How did you manage first few weeks AFTER labor and delivery?

[leahsbabybump]

my OH stayed with me for 3 weeks after alexa was born however he didnt do much in the way of baby care he basically kept care of me and made sure i was fed and watered lol
i was petrified of what i would do when he whent back to work but i actually get on better wothout him someday slol he gets in the way haha

 

[minkymoo]

Another piece of advice is do a mass cook off before you're due and freeze it all. It as a godsend for us.

 

[EllaAndLyla]

OH was with me most of the time. It was hard because at the same time as having this newborn baby with me which I never could have amagined, I was also in a lot of pain from my stitches and it was hard for me just to get on and off my bed!! My stitches were basically healed after two weeks! enough at least for me to get out and about.. I had a few members of family round but they weren't there to help, just to visit!

It is possible to do it with just yourself and your OH, and it is possible to do it on your own!! Good luck xx

 

[KittyVentura]

I personally would have HATED to have anyone stay with us after Fin was born. We managed just fine, Ian had 2 weeks paternity and spent that time keeping me fed and watered while my boob as constantly in Fin's mouth lol.

My MIL brought us dinner over a few times and that was nice. She also took bags of washing and ironing for us. If you can delegate tasks like that you'd find it a great help.

BAsically you want to be able to just focus on that baby and bonding. Having someone else always around might (MIGHT) make it harder to bond due to not having alone time xxx

 

[skydragonfly]

Everyone is different honey. I was back doing the school runs the day after having my 4th and 5th children. I have had easy labours and been back on my feet straight away after all 5 births. I did my weekly shop on the way home from the hospital with my first as we passed the supermarket. But others have much tougher times.
Just go with the flow sweetheart, don't be afraid to ask for help. I had pneumonia when I had 3 under 3 and my dh was at work in Belgium, I asked a neighbour to get something from the shops for my and she was so willing to help. Within hours I had offers of help from people I barely knew. xx

 

[chocojen]

I had an emergency section and managed with just the 2 of us no problems, my partner was back at work 12 days later I had no problems, just had to remeber to take it easy, he had to do the hoovering etc x

 

[sequeena]

I had a second degree tear, grazes and a labial tear. Weeing hurt for about 2 weeks and it was hard going from a standing to sitting position and vice versa as I was very tender down below. My OH had 2 weeks paternity so helped share jobs. We had visitors but nobody stayed long enough to really help us with the baby so we did everything ourselves. I just got on with it, had I torn more or had a c-section I'm sure it would have been completely different.

 

[caz_hills]

I had an emergency c-section and was home in two days. My OH wa at home for 2 weeks paternity leave and he was wonderful - helping with nappy changes, feeding me, soothing baby so I could sleep etc. I couldn't have had anyone to stay - only if they were prepared to look after themselves and not expect meals cooked etc as I had no real idea what time of day it was - I just ate what my hubbie put in front of me and didn't think about anything else other than feeding baby!!!!

My MIL and Mum were amazing and helped loads too - but came over for a few days every day once OH was back at work and that helped as they made food and cuddled baby while I slept etc.

My advice is ask for help if you can get it - not to stay but if people can pop over for a few hours it really helps. Also I agree with others, freeze loads of meals before you have the LO as well - we did that and for the first two-three weeks we were eating up loads of meals that we had frozen and it was great, so easy.

Good luck!

 

[kmumtobe]

Its hard to tell it depends on how your labour goes, everyone has different recovery and everyone has different babies.. some have sleepless nights for weeks, some babies dont stop crying, some have feeding issues, some are easy babies you just dont know. I couldnt really walk for a week was in alot of pain i needed my OH around for two weeks that he did have off just so i could get myself back on track and learn a new routine, find my feet.. I wouldnt of wanted anyone else and after 2 weeks i was fine, baby only woke once in a night and he was relatively easy. I thought i wouldnt even manage to get dressed for days but i was waddling down the shops the day after i got out of hosptal its really not that bad. You soon feel at home with them, i feel like hes been here forever at 10 weeks he doesnt seem like my little baby anymore already x