He's made it pretty clear...

[bumphenders]

the conversation you had with fob could have been exactly the same as the ones i have repeatedly with my husband and now my baby is 6 months old and i wish i'd ended things properly when i was still 12 weeks pregnant and he never bothered to turn up for my scan. i know it's so hard but you will be a great mum and don't make the same mistake i have of letting him walk in and out whenever he feels like it because each time he goes i feel even more stupid and even more upset about it.

you'll be a great mum and sometimes it's better to be alone than constantly second guessing what somebody else is - or isn't - going to do

I really am done with him now. Maybe one day he'll realise he's lost his little boy forever.

 

[louloubelle76]

what a complete tosser, makes me so angry, I was in tears last night think it was because i was tired too was just looking at Isabelle and thinking how can anyone not want to know her, he doesnt know ive had her early either.

big hugs your way x

 

[BadassMom]

Lets just hope he doesn't look like the sperm donor

I've thought about this too! I hope my son looks like me and not FOB. My best friend's daughter looks just like her Dad and I know it hurts my friend sometimes.

It sounds awful saying that, but I would pity my son if he looked like his dad
Ee how awful do I sound :/ ?

Not awful at all! Because I know even if our boys look like FOB's we would still love them just as much

 

[teal]

Lets just hope he doesn't look like the sperm donor

I've thought about this too! I hope my son looks like me and not FOB. My best friend's daughter looks just like her Dad and I know it hurts my friend sometimes.

It sounds awful saying that, but I would pity my son if he looked like his dad
Ee how awful do I sound :/ ?

Not awful at all! Because I know even if our boys look like FOB's we would still love them just as much

Just wanted to say ladies that my son looking like FOB was soemthing I on/off worried about while I was pregnant. I was worried that if my little boy looked like FOB I wouldn't be able to cope or it would upset me all the time.

It's really true that you won't care what your little boy looks like My son mostly looks like me but in some pictures I can see FOB but it honestly doesn't bother me. FOB might have helped create my wonderful little boy but my son is nothing like that abusive, waste of space.

Sending you massive hugs xx

 

[Jinty]

If hes not gonna be in it 100% its probably better. I wish my ex would do the same i know it sounds horrible but its just a pain in the ass with him in the picture. My ex pretends he cares when he just spends all his weekends with his gf (hes in the army).
One time i went to pick my daughter up and he was upstairs with his gf while his step dad was babysitting downstairs. Horrifying.

You will find it very hard but it will make you so much stronger. You may even find someone who will be a better dad for your son. In time your ex will realize how much he has missed out on your little miracle and it will be too late. He'll be kicking himself.

Stay strong x

 

[MumToBe2012]

You shouldn't feel guilty. Unfortunately some of us are unlucky enough to meet the low life men out there, but look at the positive: you'll be more unlikely to be with someone like that again. He should be lucky that you're making the effort to get him involved, if he wants to miss out on the life of his son then it's his loss. In years to come he'll regret not being there, and he'll only have himself to blame. Just don't feel guilty, you're going to have a child that loves YOU and comes to YOU for what he needs. You're the one he's going to love unconditionally.

PM me if you want to chat.