How did you know?

[Sinead]

Hi ladies, I am just looking for a bit of advice.

How did you know to split from fob? Things are going on in our relationship and I am not 100% sure I can carry on. At the moment I don't know what I want so haven't said anything to Dh, but I font know how long that carry on. We have 2 wonderful children and he is a good dad, it's just us that isn't right atthe moment.

Anyway I know I have been vague (sorry) but how did you cone to decision that you and your family were better off without fob?


Thanks in advance

 

[Surreal]

When you've sat down and discussed the situation, and still things haven't changed, or he is resistant to listening? Then it might be time to walk away. I say voice your concerns with him, and see his stance on things... if there is a possibility to salvage things, it's better to have that to tell your children later, even if it doesn't work out.

For me, I tried and tried to talk things out... only to have them fall on deaf ears. Eventually, I asked him to leave.

 

[chocbunni01]

my children are 11 and 5 and ive never been married to their father although we met when i was 13 and he was 17. it seemed as though i was just holding on because we were together and knew each other for so long and his family was like my family. i never thought of being with someone else since he always made it seem like it would be a big issue. but in reality, he wasnt responsible financially and after years and years of togetherness he just wasnt on my level which i knew yet kept trying to hold on to. i guess the breaking point was him not trying to furthur himself and being in the same situation which i felt was no good. when i moved out of town i still thought of him and wanted him around even though there was no contribution anywhere. i wanted my children to be with their father, and in the long run he hurt my situation. and so after that i just wanted to see what else was out there since i knew i wanted so much and deserved so much better. to this day we still talk, when he isnt upset about my bf being around. hope that helps.. sorry for the wordiness

 

[jaytee146]

I decided enough was enough when i knew beyond a Shadow of doubt that i could raise my little girl minus the drama and faking from both side's i know children pick up on it because i did when i was little

 

[Strawberrymum]

Ask yourself what you want to teach you LO, that a mum and dad should always be together or that you should be happy