Thank you so much everybody for your kind thoughts, I really do appreciate them. They're very encouraging when some of the days are very bleak.
So, I had a dream.
I know dreams don't necessarily predict the future, I believe it is more my sub-conscious processing the day I've had, all the events that have happened and the thoughts that I have had. So I had a dream that I had this chubby little girl that I was so in love with and I couldn't stop kissing her chubby cheeks because she kept squealing. I know it's dumb but it made me a little more excited about the process of having a daughter.
It also really helps that my in-law family is going to be THRILLED. They have one grand-daughter the family is dominated by males - OH has 3 brothers and three nephews. Girls are definitely outnumbered. I know the moment they hear it's a girl, they're going to be so overjoyed for us.
(My family will be meh; I have two sisters - one has a boy and a girl and the other has no children so my parents are pretty meh over grandchildren. They have one of each and they're "satisfied" with that considering they're not really involved in their lives)
So while I am still mourning the loss of a dream I had, I'm slowly becoming excited for a new dream that is developing, I am curious to see where it will take my family.