how can i make myself NOT to contact him?

[Ash_P]

I wouldnt bother sendin the pics hun. I would try not to contact him at all. There is so many men out there who would love to be a father, and cant for whatever reason. And there is the guy who wants to get rid of ur baby, well if he didnt want a child he should of been abit more careful.
Me personallly I wouldnt give him the opportunity of seeing anything to do with the baby, unless he proved he actually wanted something to do with it.
If he is saying he doesnt want anything to do with the baby, then the pics mite get ripped up and put in the bin.
But u know what is the best way to deal with the situation x

 

[surprisebaby]

I struggle with the ultrasound photo thing as well. I just really would in a way love to send them to my fob, but it's kind of strangely satisfying NOT sending them!!! It kind of makes you feel in control, but I have only felt like that this week. Before I couldn't stop myself. Sort out situation with him first and then decide depending on his choice. Its him that has to make a choice not you. You have so it seems decided on having your baby, its now him that has to decide what he's doing. If he wants to be involved with baby send them, if not don't.

 

[lillprutten]

my ex said almost the same thing to me- more of a its me or the baby kind of thing! And I chose the baby, I know it will hurt like hell and you will miss him insanely but you will get over it and get strong and then you will realise how awful he truly was for making you choose him over yur little bean, plenty more men/fish in the sea who will love you for you and your baby too. You obviously want your baby and if she is moving right now thats awesome xxxx

Yes the message he gives is exactly the same, him or the baby. Today he hasnt said a word so far and he more or less yelled at me on phone yesterday.
I dont know what he really feels. I would like to think his feelings for me are genuine but ah well, his feelings, or mine doesnt matter now as I need to concentrate on the baby And I am so happy I feel the movement now! I just cant believe they are so strong at this week, and that i noticed it in week 18 with my son and now this early with this baby! But I am very pleased

 

[lillprutten]

Luckily the pics are electronic so I wouldnt lose the pics myself! Thats so great they sent me the pics thru email!
But however I think if i send the pics he will understand I am keeping the baby and i am not quite sure he deserves that mental rest right now and might let him worry a while more.
He also said that deepdown he feels I am going to keep the baby so I think he already knows.

 

[suzanne108]

Your baby deserves better than him, I know you think your baby needs a father in its life but you will meet someone one day who will be a better father to your LO and love him/her like his own.

Tell him you're keeping the baby and let him go. He sounds like scum!!