Hi everyone, I'm in a bit of a situation and could really do with some help as I'm not sure what I can do anymore. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 7 months and love eachother very much but the past week has been very tough on both of us. I am 24 and she is 21. Last week she started feeling sick and had a few stomach pains and got over heated once when she was moving stuff around. Initially she thought it was a stomach bug as her symptoms seemed to point to that but her mother thought she should do a pregnancy test just to be cautious as her mother thought she might be. She is currently on desogestrel (cerazette) and has been since november 2010. It has stopped her periods completely since taking it the same as microgynon did earlier last year so I'm thinking it must be working if it's doing that? Anyway, the last time we had sex was roughly 13 days ago now but we have had sex last november and december aswell while she's been on this pill. She did the clear blue digital test last friday and it shown a negative result. The doctor said it's either a stomach bug or it might well be the desogestrel causing the problems/symptoms. The problem lies in the fact that I am not ready to be a father at the moment, I am unemployed, I have depression, anxiety and obsessive compulsive disorder. The main problem is that my girlfriend told me that she's always felt her place in life is to be a mother and that she's been having these motherly instincts for a few months now but this pregnancy scare has seemed to have set her down a depressive path. A few nights ago we sat down and put the pros and cons of having a baby now instead of waiting until we're both in the same place. I was putting things like 'stability' 'financial stability' 'living together first' 'our mental health' (she is on citalopram for depression) and everything I wrote she would write next to them reasons that deem my points void in her eyes. For instance, I put 'life experiences' and next to that she put 'this would be a life experience'. Gradually over the past week after that pregnancy test, she has gotten worse and she's saying to me that she doesn't know what to do anymore and can't shake these feelings and she knows that it's hurting me. I feel like I can't do anything to help her in any way and in a way some of her thinking seems irrational which makes me think that these are not just motherly instincts kicking in but some deep-seated thing in her mind or possibly something from her childhood, I do not know anymore. I don't want to end it with her and she doesn't want to end it with me. Sometimes it feels like all she wants to do is be a mother and nothing else matters. I know it's hard for her but I'm just trying to look at this as sensibly and logically as I can, and the way I feel is that right now is not the right time for us to be bringing a child into this world. I thought that maybe a counsellor might be able to help or going to speak to someone professional but I know she would not go or would not talk to them about this. I love her but I feel useless that I can't help her. I thought that maybe someone on here might be able to offer some advice on what I/we can do or offer some sort of guidance because I'm not sure what to do anymore. She's getting worse by the day and these feelings are hurting her more and more and she's told me she doesn't know what to do about them. Any help will be greatly appreciated, thankyou in advance. Sorry for the long post.