hes got a new girfriend :(

[jaytee146]

 

[tiasmummy]

My husband has a new girlfriend! For the last month. He's still very much husband on paper, but other than that, that ship has SAILED. Oh, he's being a rotten shit, too. I've been trying to work out a parenting plan with him because he's moved and we are long distance, but he just wants me to leave him alone, says he wishes it never happened(oh, and he wants a paternity test, that's his newest thing). Of course he does, how dare I make waves for him by talking about our baby?

But honey, I will tell you that gave me ALL the push in the world to get over him. I can't really say I was too 'in him' to begin with after he treated me the way that he did and left, but to see that this guy is...Still married to a pregnant woman, refuses to talk about his unborn son, and is galvanting around as though this never happened...I feel sorry for the new woman. She really landed herself an A-class prize, eh?

And that's how you need to look at it, hun. Don't get me wrong - I wanted nothing more than to take this little guy home to his mom and dad. When I'm at my appointments, I have to hide in the bathroom and wipe my tears, freshen my face because seeing these daddies pains me something terrible. I take my mom with me to ultrasounds. My office has my marital status as married of course and when we talked about screenings, US and such they'll say "That's a decision for you and your husband", or "Does your husband want to watch your scan, have him come in" And my heart breaks a little.

And yes, I get jealous. These couples doing nude maternity shoots and I think to myself "I would just love a kind word...Nevermind laying naked in front of the frickin fireplace."

I know it hurts, and you have every right to feel that pain, to grieve it, both for your lost relationship and every ideal us ladies built up in our heads on what it would be like, SHOULD have been like. Reality has been coldly slapped down in front of us, but in NO WAY should these...boys...have the power to rob us of our joy for our LOs. They're the ones missing out. Never again can they recreate witnessing the development of this particular child.

oh hunni this story is just so awlful! just proves your not even secure when your married!! and people were saying to me 'this has happened to you because you rushed into a relationship too quick and got pregnant too quick' (which i did) BUT you and many others like you didn't and it STILL happened to you. it really depresses me.

 

[Ceejay123]

It's awful of people to blame you - Sometimes these things happen. for somebody to blame you is just unfair - So long as you're grown up, you deal with it and you bring up your child the best you can, then you're a wonderful person. The best thing anyone can do is raise a good man or woman. So screw them saying.. This is your fault, be proud of it. Yes, it's your fault that a beautiful little child is going to be born ! Be proud of it. ! x

 

[Calambria]

oh hunni this story is just so awlful! just proves your not even secure when your married!! and people were saying to me 'this has happened to you because you rushed into a relationship too quick and got pregnant too quick' (which i did) BUT you and many others like you didn't and it STILL happened to you. it really depresses me.

There were things with my husband that were off. He rushed me into the marriage as well as children(you wouldn't think that now), and I got so caught up I don't think I stopped to breathe and say what the hell is wrong with this picture...At least, not long enough to do anything about it. There were signs that he had some serious issues, ya know? Don't let it depress you. Half of it was poor decision making on my part when I married him. I didn't have this wonderful, secure life with him. Frankly he started making my life hell the moment the ring was on my finger.

Whatever you did doesn't matter because it's already done, love. I know I will learn from the mistake of my marriage and the sort of man I picked as a partner, and that's no one else's to deal with but me. I'll be damned before I let someone guilt me over my choices when they're done and over with. And you too! What more can we ask of ourselves other than to simply accept what was, what is, learn and move forward? Why make it rougher for ourselves?

We are the only ones who we can guarantee will treat us right. And so we shall

 

[Dezireey]

My husband has a new girlfriend! For the last month. He's still very much husband on paper, but other than that, that ship has SAILED. Oh, he's being a rotten shit, too. I've been trying to work out a parenting plan with him because he's moved and we are long distance, but he just wants me to leave him alone, says he wishes it never happened(oh, and he wants a paternity test, that's his newest thing). Of course he does, how dare I make waves for him by talking about our baby?

But honey, I will tell you that gave me ALL the push in the world to get over him. I can't really say I was too 'in him' to begin with after he treated me the way that he did and left, but to see that this guy is...Still married to a pregnant woman, refuses to talk about his unborn son, and is galvanting around as though this never happened...I feel sorry for the new woman. She really landed herself an A-class prize, eh?

And that's how you need to look at it, hun. Don't get me wrong - I wanted nothing more than to take this little guy home to his mom and dad. When I'm at my appointments, I have to hide in the bathroom and wipe my tears, freshen my face because seeing these daddies pains me something terrible. I take my mom with me to ultrasounds. My office has my marital status as married of course and when we talked about screenings, US and such they'll say "That's a decision for you and your husband", or "Does your husband want to watch your scan, have him come in" And my heart breaks a little.

And yes, I get jealous. These couples doing nude maternity shoots and I think to myself "I would just love a kind word...Nevermind laying naked in front of the frickin fireplace."

I know it hurts, and you have every right to feel that pain, to grieve it, both for your lost relationship and every ideal us ladies built up in our heads on what it would be like, SHOULD have been like. Reality has been coldly slapped down in front of us, but in NO WAY should these...boys...have the power to rob us of our joy for our LOs. They're the ones missing out. Never again can they recreate witnessing the development of this particular child.

oh hunni this story is just so awlful! just proves your not even secure when your married!! and people were saying to me 'this has happened to you because you rushed into a relationship too quick and got pregnant too quick' (which i did) BUT you and many others like you didn't and it STILL happened to you. it really depresses me.

I had a woman in work ask me loads of questions when I first got pregnant months ago about my FOB, in the end I snapped at her and said 'he's opted out, so can we drop the subject'. She looked at me like I was a wounded animal, patted me on the back and said ' oh I'm so, so sorry for you...I feel sorry for you, I really do...I don't know what I would do without my wonderful husband around, I love him dearly, he has been there for me through everything '............didnt have the heart to tell her that her 'wonderful husband' (who is also the company CEO) is currently having an affair with his P.A......oh and also, that the P.A told her close work colleague, who is also a friend of mine and rang me on maternity leave, that she is pregnant with his kid.

Yes, wonderful husband indeed. Not a fan of men at the moment, even though I gave birth to one!.He will be taught to treat women correctly and thats a fact!

 

[tiasmummy]

hahaha dezireey that story is just so funny (in a twisted way) nothing is as it seems i guess we may look at people on the outside as being happy/perfect but they usually arent! wow life sucks lemons!! xx

 

[Laura2919]

It does feel like someones punched you in the stomach. I heard a little rumour that FOB was seeing someone else, I thought he'd at least have the decency to tell me himself rather than me finding out through someone else so I asked if he was seeing someone to which he replied, no! three weeks later I was told he was seeing somebody. By this point things had seriously taken a bit of a turn and we were fighting more than ever so when I heard I went mental at him. We'd only been apart for three weeks and I thought he was a disrespectful twat but you know what? it only makes me realise why me and him shouldn't be together. I don't personally care for his relationship, he's clearly prioritised that over his children so let him be.

as annoying as the saying is, it's true. Time is a great healer. Believe me xx

 

[miasmum2012]

I know how you feel, my ex boyfriend left me when I was 4 months pregnant and 3 months later had another girlfriend pregnant then came back to me without telling me about this other girls pregnancy and now hes left me for her :/ (she rejected him though hahaha)

I wouldn't call that waste of a space a "man" but yeah men are gutless and horrible

You will get over him I didn't think I would at first but I did

 

[krissy1984]

Ah huni, I am so sorry

I know how you feel, my husband has a new girlfriend. Who I believe he cheated on me with. They announced it on facebook and then both proceeded to send me threatening and abusive text messages. Thing is hes completely changed since meeting her, and so the way I see it, is he's not the person I loved, hes a stranger.

It was hard at first but now I can honestly say I do not care about their relationship, he's already lying to me about being with her and I have that recorded One day she'll find out the truth and I'll be laughing when it happens.

To me these men are awful but the girls are just as bad. I mean who on earth would get with a man who is married and/or has a baby with them or a baby due. They can't have much self respect if they are willing to break up another relationship or family.

Never mind girls, Karma will one day get them and we will have our beautiful children. We can look at our children and see how they grow up and think 'I did that', with little or no help from FOB. I can see how my son is such a kind, happy little boy with little help from his dad for the past 7 months and know I am respnsible for that and that is an amazing feeling.

Chin up sweetie, It will get better, Stay strong

xx

 

[tiasmummy]

its horrible i just feel like maybe i was such a shit gf and now hes found someone better

 

[Dezireey]

its horrible i just feel like maybe i was such a shit gf and now hes found someone better

You must never think like that. You are the better, kinder and more loyal person than him, he was lucky to have someone like you and you know that.

It never, ever matters if a man loves a woman or not if she is pregnant or even whether he has found someone else within five minutes. He should just go ahead and do the honourable thing if he doesnt want her or the baby and support her as a friend through pregnancy and be there for her at the very least in that context. I think a lot of these FOB's are missing that point. Most women are strong and can handle being broken up with, hell most of us have been dumped in the past. What is so,so unfair and uncalled for is dumping us and a little child, its cruel and unneccessary and an amicable agreement could and should be made. When these guys just waltz off and leave a trail of tears and broken dreams behind them, they should pay the price. Sometimes I really, really wish a law would be passed that makes it bloody illegal to abandon your child in this manner and bugger off with another woman. grrrr

 

[Laura2919]

Never doubt yourself. it isn't your fault..

 

[resursval]

just found out today my baby father is in a new relationship (posted on facebook) i feel so shitty ive cried all day. im 3 weeks away from giving birth this was meant to be our special time with our new baby and its not

Be happy, now someone else can be with the asshole. As if you would of wanted him if he came back after what he has done!

 

[Dezireey]

just found out today my baby father is in a new relationship (posted on facebook) i feel so shitty ive cried all day. im 3 weeks away from giving birth this was meant to be our special time with our new baby and its not

Be happy, now someone else can be with the asshole. As if you would of wanted him if he came back after what he has done!

I think this should be a good mantra for all useless FOB's. I have a sneaky suspicion my FOB has started seeing someone but I stop myself from getting upset and just think ' who cares, she's welcome to him, she can be with the asshole now'. It's stupid to think that personalities like theirs can suddenly blossom into nice, caring human beings, they don't and won't....so they will continue to treat others in a similar manner.

 

[resursval]

just found out today my baby father is in a new relationship (posted on facebook) i feel so shitty ive cried all day. im 3 weeks away from giving birth this was meant to be our special time with our new baby and its not

Be happy, now someone else can be with the asshole. As if you would of wanted him if he came back after what he has done!

I think this should be a good mantra for all useless FOB's. I have a sneaky suspicion my FOB has started seeing someone but I stop myself from getting upset and just think ' who cares, she's welcome to him, she can be with the asshole now'. It's stupid to think that personalities like theirs can suddenly blossom into nice, caring human beings, they don't and won't....so they will continue to treat others in a similar manner.

I totally agree. The stripes don't go off the tiger!
Better to stay away rather than having your whole dignity shit on continously!