so i found out i was pregnant last week... and for me and my boyfriend we are excited (wasnt a planned pregnancy but we've been together 4 years and planned on getting married next year so it's not like i'm worried about being alone in this..)
but the first problem is my parents are SUPER conservative Catholics, always told me "no sex til marriage"...ect ect ect...
but the bigger problem: since we started dating my parents NEVER approved of my boyfriend, never liked him, didnt allow him at our house NOTHING....but the past month has been amazing because they not only let him into their house (until he got a new job and got back on his feet) they gave him a car for work (has to pay it off but they are giving him as long as he needs), furniture for his new place, food, clothes, ect. Lately they have been so good to him and us and have been FINALLY treating him like family! So we are both SO scared to tell them now that i'm pregnant......after everything, its like going 1 step forward and 3 steps back....I'm worried that once they find out they will go back to despising him for this and then we are back to square one... I'm 23 and he is 24 (so its not like we are helpless teenagers), I still live with my parents because i just finally got a real job with lifetime opportunities and benefits with 401K and profit sharing (the works!) ect (compared to part time/job to job rut i was in this past year..) and my boyfriend finally also got a "grown up" position at a up and coming company.. So we are JUST starting out our adult lives and getting our S*it together..but the problem is we really dont have much yet to show for it, we are trying to save for a house and start our lives together but now this happened and we honestly dont know what is going to happen after my parents know.
[edited]I know that eventually after the anger/yelling/disappointment ect is over they will still be happier i chose to keep the baby rather than the alternative, but at the same time i really dont know when the right time to tell them is after all they have done for me and my boyfriend this past month or so. to them it will just be a huge slap in the face, they're going to think we just "used" them for our benefit.
Me and my parents go to family counseling 2 times a month.. i have already informed my therapist about the pregnancy (just this morning still waiting on a response though) and i really dont know if its a good or bad idea to maybe tell them while we are in a session so there is someone there to "ref" the conversation for us (my parents and i have a history of BLOW OUT fights/arguments..nothing violent just strong words and yelling, hence the family counseling..) Our session is scheduled for tonight, but i really am not ready to say anything yet, maybe next appointment..
i just need some advice, i'm really happy and excited and ready to take on anything that comes my way with this baby, i've (almost) quit smoking (from a pack a day to maybe 1 or 2 per day...really really trying though), and caffeine and going to get my prenatal vitamins this afternoon.. i just cannot wait til i get this off my chest with my parents because i really want their help and advice.
suggestions!?
but the first problem is my parents are SUPER conservative Catholics, always told me "no sex til marriage"...ect ect ect...
but the bigger problem: since we started dating my parents NEVER approved of my boyfriend, never liked him, didnt allow him at our house NOTHING....but the past month has been amazing because they not only let him into their house (until he got a new job and got back on his feet) they gave him a car for work (has to pay it off but they are giving him as long as he needs), furniture for his new place, food, clothes, ect. Lately they have been so good to him and us and have been FINALLY treating him like family! So we are both SO scared to tell them now that i'm pregnant......after everything, its like going 1 step forward and 3 steps back....I'm worried that once they find out they will go back to despising him for this and then we are back to square one... I'm 23 and he is 24 (so its not like we are helpless teenagers), I still live with my parents because i just finally got a real job with lifetime opportunities and benefits with 401K and profit sharing (the works!) ect (compared to part time/job to job rut i was in this past year..) and my boyfriend finally also got a "grown up" position at a up and coming company.. So we are JUST starting out our adult lives and getting our S*it together..but the problem is we really dont have much yet to show for it, we are trying to save for a house and start our lives together but now this happened and we honestly dont know what is going to happen after my parents know.
[edited]I know that eventually after the anger/yelling/disappointment ect is over they will still be happier i chose to keep the baby rather than the alternative, but at the same time i really dont know when the right time to tell them is after all they have done for me and my boyfriend this past month or so. to them it will just be a huge slap in the face, they're going to think we just "used" them for our benefit.
Me and my parents go to family counseling 2 times a month.. i have already informed my therapist about the pregnancy (just this morning still waiting on a response though) and i really dont know if its a good or bad idea to maybe tell them while we are in a session so there is someone there to "ref" the conversation for us (my parents and i have a history of BLOW OUT fights/arguments..nothing violent just strong words and yelling, hence the family counseling..) Our session is scheduled for tonight, but i really am not ready to say anything yet, maybe next appointment..
i just need some advice, i'm really happy and excited and ready to take on anything that comes my way with this baby, i've (almost) quit smoking (from a pack a day to maybe 1 or 2 per day...really really trying though), and caffeine and going to get my prenatal vitamins this afternoon.. i just cannot wait til i get this off my chest with my parents because i really want their help and advice.
suggestions!?