help please fob making me so down

[dawnmichelle]

hello all alot is bothering me about fob he kind of seems obsessed with lo by things he says and does or is it normal for fob's to seem like this, he sees him twice a week, hes not on the bc, do i have the right to cut it down to once a week or fortnight? i cant cope with it all

 

[AbbynChloe]

What do you mean obsessed?? like beyond natural care and concern??

I don't really know what to say, but i wouldnt cut down the time you LO has come to expect and possibly enjoy unless you think LO is at danger of being harmed??

Hope this helps?? xxx

 

[dawnmichelle]

hiya its hard to explain really but he seems to want dylan to do things really quick like sit up,crawl, walk n stuff he keeps on about it and is saying hes gonna get a new pram to get him to sit up, but he does sit up in my pram, he has a one year old cousin and keeps on about what shes got and what she does like dylan has to have and do the same, he gave him ice cream(i told him not to) and casserole, he wants to give him baby juice but i said no, he knows im bf but keeps on saying do i use a bottle which dylan has never had a bottle, when he sees him he talks to me like im stupid and i dont know things about dylan and babies (i have a 9 year old daughter too) he makes me feel so worthless xxx

 

[Ceejay123]

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[xSophieBx]

I can understand why that is totally unbearable.. Have u tried sitting and talking to him about it? All babies develop at different rates... so he shouldn't be comparing him to others. How long have u had this contact arrangement? And is it supervised at ur house? I don't think u'd be able to cut it down now if your son is used to this routine, however, if its at urs and his getting u down, have u thought about letting him have him a couple of hours away from ur home? xx

 

[dawnmichelle]

hiya yea i told him how it makes me feel but he has seemed to just ignore it and carry on, yea it started off supervised at mine for about 5ish months, and the last month or so he started taking dylan out for 2 hours but hes always late bringing him back, and his mum has started asking if she can take dylan out on her own now, would it be fair to say to them that for the time being id prefer he saw fob's family at the same time fob has him?

he sees him on mondays and fridays, he comes to mine hangs around asking for cups of tea and saying all this stuff, i would rather him arrive on time and take lo straight away and then bring him back on time, does that seem fair?? xxxx

 

[Rhio92]

I understand completely about him bringing LO back late... You have the right to expect him to return LO home on time! It isn't on for him to keep beinh late x