Hi im Pam

[CamoQueen]

I don't think anyone is calling Pam slutty or anything like that......

Just saying that for a lot of us threesomes aren't the norm really

Oh, I know that. It's just that in one of her posts she said that she knew what she did was "slutty", so I wanted to reassure her.

And yeah, threesomes aren't the norm for a lot of people! Hell, I've had a few but they certainly aren't normal for me in my daily life!

I hope not Missy!!

I'm only the second partner DH has ever had, I'm pretty sure if I came home and said, "Hey, baby, let's have a three-way" he would go into a dead faint! Though I guess being pregnant there is always an extra person involved.

 

[Younglutonmum]

I don't think anyone is calling Pam slutty or anything like that......

Just saying that for a lot of us threesomes aren't the norm really

Oh, I know that. It's just that in one of her posts she said that she knew what she did was "slutty", so I wanted to reassure her.

And yeah, threesomes aren't the norm for a lot of people! Hell, I've had a few but they certainly aren't normal for me in my daily life!

I hope not Missy!!

I'm only the second partner DH has ever had, I'm pretty sure if I came home and said, "Hey, baby, let's have a three-way" he would go into a dead faint! Though I guess being pregnant there is always an extra person involved.

Ewww didn't think of it like that

I'm so glad i'm not having sex now

 

[Suz]

 

[diva4180]

Oh dear


In all seriousness, I would have to agree to be upfront with your current bf and your parents, it's going to be hard, but it's better to be honest. Your parents might surprise you and be very supportive, since there is another life here to consider. It's better to to be honest with your boyfriend also. Nothing good ever comes out of lying.

I also agree that typing in your date of your last period on an online calculator is a good idea, it may help decide how far along you are.

And PLEASE get tested! You were with people you knew nothing about which increases the risk, and even though you tried to protect yourself, the condom broke. You need to make sure both you and your baby are healthy. Good luck!

 

[leedsforever]

Well,a condom snapped on me once,I felt it but I had no idea that that is what had happened until later.
So it's possible that it's what happened with you.

All I find strange about this is.....

... surely once a condom doesnt work/split/fall off you do know at some point!!! Therefore giving you time for extra precautions to be taken!! Such as the morning after pill!!

I know there is the element of "it wont happen to me though"!!! I hope everything works out for you.... must be a real tough decision for you!!

 

[mrscookie]

Wow. It just took me aback a bit the fact that you lost your virginity this way.... tell your fella. He might be understanding.
Im going to france in september..... will keep my legs crossed the whole time im there lol

 

[krissi]

OK you HAVE to tell your current boyfriend he is entitle to make an informed decision about whether this is a situation he wants to be a part of.

However this situation came about is irrelevant, you are pregnant and you need to deal with that and take responsibility. If you are going to be a mum there are going to be times in your life when you have to stick your neck out. Tell your mum whatever decision you make you are going to need support. Of course she will be disappointed but she will come round (i wouldn't tell her about the threesome bit) shes your mum and she loves you and once she takes the news in she will be there for you because thats what mums do (as you will soon find out!).

If you do decide to abort the baby or have him/her adopted then that is your decision, you have to do what is right for you but please be a bit more aware in the future. You are an adult now and your actions have consequences. Please don't think i am lecturing you i am sure you are scared and confused right now and everyone is just giving you advise to help.

Good Luck.

 

[leeanne]

Wow. It just took me aback a bit the fact that you lost your virginity this way.... tell your fella. He might be understanding.
Im going to france in september..... will keep my legs crossed the whole time im there lol

 

[Becki77]

Ok, your in 1 awkward situation here!
Firstly i have to ask when was your last period? You say you only lost your virginity 2 months ago so there is every possibility that the baby is your 1st partners?
Secondly youve tried to contact the guys in Frane and theyve not got back to you, which im sorry to say is no surprise.
But on a positive note do you really need the support of the french guys if the baby turns out to be one of theres? There are plenty of girls out there who bring babies up on there own and do a fantastic job, if they can do it so can you!

I was actually conceived from a 1 night stand and didnt actually meet my father until i was 18 years old, i never held this against my mum because she was always honest with me and told me that she made alittle mistake when she was 19 and got the best shock of her life! I personally dont think to have a good upbringing you need to have both mum and dad at home, i never wanted for anything although we werent a well off family and had a pretty good education.

Anyway back to you! I would tell your new boyfriend about your situation although you run the risk of loosing him, he does deserve to know!
As for your mum and dad, have they not done anything outrageous before in there lives? they may shock you and be supportive.
I think you really need to think about what you plan to do with the baby first, then sort out the father situation afterwards!
Good luck in whatever you decide! xx

 

[Freya]

Hmmmm, getting a vibe this isn't a 'genuine' post, or member.......

 

[nikky0907]

Hmmmm, getting a vibe this isn't a 'genuine' post, or member.......

Why?

I think she was genuine but she won't be back...

 

[Always&4ever]

Wow a 3some on your first sexal encounter, now I feel boring LOL

 

[alice&bump]

Hmmmm, getting a vibe this isn't a 'genuine' post, or member.......

i got that feeling too, but didnt want to say incase it was true!! just seems a bit far fetched to me

 

[notalone]

Thanks for all the replies and advice, ive decided to tell my mum tomorrow and hopefully she will help me have a chat with my current boyfriend and with the doctors for a std test.

To the people who helped thanks and to the people who said what i was saying didn't seem genuine then...well this is the internet i can understand why some things might seem not true. Im not going to try and persuade you to believe me because there is no need to.

Thanks again.

 

[Younglutonmum]

I hope all goes well for you hunni. Telling your mum asap is the right thing to do. Hopefully you'll get all the support you need

I think some people may have thought you weren't genuine as you hadn't been on here for a few days & we have had problems with fakers. Please don't let this put you off seeking advice from here in future, it's a great site!!

 

[xXx Vamp xXx]

Thanks for all the replies and advice, ive decided to tell my mum tomorrow and hopefully she will help me have a chat with my current boyfriend and with the doctors for a std test.

To the people who helped thanks and to the people who said what i was saying didn't seem genuine then...well this is the internet i can understand why some things might seem not true. Im not going to try and persuade you to believe me because there is no need to.

Thanks again.

I hope it all words out well

 

[maybebaby]

 

[biteable]

good luck hun xx

 

[Freya]

Hmmmm, getting a vibe this isn't a 'genuine' post, or member.......

Why?

I think she was genuine but she won't be back...

A couple of things about the way she presented her posts made me think something wan't quite right...... ah well..... occupational hazzard!! If she was genuine I hope she got the advice she needed.

xxx

 

[jobee2222]

Well you cnt really hide it from mother and bf if you are going to have the baby. Sounds like adoption is the way to go for you. Try to talking to a counsellor to see how you really feel about the situation and put things into perspective.