hes trying to take away my baby...Advice needed? :(

[Kris0309]

I need help. Im 20 yrs old the father of my unborn baby is going to take me to court to try to get custody of my baby. He is unfit he didnt even know a baby uses more then 2 diapers a day and he works 40 hours a week and he has no health insurance or anythign and just wants the baby cause he says i always blame him for everything and i dont want to be with him. he lives with his dad and his dad works all day and he thinks he can just have ppl watch the baby every day. meanwhile i am staying home for the baby. Have support of my family have insurance for me and the baby . im not denying him rights to see the baby i jus dont want him to be alone. he will drink and drive. he has done it on so many occasions and he continues to harass his ex gf who he stalks her all the time in which the cops were informed. i know he wouldnt get sole custody even tho he thinks he will but i cant let him get unsupervised visits. i dont know what to do or what are my chances on getting full custody
please help

 

[FEDup1981]

he doesnt stand a chance of getting ur baby full time! aslong as ur a fit mother, and there are no genuine concerns then no court would take a new born baby away from its mother. Relax, he'll have forgot about it by the time baby is here xxx

 

[mrs.beanz]

Sorry you are having to go through this. Custody issues are never a fun thing. Been there, done that. My only advice is document everything...everything he does, everything he says, keep all messages, emails, and dont give him anything he can use against you.

 

[Suz]

Sounds like he is just trying to get your all stired up. I would try to relax and if he continues pressing the issue... I would seek legal advice. But as the others have said... No judge in their right mind would take your baby from you if your a fit mother in a stable invironment. Also... if the ex girlfriend has called the police about his stalking issues... that will be on record. So there will be proof he is a nut job.

 

[nikky0907]

You live in CT?
There's no way the court will grant him full custody of your child.Although they can grant him extended visitation rights which isn't a good thing judging by your description of him.
Get a lawyer and write down all the things that make him uncapable of taking care of a small baby.

 

[Kris0309]

yup I live in Connecticut. He has already called me this morning but I didnt pick up So Im just going to keep writting down everytime he calls. I got copy of the messages he sent his ex gf that he was outside her house and how she couldnt do nnothing about it. So im hoping the judge would see that. plus im on welfare cause I have no way for pay for the doctors bills. So the judge might go after him for that. He cared so much about the baby he should be payignfor the drs bills

 

[khartnett]

I.d sit down and make a
list of all the things like
that like the girls said but
as the others have said
the courts wouldn't even
entertain the idea they
will see its just points
scoring. X

 

[karenshaz]

Also when baby arrives don't let him do anything ever, that you don't want to carry on. I was advised this by my solicitor. So don't give him any unsupervised visits etc, be there all the time.

 

[teresarobbins]

Does he have recorded DUI's? If he does I don't think any judge in his RIGHT mind would let him have unsupervised visits.

 

[LeaArr]

He doesn't stand a chance. Courts usually favour the mother in perfect situations. This is far from a perfect situation for him.

 

[Pyrrhic]

No judge would give full custody of a baby to the father unless the mother was unfit. I know it's stressful, but in all honesty it sounds as if he is trying to wind you up. I would send him a recorded letter (keep a copy) saying that you are willing to allow visitations, but any further contact must be conducted through lawyers and he is to stop ringing your house. Then, if he does ring record it and use it as proof that he was ignoring your letters. You sound like you're doing everything right, try not to worry.