Holidays when TTC...

[ELR]

What do you ladies do about booking holidays when you're TTC? The reason I ask is because my husband and I have been talking about wanting to go to New York for Christmas. We've talked about it for ages and it's something we've always wanted to do, we wanted it for our honeymoon originally but we got married in just 3 months, but I'm put off booking it because I keep thinking to myself "what if I'm pregnant by then?". Obviously I'd love to be pregnant more than I'd love to go on holiday. But if I'm not pregnant by then, then I'm going to really need that holiday. I'm so confused I don't know what to do for the best. What do you ladies do? I'm so worried as well that by not booking something, I feel like I'm saying "yes I'm going to be pregnant by then!" and jinxing myself into not being pregnant, as ridiculous as that sounds, so part of me just wants to book it and risk losing the money for an expensive holiday just so I don't jinx myself into not being pregnant!

Does that make sense? I'm having such a hard day today, really struggling with it all

 

[oneof14]

Hey there, I am in the same boat as you. My DH and I have been wanting to go to Napa Valley California for the longest time and we keep putting it off. We decided that if I am not pg by July, we will finally book that trip. We obv. do not want to be pg because it's known as wine country with all vineyards and well, you know the rest. So, make a plan that if you are not pg by a certain time, book the trip. You can plan to go while pg, there is no reason why you cant travel while being pg. Just don't book a trip to the winery.

 

[Ms. Shortie]

Hey there, I am in the same boat as you. My DH and I have been wanting to go to Napa Valley California for the longest time and we keep putting it off. We decided that if I am not pg by July, we will finally book that trip. We obv. do not want to be pg because it's known as wine country with all vineyards and well, you know the rest. So, make a plan that if you are not pg by a certain time, book the trip. You can plan to go while pg, there is no reason why you cant travel while being pg. Just don't book a trip to the winery.

Also it's fun to go for a baby moon during the 2nd trimester. A nice last trip for the 2 of you before it gets really hard to travel.

 

[hopingforit]

My DH and I have a similar dilemma. He has 2 kids from his previous marriage who he wants to take to Disney World. He wants to go around Christmas but he doesn't like riding rides. We had to make the decision to put it off because I am desperately hoping to be pregnant by then and if I am, it would be a wasted trip because I can't ride anything then. But, if it was just a trip going to NYC, I would probably wait a month or two, then plan it if you would be up to going there while you're pregnant (only if you can drive as it would be 3rd trimester if you get pregnant soon) or wait until you know if you got pregnant, you would only be in the 2nd trimester. Hopefully you can figure it out!

 

[susan_1981]

I was TTC for over 3 years before I got as far along as I am now and had this problem every one of those years! We generally book up our holidays a year in advance to make sure we could get in where we wanted to go and also the flights were sometimes a lot cheaper. So we just ended up booking holidays each year and I just thought to myself that maybe if I did fall pregnant and it meant I couldn't go, that maybe I had only fell pregnant because of that - you know, the kind of reverse psychology thing that I wouldn't want to fall pregnant in those few months (which was rubbish because obviously I did) and that would mean I would fall pregnant so I couldn't go (if that makes sense!). But me and my husband agreed that if we lost out on our holiday because I'm too heavily pregnant to go, then so be it. It's only money and we would have given everything we had for our own baby. We also felt that we couldn't put our lives on hold for something that may never happen for us - harsh but we were always realistic about having a baby and if we didn't ever have children, at least we have a fantastic marriage and relationship, which some people will never find so tried to be grateful for what we did have.

Well August last year, as usual, we booked our holiday for this August. Then found out I was pregnant at the beginning of November and my due date is 15 July so probably is unlikely that I can go. Will lose a lot of money if we don't go but, like I said, it's only money.

So if you don't want to hold out to book so that you can make sure you can go, then I'd say just book it. If you can't go, you won't care because you'll be pregnant x

 

[Ducktales]

my advice is just book it, i read a great book about LTTTC and there was a big section about how putting everything on hold to have a baby and not living/ doing the things/ holidays you want can have adverse effects on ttc, your mental state etc, it read better than i put it, as it certainly wasnt the old "relax and it will happen" but i think you should go for it, or you will regret it, and always think, why didnt we go when we wanted or could go...
xx

 

[Ducktales]

sent before i finished typing my last sentence which was book it now, as when you have a beautiful baby in your arms, New York might be more of a challenge !
xxx

 

[ELR]

Thanks for your advice ladies. Susan I feel exactly the same about everything. I think we will just book it. Like you say it is only money at the end of the day and while I'd be sad to lose the money it would be nothing compared to the happiness I'd feel at being pregnant!

 

[Feisty Fidget]

LTTTC robs you of your sanity so don't let it rob you of your life too

I made a pact to stop putting life on hold because of what ifs etc and am now trying to enjoy my final years as just husband and wife in preperation for Mother hood. Also a fellow LTTTCer found out after trying for years that having a child was impossible for them and she had spent so long putting things off for the dream of a family that she realised she had no back up plan incase the worst was to happen and she couldn't be a mother.

If you really can't bare the thought of the money going to waste then book last minute. It is a gamble that you may not be able to stay where you want or that you may have to pay more but at least that way you will know whether you are pregnant or not