Hi, I'm new.

[xVAP]

Okay, so I thought maybe I should introduce myself.

My name is Vy, I'm 17 and I just found out I was pregnant on Tuesday when I did two tests at a friends house. So far the only people that know are me, a friend, my older brother and the father. The father just turned 18, and we arent together. We're just best friends. So far he's been pretty supportive and we've booked a doctors appointment for this Tuesday. We've decided to either tell my parents tomorrow evening or after the doctors appointment.

According to the date of my last period (September 19th), I'm about 8 weeks pregnant. However, that would mean I conceived around October 3rd, and I didnt have sex around then. I had sex October 14th - 18th. So according to that I'd be about 6 weeks. I'm hoping the doctor will be able to give me something more accurate?

What is likely to happen at my first doctors appointment? I know I probably wont have a dating scan, so will I have blood tests which will be able to give a more accurate date of how far along I am? (I'm in the UK if that makes any difference.)

Also, I dont 'feel' pregnant. I'm crying alot but idk if thats cause im scared/upset or because of hormones. And I'm tired but I think thats just cause the stress is making me exhausted. How soon do people start getting pregnancy symptoms?

 

[MummyMana]

Hey when I went for my initial docs appointment, I didn't have any tests done, they just made me am appointment with a midwife, so you might not have to be poked and prodded they date your pregnancy from the first day of your last period regardless of when you conceived so if you know when that was they'll use a little wheel thing to predict your due date and the tiredness is probably related, I remember right at the beginning of my pregnancy all I wanted to do was sleep :a congratulations on your pregnancy, hope it all goes well

 

[xVAP]

When do I have my first midwife appointment? And how regularly will I need to have them?

 

[xforuiholdonx]

You usually have an appointment once a month. My doctors office does bloods, a scan, and a pelvic exam at the first appointment.

 

[xforuiholdonx]

Congratulations by the way! :flower!:

 

[ClairAye]

First off congratulations! My name is Clair, I'm 18 but was 17 from roughly 10 weeks and when I gave birth and I have a 5 and a half month old called Jason

It's great FOB is being supportive My first midwife appointment was filling out my notes, weight and height check and bloods, I had symptoms from about 2 weeks so before I found out so I'm not much help there!

 

[lil lovey]

:wave: hi congrads and welcome to bnb...its wonderful to have FOB's support. At my app I had blood and urine test done,a scan,bp checked. With the whole symptoms thing it depends from person to person..because in my first tri I had tiredneSs and headache but then 2nd tri out of the blue I started having morning sickness(didn't last long though)...

 

[lil lovey]

I forgot to introduce myself..My name is Lovey I'm also 17 expecting my first

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

Congrats and welcome

Doctors tend to go by the first day of your last period for working out the EDD, until the scan when they will use that date. You'll have had your first appointment by now so you'll have got all the answers you need about that. You should be seen by a midwife around 10 weeks and will get a letter through about your date for your 12 week scan. You'll then get seen again by a midwife around 16 weeks. After that I'm not 100% as I can't think that far back to having my first I only get seen very rarely as I am on my third child now, so appointments are few and far between unless I need to be seen.

Hope all went well at the appointment today and telling your parents has gone/goes well.

 

[xVAP]

Thanks for all the support and advice. Its comforting to know what kind of thing to expect.
To Lor, I meant I have my doctors appointment on this Tuesday coming (the 20th.)

I told my parents today that I was pregnant. I had my brother and the father there to support me. My parents were not pleased to say the least. My mum just asked when I found out, if I planned to keep it and if I'd booked a doctors appointment yet. Then she said, "I'd say congratulations but I am NOT happy for you." and walked out. My dad just kind of did an Im-not-sure-what-to-say half smile before walking out. Neither of them have spoken to me since, but then again I've not made the effort with them. It upset me, but tbh that went better than I had expected. And hopefully it can only get better over time.

Although I'm only like 6 weeks pregnant. I dont feel pregnant at all. Like, I cant wrap my head around the idea of having a baby. I know its early on, but I'm starting to worry that I should already be 'bonding' with my baby. I dont feel like I love him/her. Am I supposed to love them straight away? Idk, I'm still kind of upset and disappointed. I dont wish it away or anything, it's just hard to adjust to the idea of having a baby. But that will go away over time and it wont prevent me from bonding with my baby, right?

 

[ClairAye]

They'll come around soon enough
My mum came around about 4-5 weeks after I told her, and my dad not until I was about 25-27 weeks

Also I didn't bond so early! I had only found out a couple of weeks ago, I had never seen or felt my baby (obviously lol) I loved him from my first scan but I think I only started bonding when I could feel him

 

[xVAP]

Thank you, Clair. It helps to hear you didn't bond straight away cause I've got time for it to all happen. The father kept stroking my tummy and referring to "our baby", and it started to get me a little excited. It's helping me start to realise what is actually happening.

 

[jrwifey18]

Hi and welcome
I'm Marie 39 weeks with a princess. My first appointment they gave me an ultrasound blood and urine tests and checked my blood pressure hope you have a healthy and happy 9 months

 

[bsd]

Congrats and welcome to bnb!! I'm Brittany, 20 and pregnant with a little boy

At my first appointment I went to I just talked to a nurse about family history and calculated my due date from last period. I made an appointment to meet with the doctor about 4 weeks later and that's when I got to find out more about my pregnancy. I wasn't quite sure about my last period either so they scheduled me a ultra sound to find out my exact date.. it was awesome and it definitely helped me bond with my baby more! It took me WEEKS to finally get used to the idea of having a baby it was so unreal for so long! I think it will be until he finally gets here.. but once you see/feel them and find out what it is you're having (if you chose to) that helps! I'm glad the FAB is being so supportive!! And don't worry about your parents they'll come around. My mom was crying the whole time and didn't say anything. When I finally asked her if she was okay she blubbered out a "NO!" and walked away. I was like okay.. way to handle that maturely! But now they're talking about getting a baby for chirstmas all excited! Try to get excited a baby is a wonderful thing!! They really are little miracles

 

[Mummy2B21]

Welcome hunny!

 

[alibaba24]

Hi, I just wanted to say that its completely normal not to feel pregnant you are still very early on I wouldnt worry that you havn't bonded with your baby yet once you still to feel him/her moving around It will become more real to you, and once your baby is born you will forget these worries and just love the little bundle to bits! try and relax and enjoy this amazing experience

 

[x__amour]

Welcome to BnB! I'm Shannon, 21, and I have a 2 year old named Victoria "Tori"!

 

[ClairAye]

Thank you, Clair. It helps to hear you didn't bond straight away cause I've got time for it to all happen. The father kept stroking my tummy and referring to "our baby", and it started to get me a little excited. It's helping me start to realise what is actually happening.

It's difficult to bond with something you've never seen/felt/heard really It took a long time for it to sink in too!

 

[JessicaM123]

Hiya, first off, Welcome I'm Jessica, im 18 and expecting my first.

Its perfectly normal to not feel like you bond with the baby. I resented the baby for the first 14/15 weeks?? It wasnt until just recently when i have been feeling him move that ive began to start feeling more attached.

Hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months! xxxx