How do i find the strength???

[Katie_baby_1]

hey everyone.... just hoping some of you would be able to giv me some advice. I'm 37 weeks pregnant at the mo at not in a very good situation. I'm sick of my OH lying to me and going behind my back. I really don't trust him and he's proved to me that I'm right for not doing so.

I just feel like i havent got the strength to be on my own. At the minute i feel like i'm just in a black hole that i'm never gonna get out of. I've just had enough now but really don't want to be alone especially now the baby's nearly due. I'[ve got support from my family but havent really got a lot of friends as i've been in long term relationships and just lost touch.

I really don't know what to do for the best... do i stay with him and use him for his company (selfish i know but he's been a b****** to me) or finish it? I know when my friends have been in situations like this before it's really easy to say 'finish it' but it's difficult when it comes to it.

Sorry for the long moan i just need a bit of reassurance that things will get better and easier from people that may have felt like me at some point.

Thanks x x

 

[brownhairedmom]

I'm sorry you're in the situation.

The worst part about being single isn't the fact that you have to leave. It isn't that it takes your everything from hurting that person, because once you reach that point then you know that its needed. Its being alone. I'm really, really struggling with this at the moment.

I've just resorted to making a huge, huge play list of the most upbeat and happy songs I can find and listening them 24/7. It may not fill the spot of another person in my life, but it sure as hell keeps me from digging myself a hole. Its helping me to get to the point at least where I can realize that I am eventually going to be okay by myself.

 

[Younglutonmum]

Sorry you're in such a shitty position

I personally think if you have no trust in a relationship then there's no point in being together. I also don't agree with couples staying together for the sake of a child

I can totally understand you being scared of being alone but as you said you've got your family & i'm sure they'll be there for you & LO all the way. You might want to look into joining mum & baby groups when LO is here so you can meet other mummys to boost your friend circle. I'm planning to do that as I feel me & my friends have drifted apart since I fell pregnant. Also why don't you look into your local Gingerbread group? It's a group for single parents & they tend to meet once a month & organise day trips. I'm going to start going once my LO is here. Can't wait actually

I really hope you have the strength to get up & leave like you clearly want to. I promise you it's not that bad!!!

 

[nikky0907]

Honey,nothing is more lonely than being in an unhappy relationship.
Honestly.

Now,I'm not saying that you will feel relief if you leave him but in that case you will one day,when you learn to cope and when enough time passes be truly happy.With your baby and possibly someone who won't treat you like this.
Someone who deserves you.
You will get out of this hole you believe that you're sinking in.
Staying with him can only make you sink deeper.And you don't want this for your child.She needs a strong,happy mother.

Using him for his company is certainly not a reason for you two to stay together! Not remotely. This isn't something you build a family on.

Now,you say you have support from your family.Use it.Or contact a mother and baby group,you can make some friends there...
Good luck!

 

[demonmadcat]

Honey,nothing is more lonely than being in an unhappy relationship.
Honestly.

I agree... It's an hard decision to make, but at least you'll know where you stand before LO's born...



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