Help me Please!

[mummy_blues]

looking for a bit of advice here, posted on the ttc after loss as well -

what would you girls do????

so I had a d&c exactly 2 weeks ago, when for my second post-OP check-up yesterday. got great news from the doctor who did an internal scan.
my uterine lining is looking very good and fine, its building up (we saw a fine white line on the ultrasound). no infection, everything in place, cervix has healed. He expects (based on my US pics) that my next AF be here on the 14th of July, meaning I would ovulate 30th June, so in 7 days from now, same thing as my CBFM is telling me.

the hospital did a post-mortem kinda check on the pregnancy tissue and found no abnormality nor causes of the miscarriage, so no molar pregnancy and the mmc was practically a matter of chance and bad luck.

"theoretically" he says I can get pregnant right away again in 7 days, my ovaries have "enlarged" a bit, meaning egg is going to be matured soon.
BUT - he said statistically, the risk of another MC is slightly higher if I got pregnant right away again than if I were to wait until August (good Lord, I have no idea how i can wait that long!).
He neither stopped advised me to try nor to prevent. He just gave me the pros and cons and left the decision to me, which i have to make in 7 days!

so girls, what would you do? Those who got pregnant right away without an AF, honestly, did you all have problems or miscarried again due to the fact that you should have waited?

Please, give me anything, would you or would you not wait?
thanks.

 

[blondee]

Hiya mummy_blues,

I'm so sorry for your loss. I too had an MMC and know how awful you must be feeling right now.

I waited until after AF to try as i hated the idea that my risk would be increased, i just could not face a second and in such close succession. With hindsight, it also took my body months to start settling down as my periods were so odd for ages. I also think it did me good to allow myself to grieve. You will always feel the pain but you will learn how to live with it.

Also, my surgeon told me to wait 6 weeks to allow my body to bounce back and i thought it best to take the advice.


But we are all different - i know some ladies on here went straight for it. It is a personal choice. But, please try not to put too much pressure on yourself (impossible, eh?) as a BFN after an MC is pretty heartbreaking.

Have you talked to your OH about this? I think you should try to reach a decision you are both comfortable with.

I wish you all the luck in the world and that you get a BFP soon and have a very healthy and happy pregnancy.

X

 

[julie_h]

hiya hun..

im not to experienced on the medical side of things but i know all to well how strong the feeling to need to try again right away is, i had a mmc my self and looked up online about what would happen if i was to fall pregnant againwith out af and i read ALOT of sucess strories from women who went on to have perfectly healthy pregnancy getting pregnant after mc and with have an af.
me and my partner tried again right away but it has taken us until now to comcieve again....i say if you feel pysically and emotionally ready to try again then go for it..for me it was a help to heal from my loss.

best of luck hunni and lots of sticky baby dust your way xxx

 

[mrsjo]

I waited until my first real period after the miscarriage. It took us 3 months to conceive again and even though I am not sure if this pregnancy is viable (long story) I wouldn't change our timing. You have to do what you think is right for you and your partner. Do you think you are emotionally and physically read for the strain of TTC and the symptoms of pregnancy so soon? Only you can answer this question.

 

[mummy_blues]

hi mrsjo, i am sorry but i hope things will be better for you and your husband soon.
I've just talked to DH last night, and family, and in consideration of how early my loss was (6+6), my uterus barely grew and how I've healed physically and emotionally (i had the feeling that what i had was just some cells cause it never had a form nor a brain nor did the heart beat for the last 2 weeks before I had the D&C), we decided not to prevent nor to try this month until my AF on 14th july (based on my u/S).
I did not have much pregnancy symptoms with that pregnancy cause it ended very early.
if my body and mind is ready for it and its God's will, then I am ready to accept what is given to me. But if my body and mind is not ready for it, then I won't get pregnant and its off to next try. either way, we won't put too much stress in it.
thanks for your replies girls and good luck to all of you.