Help?

[darkangel]

Hello Everyone, I'm new here and have a bit of a dilemma!
Well, im 28 weeks pregnant, and completly over the moon, i have a wonderful boyfriend and will be getting a lovely house soon.
Only thing is, im not 100% this baby is my boyfriends!
He knows this too and we have just been brushing it aside for so long now and its beginning to really get to me.
What happened was, me and my bf had a big fight and i ended up (stupidly!) sleeping with this guy. Now we did use a condom but it split! And i didnt think anything of it, until i got preg! I know i sound really irresponsible but if you could not judge me on this and just try and help.
Anyway me and my bf had been TTC for a while before and after this so i'm really not sure whos it is! My parents think its his and would be devestated if i told them there was a chance it wasnt!
What do i do? My bf said even if it isnt his he still wants it as his child! But what if it doesnt look like him and everyone can tell!! Do you think i should tell the other guy? I know he wouldnt care and to be honest as horrible as this sounds if i dont have to tell him i dont want to because i dont want him in my life, i havnt spoken 2 him for ages and just wish that me and my bf could get on with it without this worry. I know its my fault and i completly regret it!
Help

 

[leeanne]

I hope for your sake that it is your boyfriend's as it sure would make everything easier. Sounds like you have a good guy to even suggest taking the baby as his even if it isn't.

What I would seriously suggest is that you have a DNA test done after your baby is born and then perhaps you can make a decision as to what to do after. If it's your boyfriend's then fabulous, if it's not then you'd have to seriously consider whether to tell the other guy or not.

Best wishes.

 

[smileycelerys]

i agree with leeanne, dont tell the other guy until the babys born and a dna test has been done. other wise your just opening a bag of worms and it will cause friction between you and ur boyfriend.

good luck sweetie i hope its your boyfriends! hugs xoxoxox

 

[nikky0907]

Yeah,I agree with the girls,first do a DNA test and then tell the babies real father if he turns out to ne just that.
It's important for some health reasons for your child.Plus he has a right to know this,his reaction can't be predicted.

Good luck!

 

[Younglutonmum]

Yep agree with all the other girls here!! Dna all the way!!

As Nikky0907 touched upon, it's important to know health wise aswell!!

Hope you get the result you want & just try & enjoy your pregnancy

 

[Connorsmom612]

Do you know the date of conception? Do you remember the date that you slept with the other guy? You may be able to figured it out if you know this information.

If not, I would say that you need a DNA test! I also think that your boyfriend sounds like a great man!

Good luck with everything!

 

[xarlenex]

Yeah, DNA test after the baby is born. Your boyfriend sounds great Good Luck! x

 

[nessajane]

Try to work out the dates and maybe that will tell you whose the father?

 

[biteable]

I hope its your b/fs and what a decent bloke to say he will stand by you anyway,good luck hope you find the answer you want xx