Hi im new and want some advice

[lilone]

Hi so I have been with my partner almost a year now and am completley in love with him (its not first love i think ive had 2 or 3 serious ones) but cut a long story short... I got pregnant when i was 16 i was really confused and had noone to talk to? i didnt think about the internet? i panicked my mum new and sed she wud support me but my bf at the time was all umming and ermming about it so one day i flipped and said fine il have an abortion dont talk to me anymore about it! so i did at 11 weeks! and i regret it so much it was the worst decision i have made in my life how could i do that? all these people trying to have babys i could have given him or her up for adoption (no-one ever mentioned adoption to me) . i read through all these and regret it even more ...i could have done it by myself?!! right!??! but anyway me and my partner want a baby together we would have supportive familys and we are staying together im 18 and hes 20 !i just want you lot to tyell me if you think im just replacing the one i gave up coz im worried thats why i feel like this but have wanted children since i was like 12 !?! it sounds wierd but im obsessed with babies i see them and cant help but smiel and smile at pregnant women too ? helpp??

 

[MummyJade]

Hi welcome 2 bnb, didnt want 2 read and run but not sure on what 2 say really,
sorry about your past and you didnt have anyone 2 tell you your options back then, glad your with someone who cares 4 you and you care 4. There are loads of lovely ladies in TTC that will offer you support and better advice,

good luck hope all works out 4 you
xx

 

[emmie]

Hey welcome
Only u know the answer to the question ... sorry to hear what you went through it cant have been easy good luck ttc
x

 

[mrscookie]

welcome to bnb, I think you should wait until you have been with your partner longer, although he feels like '' the one'' now, it could be that since you have had several other relationships where you have been in love, this one could go the same way as the others. Stick with him longer, and then make a decision.
xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[brewanneanan]

i know a friend who got pregnant at 16 and she misscarried within the first 3 months, she wasn't so keen to have the baby at first anyway...but after about a month or so later she got pregnant again, i have never asked her but i believe the pain she felt losing a baby made her think about how much she wants one.....i don't know if this relates very much but your story just reminded me of hers.....also she does happen to be a very good mum

 

[sophiecouldwe]

hello! welcome to BnB
sorry to hear bout ur past n the fact tht u had no1 2 tlk 2 about ur options muct have been very hard.

im also 18 and my boyf is 24. i was in a simular situation in feb. i fell preg and didnt want the baby but lost it and now i am TTC. i dont think i wud eva b considering having a baby if i hadnt fell preg b4. i did used to think the only reason i wanted to become pregnant again was because i wanted to replace the baby i lost but in a way i dont think there's anythin wrong wiv tht.
we can both neva replace the babies we lost but we clearly felt a lot of love for them and enjoyed the feeling it gave us. i dont no about u but it gave me a wake up call and told me tht this was the life for me!
simular to you i absolutly love babies! i always find my self smiling at babies and pregnant women but always have done for as long as i can remember. and even more so now because i long for that to be me!

hope everything goes well for you and if u need to chat im here