Help please?

[reiller]

Hi Girls,


I love my OH loads we've been together for 4 years nearly 5 and we're due our LO in Dec -not planned but happy ayways.
We moved in together and are getting on really well to everyone's suprise ... He does everything for me cleans cooks, and he just very loving in general hugs n kisses .. Says I love you all the time.
However...

He has been trying to sort things out with a new business and until recently he had no internet access to get onto his emal so he asked me to check and respond to them when I was in work... I was doing this no hassles until recently when he got back internet...

I still know his password and although I trust him the nosey in me checked it again last week 9 i know i know im terrible)
There was a message from his Ex (they went out when he was younger he broke up with her when he found out she lied about her age he was 17 she was 14)

He has als maintained she was his first love but obvisously he doenst love her anymore...


Anyhu her email was basically


"o i heard your gonna be a daddy . You'll be a great Daddy your so kind etc etc bla bla bla...HOw're things with you ? tell dayna I said hello(never met the girl)

I dont know what he wrote back because its was a Facebook message...


So I checked again today ( I know im a freak)


and he obvisouly wrote back and she had responded with

"oh god so close now well i wish u the best of luck with everything hope u dayna n the baby r very happy..
yea all is good with me adam
lucie started school last week so that was mad i dnt no were them 5 years have gone...(lucie her little one she had with her next fella after my boo))


Now I dunno if it's my hormones or what I know he still has and als will have a ssoft spot for her and he's nice he wont ignore emails but I dunno what to do is it my hormones driving me crazy???
What do I do i obviulsy canot say anything to him

 

[gemabee]

personally i dont think there's anythin at all wrong with the messages!!
they are all above bored... she's aware of his status... there's no flirting WHATSOEVER!
i am still friends with a lot of my exes... most of them infact... hormones hun.
xx

 

[reiller]

personally i dont think there's anythin at all wrong with the messages!!
they are all above bored... she's aware of his status... there's no flirting WHATSOEVER!
i am still friends with a lot of my exes... most of them infact... hormones hun.
xx

Yeah im friends with all my exes too only problem is if one of them mails me I tell him about it straight away and he wants to know what they have said etc...But he never mentions her emailing him?

 

[irishqueen]

You do nothing ... If he knows you are checking his emails then you are implying you dont trust him and most men hate to think this. There is no subterfuge or flirting. Concentrate on being happy ... other things will come and test your relationship ... this is nothing to worry about honey ..I agree with gemmabee ... hormones

 

[reiller]

You do nothing ... If he knows you are checking his emails then you are implying you dont trust him and most men hate to think this. There is no subterfuge or flirting. Concentrate on being happy ... other things will come and test your relationship ... this is nothing to worry about honey ..I agree with gemmabee ... hormones

O i know im over reacting and I had a frek out at him las tnight for putting his clothes beside the wash basket and not in... Ive never been hormonal or emotional... Just with her mailing him i have all these weird thoughts of him and her running off together ..... Im going mad

 

[irishqueen]

Aww pet ... calm down ... remember soon a little person will steal his heart so make the most of your time on your own x

 

[Phinners]

Theres nothing going on in that message. I think you're more pissed that he didnt tell you immediately, whereas you would do? He probably doesnt see it as anything important to even bother mentioning. I bet he's forgotten about it anyway.

BUT I would exactly the same tbh, I would want to know wtf I dont know about this message - then I would give myself a reality check and remind myself actually I am utterly adored and worshipped and some bird who can't type/spell for shit is not a threat to that.

We've all been there..about a yr ago, my OH had gone to a rugby match with a chap from work and forgot his phone. I didnt actually notice it for ages but when I did I coudlnt stop myself having a look.

Background - my OH is very shy and very quiet and doesnt even so much as look let alone flirt/chat etc

I saw he had an email from a woman on his team asking if they were 'still going away at xmas.'

I went fuckign radge thinking he and her were going for an xmas shagfest.

I threw up, screamed etc....then said 'dont be daft, he wouldnt touch her, she's got a fucking beard ffs'..then I thought NO look the evidence is there, there is an email from her, it must be real.

When he got home I went completely beserk..he said I shoud have looked in the sent messages and I would see she wanted to know if the entire office was going to do an xmas w/e away or can she book annual leave. He's her boss and so would book A/L through him. He replied, 'no ones going anywhere, higher management havent arranged anything, too much work on, just submit leave request as normal. Kind regards Phinner's OH'

Did I look a twat or what!? Luckily he isnt the sort to go ape, he just rolled his eyes and said as I was his whole life and not to worry about looking.

 

[reiller]

Theres nothing going on in that message. I think you're more pissed that he didnt tell you immediately, whereas you would do? He probably doesnt see it as anything important to even bother mentioning. I bet he's forgotten about it anyway.

BUT I would exactly the same tbh, I would want to know wtf I dont know about this message - then I would give myself a reality check and remind myself actually I am utterly adored and worshipped and some bird who can't type/spell for shit is not a threat to that.

We've all been there..about a yr ago, my OH had gone to a rugby match with a chap from work and forgot his phone. I didnt actually notice it for ages but when I did I coudlnt stop myself having a look.

Background - my OH is very shy and very quiet and doesnt even so much as look let alone flirt/chat etc

I saw he had an email from a woman on his team asking if they were 'still going away at xmas.'

I went fuckign radge thinking he and her were going for an xmas shagfest.

I threw up, screamed etc....then said 'dont be daft, he wouldnt touch her, she's got a fucking beard ffs'..then I thought NO look the evidence is there, there is an email from her, it must be real.

When he got home I went completely beserk..he said I shoud have looked in the sent messages and I would see she wanted to know if the entire office was going to do an xmas w/e away or can she book annual leave. He's her boss and so would book A/L through him. He replied, 'no ones going anywhere, higher management havent arranged anything, too much work on, just submit leave request as normal. Kind regards Phinner's OH'

Did I look a twat or what!? Luckily he isnt the sort to go ape, he just rolled his eyes and said as I was his whole life and not to worry about looking.

I feel like such a twat....It was nice of your OH not to go mental mine would blow up if he thought I didnt trust him thing is I really really do... Just I feel like a bag of nerves lately what with getting massive and not being sexy naymore ugh...
I wouldnt even be so bad but we broke up for 4 months last year n he was "casually meeting" a girl and yesterday she put up a photo of them togeter as her profile pic...IM deleting Facebook it's driving me mental

 

[Phinners]

Theres nothing going on in that message. I think you're more pissed that he didnt tell you immediately, whereas you would do? He probably doesnt see it as anything important to even bother mentioning. I bet he's forgotten about it anyway.

BUT I would exactly the same tbh, I would want to know wtf I dont know about this message - then I would give myself a reality check and remind myself actually I am utterly adored and worshipped and some bird who can't type/spell for shit is not a threat to that.

We've all been there..about a yr ago, my OH had gone to a rugby match with a chap from work and forgot his phone. I didnt actually notice it for ages but when I did I coudlnt stop myself having a look.

Background - my OH is very shy and very quiet and doesnt even so much as look let alone flirt/chat etc

I saw he had an email from a woman on his team asking if they were 'still going away at xmas.'

I went fuckign radge thinking he and her were going for an xmas shagfest.

I threw up, screamed etc....then said 'dont be daft, he wouldnt touch her, she's got a fucking beard ffs'..then I thought NO look the evidence is there, there is an email from her, it must be real.

When he got home I went completely beserk..he said I shoud have looked in the sent messages and I would see she wanted to know if the entire office was going to do an xmas w/e away or can she book annual leave. He's her boss and so would book A/L through him. He replied, 'no ones going anywhere, higher management havent arranged anything, too much work on, just submit leave request as normal. Kind regards Phinner's OH'

Did I look a twat or what!? Luckily he isnt the sort to go ape, he just rolled his eyes and said as I was his whole life and not to worry about looking.

I feel like such a twat....It was nice of your OH not to go mental mine would blow up if he thought I didnt trust him thing is I really really do... Just I feel like a bag of nerves lately what with getting massive and not being sexy naymore ugh...
I wouldnt even be so bad but we broke up for 4 months last year n he was "casually meeting" a girl and yesterday she put up a photo of them togeter as her profile pic...IM deleting Facebook it's driving me mental

She put a pic up of them both? Oh no, that I would go fucking big radge at!! Does she know you can see her profile?? She might be trying to wind you up. I would defo have a chat with OH and say you think this is inappropriate behavior. calmly and non mental! I know how we can get lolol

I had secretly fretted about this woman at his workplace for so long, and one night i said about her to him, and he said, X is Asian, she's a very good engineer and work friend but I dont fancy Asian women, so no I wouldnt be going off with her.

Thats all I needed to hear. She is absolutely delightful though and always so welcoming to me if I go to the office etc...sigh. She cant win lol

I have to remember he is a top manager so of course the team will rally around him making him tea all frigging day, yes sir no sir, shall i suck corperate cock sir?

 

[reiller]

O i just h8 being hormonal

 

[Phinners]

It's difficult not to though isnt it? Once we get a bee in our bonnets, no amount of sensible logic will surface until we are spent!

 

[Mrschoochoo]

Its so nice to have a thread about a nice OH for a change he sounds lovley. Maybe he would not have replied at all but he is excited about becoming a daddy and wanted to brag At worst he was being polite!

 

[mixedmama]

Oh don't worry hun, pregnancy can turn even the most confident women into jealous and emotional psychos (in my case anyway lol). Those messages seem completely innocent, he probably didn't tell you because he didn't think anything of them. Don't worry hun, you've been together for ages and you're carrying his baby, you have NOTHING to worry about xx

 

[reiller]

Its so nice to have a thread about a nice OH for a change he sounds lovley. Maybe he would not have replied at all but he is excited about becoming a daddy and wanted to brag At worst he was being polite!

O i know youre prob spot on hun... he is lovely thou bless him

 

[Phinners]

Thats not a bad idea for a nice thread actually, we should tell happy stories of our OHs, theres so much bashing going on in various threads.