how do i approach family members who have upset my little man?

[PixieM]

Hey,

My hubby's brothers have always got there nieces presents for Xmas / birthday / easter and my son is always the second thought at Xmas and gets nothing for his birthday.

It annoys me anyway but my little boy was talking to his Nan about it the other day as he doesn't understand why the girls get gifts and he doesn't? He isn't my hubby's son but my son is 7 and I've been with hubby 6 and a half years and my son calls him dad and everyone treats him as my husbands.

How do i approach this with the brothers without causing a issue, they don't have kids of their own but still not the point.

It's just hard when you have a just turned 7 year old nearly crying because he feels they love the girls more.

Any advice would be great?

 

[tallybee]

That's horrid of them, I don't really know what to suggest though

Your poor son

I think something needs to be said though xxx

 

[Donna35]

I'd personally just be blunt about it and tell them what you've told us - that you have a 7 year old crying upset as he's being left out. It's shocking that they could do that xxx

 

[PixieM]

Knowing them they aren't doing it to be nasty or spiteful but obviously a 7 year old doesn't realise that. x

 

[tallybee]

They are the adults hun they need to be told xx

 

[Jade--x]

I had the same problem with my family..Only they were my ACTUAL blood related family. My own 'nan' to be precise. She didn't acknowledge my children then she stopped acknowledging me and my siblings whilst still sending our cousins and her step grandkids cards/presents/money. I didn't bother to confront her or the rest of that side of the family. I have no advice but I would definitely say something, or get OH to mention it x

 

[honey08]

terrible tht, i wud say if ur guna buy for one buy for the other pls ?

 

[Ceejay123]

Honestly, I had this with my Dad's parents, (Note I don't call them Grandparents?)

I met them when I was fourteen, and they cooed over me for a few weeks, then lost interest. When I used to be taken round, I'd call them 'Lynn and John' as I obviously didn't know them. So it came to christmas time, my Dad and Sister got a card in the post, and I was left off it. So my sister said something, as it wound her up. I honestly wasn't too bothered... But their excuse was 'Well, she won't call us Mama and Grandad' Seriously? I'd met them a handful of times.

Anyway - Years down the line, I have nothing to do with them, they've not even bothered to ask my Dad about LO, so he's now having nothing to do with them really too. My life's better without such bitter and vindictive people in it!

If you want these people in your life, talk to them... But it may be better just to move on to save heartbreak, depending on the situation. x