craftychick
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Hello all,
This is my first post, and I'm really hoping someone can help me out. My husband and I have been married for 6 1/2 years, and we currently have no children. My first and only pregnancy was 4 1/2 years ago, and I miscarried at 12 weeks. It took me awhile to come to terms with it, the only thing getting me through was knowing the Dr. said it was nothing I did, and to keep trying and it should happen. The last year and a half has been quite frustrating, as we've been trying HARD to get pregnant (before was kind of off & on trying), with no luck. I've always been a LITTLE bitter towards pregnant women since the miscarriage, but it's something I could keep to myself and eventually get over.... until recently. My older brother got married recently and he and his new wife are pregnant after 2 months of trying. I'm having a REALLY hard time with it. I'm SO happy for them and I know they'll make excellent parents, but I just can't stop myself from having these disgusting hateful feelings. And THEN I feel even worse because that makes me a pretty terrible person for feeling that way. My parents and my brother and his wife are sensitive when talking about the pregnancy around me, because they know it can't be easy, but now I just feel like there's this huge elephant in the room that nobody wants to talk about. I soooooo badly want to get rid of my negative feelings, but I just can't shake them. I want to talk to the wife and just let her know exactly how I'm feeling, but I also don't want her to feel any guilt about anything... I'm just so torn on what to do. I just saw them the other day, and she's starting to get a "bump," and I felt the anger, jealousy, and envy almost start all over again..... I really REALLY would like some advice on this, PLEASE SOMEONE, TELL ME WHAT I SHOULD DO! Will these feelings eventually go away? Should I talk to my brother & his wife about it? If so, what should/shouldn't I say?? Should I talk to a therapist?? HELP!!!!!!!!!!
This is my first post, and I'm really hoping someone can help me out. My husband and I have been married for 6 1/2 years, and we currently have no children. My first and only pregnancy was 4 1/2 years ago, and I miscarried at 12 weeks. It took me awhile to come to terms with it, the only thing getting me through was knowing the Dr. said it was nothing I did, and to keep trying and it should happen. The last year and a half has been quite frustrating, as we've been trying HARD to get pregnant (before was kind of off & on trying), with no luck. I've always been a LITTLE bitter towards pregnant women since the miscarriage, but it's something I could keep to myself and eventually get over.... until recently. My older brother got married recently and he and his new wife are pregnant after 2 months of trying. I'm having a REALLY hard time with it. I'm SO happy for them and I know they'll make excellent parents, but I just can't stop myself from having these disgusting hateful feelings. And THEN I feel even worse because that makes me a pretty terrible person for feeling that way. My parents and my brother and his wife are sensitive when talking about the pregnancy around me, because they know it can't be easy, but now I just feel like there's this huge elephant in the room that nobody wants to talk about. I soooooo badly want to get rid of my negative feelings, but I just can't shake them. I want to talk to the wife and just let her know exactly how I'm feeling, but I also don't want her to feel any guilt about anything... I'm just so torn on what to do. I just saw them the other day, and she's starting to get a "bump," and I felt the anger, jealousy, and envy almost start all over again..... I really REALLY would like some advice on this, PLEASE SOMEONE, TELL ME WHAT I SHOULD DO! Will these feelings eventually go away? Should I talk to my brother & his wife about it? If so, what should/shouldn't I say?? Should I talk to a therapist?? HELP!!!!!!!!!!
