I found this great forum 6 weeks after my M/C when I was still feeling so sad and I am so glad I did...I'm not alone anymore.
Dannienewt - I'm in the same position (except I don't have any other kids) but I just had a miscarriage and now am in the midst of TTCing...want to get pregnant but petrified again that something might happen...and deeper worries about whether I'll be a good mom...miscarriages mess with your mind. Also for another question of yours I got my period 26 days after my M/C.
About the reason WHY this happened to us?
After my M/C I had a scan with a new OBGYN a week later to make sure everything was out of my uterus. He was so SYMPATHETIC and nice and spent a lot of time just talking about my feelings (amazing for a doctor!). After we had finished and he told me my uterus was fine he asked me again, "Is there anything else you want to know or talk about" and I said, "Why did this happen to me?"...his answer was quite philosophical and I didn't like it at first but the more I think about it, it really makes sense and I like it. He said,
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The reason you had a miscarriage is because that is your story...your name is ____________ and you had a miscarriage...this is your life...this is your story"
At first I thought it was a bit trite and didn't really comfort me but then I thought about it and it's true having a miscarriage is now part of my story...the life I have lived on this planet...it will now form what I will do and how I will act from now on in little and big ways...it is part of my story. I don't know if that helps you at all but I kind of liked it.