Hi im Pam

[miel]

i think anyone you slept with deserve to know that you are pregnant...i am sorry ...you need to call the" guys " let them know the situation you are in...

you are 18 ! take responsibilities toward your action ...
good luck!

 

[Younglutonmum]

Hmmm, well not really too sure what to say

Is there a possibiltiy that the baby could be fathered by the 1st guy you slept with?? You need to work out your dates hun

You really do need to tell your mum asap. She can help you with any decisions you need to make. I'm sure she'd rather be told sooner rather than later

And to echo what someone else said - STD test!!! You really do need to get checked out. Sleeping with random blokes is leaving you open to all kinds, some damaging to your baby

 

[notalone]

Right ok alot to reply to:

1. I used condoms every time ive had sex.

2. Ive only had sex twice (if you count the other guy then its three)

3. I only have their email addresses, i have emailed them explaining the situation but haven't received one back.

4. Im 100% sure it was the threesome that got me pregnant.

5. I really like my boyfriend atm, im scared that if i tell him he will not want anything to do with me.

6. I do talk to the first guy.

7. I thought threesomes happened quite alot and were quite common.

 

[Suz]

Not really.... Not to many on here anyways. If your afraid your BF is going to dump you if he finds out your pregnant, what will happen if he finds out you hid it from him. Thats no way to have a relationship......

I guess, what are you hoping to have us help you with... You should tell your parents, you should tell your BF, you should tell the people you slept with and you should get tested, if you can get pregnant, you can get a STD.

 

[xarlenex]

Threesomes do happen quite often, but i dont think they happen with just anyone you dont really know. You really need a scan, to work out dates..so you have a rough idea of who it might be x

 

[Younglutonmum]

Right ok alot to reply to:

1. I used condoms every time ive had sex.

2. Ive only had sex twice (if you count the other guy then its three)

3. I only have their email addresses, i have emailed them explaining the situation but haven't received one back.

4. Im 100% sure it was the threesome that got me pregnant.

5. I really like my boyfriend atm, im scared that if i tell him he will not want anything to do with me.

6. I do talk to the first guy.

7. I thought threesomes happened quite alot and were quite common.

1. Ok you have used condoms every time yet you have still fallen pregnant so that means you may have caught an STD still. I'm not trying to scare you, just getting you to face facts

2. Twice is enough to fall pregnant

3. Ok these French lads don't really know you so the last thing they probably want to do is face up to the fact they may have got you pregnant. Harsh but true. At least you've told them of the situation though

4. How are you 100% sure? You said you weren't aware of any break in the condom either time you had sex so how can you be sure you didn't conceive the 1st time. Have you sat down & worked your dates out?

5. Ok there is a chance your new boyf may not want to take you & yuor unborn on. Especially if he's a young lad. But you do need to be honest with him. He may surprise you & want to help out. But if you tell him further down the line he'll feel lied to

6. If you talk to the 1st guy you really need to tell him whats going on aswell

7. Threesomes may be common, I don't know. I personally wouldn't go there. You never know what could happen & you're proof of this

 

[NeyNey]

I had a condom snap once - hurt like freakin' HELL!
Can't understand how you'd miss something like that?

 

[leedsforever]

I had a condom snap once - hurt like freakin' HELL!
Can't understand how you'd miss something like that?

thats what I thought

 

[leeanne]

Right ok alot to reply to:

1. I used condoms every time ive had sex.

2. Ive only had sex twice (if you count the other guy then its three)

3. I only have their email addresses, i have emailed them explaining the situation but haven't received one back.

4. Im 100% sure it was the threesome that got me pregnant.

5. I really like my boyfriend atm, im scared that if i tell him he will not want anything to do with me.

6. I do talk to the first guy.

7. I thought threesomes happened quite alot and were quite common.

1. Glad you do, however, obviously if you are pregnant from one of the guys at the threesome, something happened to that condom. As a result, STD tests should be done.

2. I count 3 times you've had sex.

3. Think they are going to be jumping up and down by news from some girl that they had a threesome with that they could be a father? If they've done it once, they must have done it more times.

4. If you are 100% sure that you are pregnant as a result of the threesome, then how many weeks pregnant are you?

5. Hmm, do you think your boyfriend will take it well? Do you think he won't be just a bit upset when he asks you who the father is and you relate to him your experimental rendezvous?

6. Even the first guy could be the father if in fact you really don't know the dating of your pregnancy.

7. Threesomes don't happen in my life style. But, hey, that's just me.

This story is one for the Maury show or even Jerry Springer if you want to go the more outrageous route.

 

[brownhairedmom]

Okay about the snapping...I've had one snap but I was drunk and didn't realize until he pulled out and voila there was nothing in there cause it was split right in half.

I don't really know what to say, but I do agree with the girls that you should get an STD test done. Some can be incredibly harmful to both you and the baby.


As for the shock over the threesome...I wasn't expecting to read that either. BUT I've actually heard more incidents from my friends (I've never done this) and from what they've done it does seem like it is more likely to happen with random guys than people you already know

 

[xXx Vamp xXx]

To be honest, no matter how you got pregnant, 1 time, 3 times or 7... the fact is it's happened and that's what the focus should be on now. Firstly, you do need to get that STD test done. Secondly, I would tell your BF as soon as possible, you weren't together at the time, and if he judges you, then does he really care as much as you thought? Life isn't about judging others. He may find it very hard to take though, and a relationship with a pregnant lady is a lot different then a relationship with little to no commitment to begin with, so to be honest, be prepared for the worst, and anything better is a bonus. What matters now is that child inside you. You need to tell your mother too, you need someone to discuss all your options with who will be there for you. Good luck for your future, and I hope it does work out.

PS - If the guys do get back in touch, the only think you can do is a DNA test, and I would suggest having it done.

 

[nikky0907]

Well,a condom snapped on me once,I felt it but I had no idea that that is what had happened until later.
So it's possible that it's what happened with you.

Anyway,hun,hate to break it to you but chances for one of the guys to actually contact you back after news like this are slim to none unfortunatly.
But still,you can go to online calculator to see how far along are you.Just type in the date of your last period.

And if it's your ex bf's baby then you need to tell him.
Plus,if you feel strongly about your new bf then he should be told,something like this you can't hide for very long.

And STD's aren't common or happening in my world either...:shrugs:
Yep,pretty big shock when I read that...

 

[Amy-Lea]

Sorry but I think its hilarious how within 2 months of loosing your virginity you've stepped up to threesomes!

On a serious note, I am against abortion and don't think I could ever have one, but to be in a situation were I don't no who, or were the father of my child is, I just don't know.
In your situation I would consider adoption or surragacy for the sheer fact you will never be able to tell your son/daughter who there father is. I know I wouldnt be able to give a baby I had carried away but if youve considered adoption you ovbiously think your a suitable candidate. Then when your ready have children with the man you love.

Not hellpful really but i didnt wana not comment. good luck.

 

[xarlenex]

just wanted to add to the condom thing..ive had a condom actually come right off and be in me..and not realise till it was over. But seriously, std test, and get a scan to work out dates x

 

[Suz]

just wanted to add to the condom thing..ive had a condom actually come right off and be in me..and not realise till it was over. But seriously, std test, and get a scan to work out dates x

I had that happen once....

 

[leeanne]

I did too and I won't even begin to describe one totally embarrassing time!

 

[CamoQueen]

I guess I'm in the minority here as I don't find your story to be shocking at all, really... when I was 18 as a freshman in college, I definitely did some wild, crazy stuff sexually. I'm sorry that you're in such a difficult situation.

Thankfully during my experiences I never got pregnant or contracted an STD, but you never know, even with protection. Like others have said before me, make sure you get tested. Let's see, what else... well, you have contacted the men involved, which is good on you. I would be surprised if you hear from them again, honestly, but it doesn't seem like you really want contact with them, anyway.

What you really need to do now is to tell your parents. Okay, so this will probably be the worst part. If I were you, I would probably leave out the threesome information. I realize that honesty is the best policy, but if I were in your shoes I would likely say it was a one-night stand with someone you didn't know. That's just me, though. And then you need to get yourself to a doctor, ASAP. Since you won't consider abortion at all, you do need to sit down and consider the two remaining options -- adoption or raising the child on your own. It's a pretty huge decision and you obviously won't want to take it lightly.

You're in a really shitty situation and your life is going to be pretty stressful for a while, but if I were you I would just bite the bullet and do what has to be done (telling your parents, going to the doctor, etc). I honestly hope that everything turns out well for you.

 

[Younglutonmum]

I don't think anyone is calling Pam slutty or anything like that......

Just saying that for a lot of us threesomes aren't the norm really

 

[CamoQueen]

I don't think anyone is calling Pam slutty or anything like that......

Just saying that for a lot of us threesomes aren't the norm really

Oh, I know that. It's just that in one of her posts she said that she knew what she did was "slutty", so I wanted to reassure her.

And yeah, threesomes aren't the norm for a lot of people! Hell, I've had a few but they certainly aren't normal for me in my daily life!

 

[Younglutonmum]

I don't think anyone is calling Pam slutty or anything like that......

Just saying that for a lot of us threesomes aren't the norm really

Oh, I know that. It's just that in one of her posts she said that she knew what she did was "slutty", so I wanted to reassure her.

And yeah, threesomes aren't the norm for a lot of people! Hell, I've had a few but they certainly aren't normal for me in my daily life!

I hope not Missy!!