Im glad i read this post, its really made me think about the birth dertificate more, Your ex sounds just like mine, he says he wants to come down and discuss things but doesnt turn up, yet he expects everything to go his way. Your very brave letting him be at the birth, i couldnt do that with my ex, he would only stress me out more, last night he called me a lying little c**t, and a vile creature, yet he wants us to get along? and he was the one who cheated, so how am i the liar? lol
Your parents sound good though, mine are also helpfull, though i feel like they still want me to take him bak, but i guess they dont no the whole story, so its harder for them.
Have you made a decision about the birth certificate yet? Im thinking i wont be, also, silly question... but does anyone no if you have to pay to make a will? i have no idea, you dont generally think about wills and things when your 21 lol
hey, glad you found it helpfull.
I am not letting him be at the birth anymore, or sign the cert. He had 3 chances to meet and resolve his previous actions/words/name calling and threatening behaviour, yet he didnt turn up. STILL not heard from him since a week ago on sat just past when we arranged we would meet a week ago today, not a word. so F him. He can have a realtionship with her when shes older, and i wont tell her what i think of him she can decide herself. And he can pay to come up here and get a hotel and visit etc if he wants, but not much mroe i can do. im not offering anymore and im not putting much trust in him ever again.
Yeah im only 23 and i had no idea i would need to make a will, but i AM def going to make a living one. My dad works abroad but hes home in a few weeks and im gonna ask him if he can take me to a solicitors to make a living will. I dont know if i have to make it once shes born or if i can make it now, maybe its better to make one once shes born, I think there would be an initial fee.. the solicitor cost or wtv, but i think thats it? i think WE keep it dont we?? im not sure im gonna ask my dad.
Ive moved into my mums now till about Feb when im looking to move out ( purely cos i have no money for rent and HB only coveres full amount once baby is here ) so i thought once shes 2 months will be in a routine and easier than any earlier. so thats fine, and instead of paying rent ive to make sure the house is not a tip, clean and tidy and generally help my mum. And when shes at work couple times a week ill cook dinner for her/ her and my dad / me my sister. so she can relax a bit. I think thats fair enough ( i would probably of done that ANYWAY ) as im 23 and living rent and bill free. And ive just gotta make sure i dont overtake her house with baby things. ( but tbh once the baby is here i dont think she will care if theres babystuff around ).
wow this post is long. But yeah, The FOB isnt going on the birth cert, which i wanna get my parents to take me to reg her birth on the way home from the hospital so i can apply to CSA soon as possible. ( you need a number from the cert to apply to csa ), and because im on benefits and single parent the jobcentre involve csa anyways, so he cant get mad cos they will take his money. ! even if i only see 20 quid while im on benefits, I would rather his money goes back into the gov till i can work and will get the full 15%, because its not fair he gets to swan around doing what he wants, why should the gov pay and help when he SHOULD be, so the rest id rather went back into gov. which it will till i work. If he decides to deny parentage (which is something he has never disputed with me this whole time) then he will have to pay for the DNA test,if he refuses they will assume he is the dad.
hope that helps xx