morning about a year ago and decided to do something about it.

I started small, I set up a blog which got me into the online community and now it means I get invited to different blogger events and to meet with other bloggers.

Then I started a theatrical make up course. I had already been a make up artist in the past so it was a new direction on something I loved. But it's also not academic which means it only take up the 3 hours a week, I don't have to come home and study too.

I then took up swing dancing, which is one night a week. So I feel like I have a hectic life but I don't do much. Especially as I can take Niamh to a lot of the promotional events I go to.

 

[jenny82]

Sorry that you feel the same, it sucks!!

I did try to do some online free courses, but they're shortish, like 6-8 weeks, which means they are quite intensive. I just couldn't keep it up, which is a shame as I was enjoying them - even though it didn't get me out the house, it got my brain working.

was that on coursera? I am doing two classes there, and mine are not too demanding. It varies a lot from one class to the next. One of my classes (Dino 101 ) takes me maybe one or two hours a week.

Aside from that, I'm in the same situation. I have some hobbies, but none take me out of the home.

Yeah it was! I was doing programming courses, maths, network analysis. They were quite hard & requited me to do some extra reading. I am the type of person too, that if i cant give it 150%, i just quit. I know that that can be a terrible personality trait! So because i couldn't work as hard as i wanted to, i didn't finish them :/

 

[jenny82]

Meet me for a coffee I'm in Berks

Are evening classes an option for you? (languages, crafts, book club etc)
Are there any sports you'd like to get into? I like going swimming every now and then at my local pool and playing squash. You said you used to dance...could you get back into this?
Are you part of any parents clubs that meet and socialise while the kids play?
Could you volunteer at weekends or whenever your partner is home? Lots of places want Saturday work. I work at a retreat for kids with special needs at weekends.
Could you start a mini business making/selling things on Ebay or Etsy? It could be sewing, knitting, soap making, jewellery making etc. Not everyone's cup of tea but it keeps you busy and can be done with the kids around.
I'd definitely try the online courses again. It takes dedication but you can do it and it's so important to keep your brain active. Some courses are less intensive.

What do you have/want in terms of a career?

I know how it is, I've been in that hole for years before. You'll find a way out!

I have a degree in econonics, was working in event management before i got pregnant. Am also pregnant again so i cant really go out job hunting for a while :/. I was thinking of some kind of volunteering that required planning/organisation but maybe i just need to look harder - ive only just moved here 2 weeks ago from Ireland.

Parents groups, i will try. I did them at home but just haven't had the chance with moving, schools starting etc. I am quite outgoing within my own group of people but i am painfully shy when it comes to new people and i think that people don't get me or like I'm almost childlike compared to these grown up women, which is completely ridiculous i know :/

Where are you? I am just south of Reading x

ETA: i am rubbish with crafts. Really really bad. I have no patience for crafts. I just enjoy others crafts! I do love to cook & bake but i didn't get.into the course i wanted. I practise at home but i guess i wanted the going out and doing it aspect of a physical course.

 

[beth_terri]

This was me for YEARS and then I woke up one morning about a year ago and decided to do something about it.

I started small, I set up a blog which got me into the online community and now it means I get invited to different blogger events and to meet with other bloggers.

Then I started a theatrical make up course. I had already been a make up artist in the past so it was a new direction on something I loved. But it's also not academic which means it only take up the 3 hours a week, I don't have to come home and study too.

I then took up swing dancing, which is one night a week. So I feel like I have a hectic life but I don't do much. Especially as I can take Niamh to a lot of the promotional events I go to.

I'd love to do theatrical make-up. But I don't have a beauty therapy level 3 so no where will let me. X

 

[Abigailly]

This was me for YEARS and then I woke up one morning about a year ago and decided to do something about it.

I started small, I set up a blog which got me into the online community and now it means I get invited to different blogger events and to meet with other bloggers.

Then I started a theatrical make up course. I had already been a make up artist in the past so it was a new direction on something I loved. But it's also not academic which means it only take up the 3 hours a week, I don't have to come home and study too.

I then took up swing dancing, which is one night a week. So I feel like I have a hectic life but I don't do much. Especially as I can take Niamh to a lot of the promotional events I go to.

I'd love to do theatrical make-up. But I don't have a beauty therapy level 3 so no where will let me. X

Mine was only a short course at one of the local colleges, but it was enough to build on what I knew already. Do you have any previous make up experience?

 

[Abigailly]

Meet me for a coffee I'm in Berks

Are evening classes an option for you? (languages, crafts, book club etc)
Are there any sports you'd like to get into? I like going swimming every now and then at my local pool and playing squash. You said you used to dance...could you get back into this?
Are you part of any parents clubs that meet and socialise while the kids play?
Could you volunteer at weekends or whenever your partner is home? Lots of places want Saturday work. I work at a retreat for kids with special needs at weekends.
Could you start a mini business making/selling things on Ebay or Etsy? It could be sewing, knitting, soap making, jewellery making etc. Not everyone's cup of tea but it keeps you busy and can be done with the kids around.
I'd definitely try the online courses again. It takes dedication but you can do it and it's so important to keep your brain active. Some courses are less intensive.

What do you have/want in terms of a career?

I know how it is, I've been in that hole for years before. You'll find a way out!

I have a degree in econonics, was working in event management before i got pregnant. Am also pregnant again so i cant really go out job hunting for a while :/. I was thinking of some kind of volunteering that required planning/organisation but maybe i just need to look harder - ive only just moved here 2 weeks ago from Ireland.

Parents groups, i will try. I did them at home but just haven't had the chance with moving, schools starting etc. I am quite outgoing within my own group of people but i am painfully shy when it comes to new people and i think that people don't get me or like I'm almost childlike compared to these grown up women, which is completely ridiculous i know :/

Where are you? I am just south of Reading x

Charities are crying out for people willing to volunteer on more that 'shop floor' kind of thing. Find a few charities that you're interested
in and e mail them, telling them what your back ground is and ask if they have anything you can help with. My neighbor volunteers for SSPCA organising the smaller charity events. She does most of it from home.

 

[jenny82]

This was me for YEARS and then I woke up one morning about a year ago and decided to do something about it.

I started small, I set up a blog which got me into the online community and now it means I get invited to different blogger events and to meet with other bloggers.

Then I started a theatrical make up course. I had already been a make up artist in the past so it was a new direction on something I loved. But it's also not academic which means it only take up the 3 hours a week, I don't have to come home and study too.

I then took up swing dancing, which is one night a week. So I feel like I have a hectic life but I don't do much. Especially as I can take Niamh to a lot of the promotional events I go to.

A theatrical makeup course sounds great! That would be something i would enjoy too

Blogging and other online stuff isnt for me really but i think i have just saturated myself from reading too many blogs over the years!

 

[jenny82]

Meet me for a coffee I'm in Berks

Are evening classes an option for you? (languages, crafts, book club etc)
Are there any sports you'd like to get into? I like going swimming every now and then at my local pool and playing squash. You said you used to dance...could you get back into this?
Are you part of any parents clubs that meet and socialise while the kids play?
Could you volunteer at weekends or whenever your partner is home? Lots of places want Saturday work. I work at a retreat for kids with special needs at weekends.
Could you start a mini business making/selling things on Ebay or Etsy? It could be sewing, knitting, soap making, jewellery making etc. Not everyone's cup of tea but it keeps you busy and can be done with the kids around.
I'd definitely try the online courses again. It takes dedication but you can do it and it's so important to keep your brain active. Some courses are less intensive.

What do you have/want in terms of a career?

I know how it is, I've been in that hole for years before. You'll find a way out!

I have a degree in econonics, was working in event management before i got pregnant. Am also pregnant again so i cant really go out job hunting for a while :/. I was thinking of some kind of volunteering that required planning/organisation but maybe i just need to look harder - ive only just moved here 2 weeks ago from Ireland.

Parents groups, i will try. I did them at home but just haven't had the chance with moving, schools starting etc. I am quite outgoing within my own group of people but i am painfully shy when it comes to new people and i think that people don't get me or like I'm almost childlike compared to these grown up women, which is completely ridiculous i know :/

Where are you? I am just south of Reading x

Charities are crying out for people willing to volunteer on more that 'shop floor' kind of thing. Find a few charities that you're interested
in and e mail them, telling them what your back ground is and ask if they have anything you can help with. My neighbor volunteers for SSPCA organising the smaller charity events. She does most of it from home.

Thanks, i think i will do that. I had gone to general volunteering sites and couldn't find anything totally suitable but stupidly, it never occurred to me to approach the charities i am interested in and offer my services. I used to work for a cancer charity so i am well used to the operational side of things.

 

[beth_terri]

This was me for YEARS and then I woke up one morning about a year ago and decided to do something about it.

I started small, I set up a blog which got me into the online community and now it means I get invited to different blogger events and to meet with other bloggers.

Then I started a theatrical make up course. I had already been a make up artist in the past so it was a new direction on something I loved. But it's also not academic which means it only take up the 3 hours a week, I don't have to come home and study too.

I then took up swing dancing, which is one night a week. So I feel like I have a hectic life but I don't do much. Especially as I can take Niamh to a lot of the promotional events I go to.

I'd love to do theatrical make-up. But I don't have a beauty therapy level 3 so no where will let me. X

Mine was only a short course at one of the local colleges, but it was enough to build on what I knew already. Do you have any previous make up experience?

Nope nothing like it x

 

[OmarsMum]

I was feeling the same, & as Omar started pre-school I was really feeling down.

I just started online NLP course, it's interesting, it was through groupon on offer. I'm really enjoying it, I will also do the NLP practitioner course once I'm done.

I also love anything thing that is related to nutrition, dieting & living a healthy lifestyle. I'm starting a course in nutrition coaching end of October. They will offer me support to start my own coaching business, website & marketing material once I'm done, it's a bit pricey but I think it is a good course.

I also started to go to back to gym after dropping Omar to school.

Last year I was feeling so lonely as I didn't have many friends with kids around, I joined a FB group for expats who are originally from my hometown, & I made amazing friends. xx