Hi im new to this part of bnb

[Lea05x]

Hello all

My story starts with OH and I being over the moon happy when I finally got my BFP on our 5th month of trying. This was then replaced with saddness when docs told me my HCG levels werent increasing as they should after I noticed I was spotting. At 6 weeks I was sent for a scan and told sac was empty. After going back and forth the hosp for further scans I finally decided enough was enough and booked in for a d&c. I had my d&c on the 27th August ( when I was roughly 12 weeks gone ). I was told the operation went well and they were pleased I didnt have any bleeding. When I came out of hosp I had light bleeding but nothing the next day.

Fast forward to 24th September and my period arrives. It starts off like a normal period but the next day ( yesterday ) I had really heavy bleeding. I ended up lying on the sofa all day. This morning the flow seemed to have calmed down. Then lunchtime today the bleeding stopped altogether.

This means my period only lasted 3 days-this is my shortest period ever!

Has anyone else experienced this?

Also how did you feel about trying again? I really want a baby but im really scared and cant go through another miscarriage as I found it heartbreaking.

Can anyone help me or relate?

 

[jessy1101]

Hey it really sucks that you are on this thread My first AF was exactly the same as yours! A bit less painfull but only lasted 3 days with 1 day heavy bleeding and after that it tampered off.

I had my mc on the 21st of august and i got my AF on the 19th of september so pretty much my normal 28 day cycle. The only wonky thing is that i took on O test out of curiosity yesterday (CD8) and got a pretty close positive. Same thing today so i think i might O before my normal 14 day. You should definetly check that out just in case so u wont miss it!

 

[Lea05x]

Hi....Thank you for the reply.

Firstly im sorry to hear you to have had a mc....

I have been in two minds whether to start doin OPKs again as part of me wants to relax and see what happens but another part of me wants to make sure im ovualting......it so confusing.

I want a baby more than anything but im so scared of miscarrying again. I have comfort ate so much this past month and have put on lots of weight. I am going on a diet and was thinking I may just relax TTC and concentrate on loosing some weight as I know this will also help me concieve better.

 

[Twinkie210]

So sorry about your loss, I remember seeing posts from you in the miscarriage support forum. I am scared of having another MC too, but nothing could keep me from trying again. I am currently trying to use OPKs and temping. I am probably getting too obsessive about TTC, but I can't help it.

 

[jessy1101]

Maybe the ideal thing you could do if ur really 2 minds in this is to not try but also not NOT try u know? Do a quick calculations about when ur O is and if u BD on those days good! If u dont also good!

If it's meant to be then it will happen! Besides ur not alone i'm terrified of getting pregnant again and mc. How can u not be u know? But i also know a ton of women that had a very successfull pregnancy after their first mc. I will not let my fear of a second mc dominate me want for a baby!

I'm strong and trust me ur strong too u just gotta try to put the fear out of ur mind and be positive. I'm here for u hunny

 

[Lea05x]

Thank you both so much for the positive and kind words. I agree I will roughly try and BD around Ovulation and see what happens. I read that you should wait 3-4 months before trying again to reduce this risks of another miscarriage but I really dont think I could do that. When I was at the hosp I was told by the docs there to wait one cycle.

 

[Twinkie210]

My doc said to wait one cycle to let myself heal from the D&C, then after that I would have no higher risk of MC than anyone else. I had a NP tell me to wait 3 cycles, but I think it was for emotional healing. We started TTC after once cycle and I have my FX'd that we get our BFP right away!

 

[jessy1101]

Since u had a D&C i know the waiting period is a bit longer cuz of your uterus lining that needs to come back to normal. I've always heard between 1 cycle to 3 cycles of waiting. You want to make sure that your body is ready to try and carry another lil bean u know?

I had a natural mc and pretty much got the o to start right away. I'm pretty sure tho that between then and my first AF i didnt ovulate so this is pretty much my first month of TTC i guess..

 

[KozmikKitten]

Hi there! I just wanted to let you know that I support your decision to KEEP TRYING! I had a m/c in August and this (Oct) will be my first month trying again. Time does help with the emotional pain. It still hurts but its getting better, and the women on here are really supportive and helpful! I am terrified of another m/c like a lot of us are, but I want a baby too! So we should all keep trying!

Good luck to you all!

 

[jessy1101]

Kozmik u need to join my PUPO club!! We're all due for O in october too and it's a thread to meet others that are ovulating at the same time and just have fun so we dont go crazy with the whole 2WW!