hiding the bump

[ella170]

im 17! i know people have babies alot younger than that, but i don't know if it makes it any easier..?

 

[Kayles1/8/08]

i fell pregnant when i was 17.. although im now just turned 18..Im doing it myself without a job or nout..if i can do it then anyone can!!!

 

[nikky0907]

We can all do this...

But I understand how you're feeling Ella...it's scary and completely life changing and it takes time to adjust.Especially to the fact that our life is not gonna be the way we planned it to be...

But,once that is sorted and the things in your life all worked out,it gets much better...

But don't feel quilty that you want to hide it while everything is still fresh and you are trying to figure everything out...
It's a lot to take in and a very big shock...

 

[lily24]

I think the comments are a little harsh on the poor girl
I felt in the same boat.. I didnt want people to find out as i wanted to make sure everything was o.k with my baby before everyone knew, therefore, i tried to hide my bump to by wearing baggy clothes as i didnt want people to talk and wanted all the most important people in my life to be told by me and not be a random gossip (i live in a small gossiping town!) Doesnt mean i am embarrased or care any less about my child

I dont think it makes her any less a good person by trying to keep it to herself for a while. Everyone should understand that when a pregancy isnt planned, it can be a MASSIVE shocl, and coming to terms with it yourself can take a while. I no it did for me and i wanted to deal with it and not have nosey parkers questioning me all the time. Cut her a little slack girls

 

[darkheaven]

I think the comments are a little harsh on the poor girl
I felt in the same boat.. I didnt want people to find out as i wanted to make sure everything was o.k with my baby before everyone knew, therefore, i tried to hide my bump to by wearing baggy clothes as i didnt want people to talk and wanted all the most important people in my life to be told by me and not be a random gossip (i live in a small gossiping town!) Doesnt mean i am embarrased or care any less about my child

I dont think it makes her any less a good person by trying to keep it to herself for a while. Everyone should understand that when a pregancy isnt planned, it can be a MASSIVE shocl, and coming to terms with it yourself can take a while. I no it did for me and i wanted to deal with it and not have nosey parkers questioning me all the time. Cut her a little slack girls

if she didnt want a baby she should of used a condom if her school tried to stop her education they can be taken to court and get well fined at the end of the day u need to sort ur life and ur future baby out that comes first

 

[nikky0907]

if she didnt want a baby she should of used a condom if her school tried to stop her education they can be taken to court and get well fined at the end of the day u need to sort ur life and ur future baby out that comes first

Excuse me?
If she didn't want a baby,she should've used a condom?
Thats a very harsh and disrespectful thing to say.

And,every school has it's own policy towards pregnancy.Some have the ''you show,you go'' like my private high school did.You can't take them to court over it.

 

[Vickie]

if she didnt want a baby she should of used a condom

Nothing is 100% effective, not condoms, not birth control pills, nothing. This comment is extremely out of line. This girl accidentally got pregnant (it does happen to quite a few people) and is trying to be responsible, she wants to keep her baby and finish up her exams at school. Both of which I personally applaud her for. All she needs is a little advice, not judgments.

 

[nikky0907]

Thank you Vickie!
I was shocked by this comment too.Especially as a person who got pregnant on birth control.And I can say this insulted me.

 

[Serene123]

if she didnt want a baby she should of used a condom if her school tried to stop her education they can be taken to court and get well fined at the end of the day u need to sort ur life and ur future baby out that comes first

No form of contraceptive is 100% affective. Are you saying no one should have sex untill they want kids?

 

[cupcake]

guys its not our place to judge regardless of our opinion. she started this thread because she wanted advice why dont we keep it to that.

 

[Serene123]

im 17! i know people have babies alot younger than that, but i don't know if it makes it any easier..?

You keep your baby if you want your baby.
Ignore the ignorant and the narrow minded.
They'll grow up one day hopefully.
Some people think they know it all when they don't.
Your school, being Catholic, can kick you out if you're pregnant.
However, if you don't admit to being pregnant, they can't prove it.
If they have no proof then they've got no chance.
You finish your exams, and try not to stress out about it.
I wouldn't hide your bump, I'd just deny it if people asked.
They can't ask your doctor, you're legal.

 

[Wobbles]

COME ON GIRLS - WOMEN?

Shes a young confused girl help her in the right direction than giving her shit!!!!! I had an awful time TTC and it was upsetting certain things but I knew when I was seeing a selfish minded adult and a young girl kid at heart very confused whos now trying to defend herself with a group of women how old (yes not all)?

Look deeper into the person sometimes - please

 

[ella170]

if she didnt want a baby she should of used a condom if her school tried to stop her education they can be taken to court and get well fined at the end of the day u need to sort ur life and ur future baby out that comes first

maybe i should have used a condom?
i dont mean to be rude but my personal life hasnt got anything to do with you. whats done is done so there's no point giving it all the 'you should have done this..'. i thought that was really immature and insulting.

 

[Wobbles]

if she didnt want a baby she should of used a condom if her school tried to stop her education they can be taken to court and get well fined at the end of the day u need to sort ur life and ur future baby out that comes first

Bang out of order! With a few comments that got to me on this thread your whole disrespectful attitude caught me more ... maybe because its becoming a regular thing with you

 

[nikky0907]

This comment was definitely out of line.I can't even get it out of my head.

As Ella said,personal lives of people on this forum are not your concern and if you are here to JUDGE than please refrain.
To me,this comment was a very personal attack on all the women on this forum faced with an unplanned pregnancy.

I'm glad that Wobbles and Vickie stepped in in this case.

 

[twaceyclara]

in no way should you want to hide this precious baby. Ive read some of your comments and peoples replys and i have to agree with them. I know its not the same circumstances but i had to leave school in year 10 due 2 health problems.. i had no gcses or anything.. Now in the last 2 years ive managaed to go to college and train up. Im now a fully qualified pre school teacher and 21 weeks pregnant. So dont think that if you miss these exams thats it the end of the world coz i can assure u hunny that its not. A baby is growing inside your tummy, a precious little person who needs you, not the stress this is obviously causing!!
Enjoy it, 9 months of eating what you want
take care xxx

 

[Serene123]

Reading a few pages back, have you told your parents yet? I told my mum straight away and I felt SO MUCH better. I know it's hard but this is how I did it..

"Mum, I need to talk to you."
"Go on then?"
"No, I'm sorry I can't. Forget it."
"You can tell me anything."
"Promise you won't get mad?"
"Promise. Now just tell me."
"I'm pregnant."

She was upset, she did cry, but she kept her promise. She didn't get mad. After all, she's my mum. She only wants the best for me.

 

[mBLACK]

Well that's really really good! If you think it would be so much of a problem to stay at school why don't you consider distant schooling? Agreed the kids in school can be *in a-holes, and you don't need any added stress. If it gets to be too much I suggest you ask your mother or parent to talk with the school and arrange that you bring your schoolwork home and do it there for awhile, for personal matters.
You wouldn't want to try to hide your figure using bandages. There's a precious little being who needs all the space that he/she can get to make sure that he/she grows properly. I'm sure it will all work out don't worry!

 

[Mynxie]

a girl I went to school with was pregnant and had her exams a couple of weeks after she gave birth - literally 2 weeks after! She left school and went to a centre thingy for teenage mums doing their exams.

Even if everything goes pear shaped, there's still lots of options.

A girl came to my school only for her exams, she'd gone to a different school up until then.

Even if you were to not sit any of them, you could do a 1 year college course and get qualifications equivalent to 5 GCSEs, or do the re-sits as your first exams (there' a few throughout the year at schools and colleges)

There's lots of options, if keeping baby a secret from school isn't an option.

I heard of a girl who told her mum she as pregnant by showing her the scan picture. This girl was about 13 or 14. Her mum was devastated that she told her that way though.

Have you been to the doctors and got midwife appointments etc sorted out yet? and been taking folic acid? They're really important huni.

You'll make things work, I know that you will

 

[mummy_channon]

y r u hiding it? i love showing mine off!!!!
on hollyoaks one girl just wore very baggy clothes but even that wont disguise it when u get really big