how do I tell dh ???

[cbass929]

So he's been talking about Christmas stuff for me for a few weeks and has mentioned he would like to get me a new camera. Well I got a new camera about 2 years ago its a Sony CyberShot. It take amazing pictures. But the new in thing now is the bigger cameras with the big lenses on them. Yes they are nice. But I have a camera that I really like and take really great pictures.
Last night we were at target dh and DS went around getting a few things for me I guess while me and DD looked at other stuff. And he mentioned he got my big item but I hadn't asked for it and its a upgrade. Ok well that is a camera. I heard the kids talking about it.
How do I do I let him know I DO NOT want or need a new camera. What the hell would I do with my other one that works perfectly great?? There's no needs in 2. I can't use 2 at a time. And I have mentioned all of this every time he makes the comment about getting me another camera.
He asked me to give him a list of what I wanted. Wasn't much because I'm not a needy person, but the things that are on there are things I actually really do want and just haven't bought for myself or wouldn't buy for myself.
Such as 2 movies, perfume, back massager**, and it was something else small but I can't remember tbh.

I know this sounds like a ungrateful bitch but I am the kind of person with some things, there's no need to replace it if there's nothing wrong with it! Or don't fix it if it ain't broke!
I just don't know how to come out and say I don't want or need it I would much rather have that back massager that cost less and will help me out with my horrible messed up back I have! I have no idea what the point of me making him a stupid list if what I wanted if he doesn't go by it at all???

I know he's just wanting to get me something nice. But dang.

 

[cbass929]

Sorry for the typos I'm on my iPhone. Trying to fix most of them.

 

[Cat lady]

I think I would just come straight out and say it. Just say you over heard the kids talking about getting you a new camera and although it sounds lovely, you really like the one you already have.
Honesty will be the best policy here I think.
xxx

 

[cbass929]

He's going to be pissed. But I would expect him to do the same. But he will turn into a child about it and probably call me some names for being ungrateful. And I'm not I just don't need nor want another camera. When tbh unless it's like a event I use my phone to take pictures mostly now anyway!!
Ughhh this will be a fight for sure!!

 

[bubbles]

I'm with cat lady, honesty is the best policy. Tell him that while you appreciate the gesture you are happy with the one you have and would get more use out of the items in the list he asked for

 

[KeriEloise]

OH was telling me he was suprising me for xmas.. he got me a little pressie which Is my suprise pressie.. and i just told him straight for my main pressie i wanted a new camera to take pictures and video of LO as the camera on my phone is shocking!
I would honestly just tell him straight! So what if he mopes around for a couple of days mentioning how "hes going to have to take it back" lol. He will get over it hun ! and in the long run its going to be better than not using the gift he buys you and him noticing it! xx

 

[XJessicaX]

I would say "I dont want a camera, I hope you havent bought me a camera as I like my old one"

 

[xpatchx]

I assume it's a DSLR? If you really don't want a new camera (I have DSLR AND a cyber shot... and as much as I love my DSLR the cybershot is amazing too!) it's a lot of money to have just sat around doing nothing... I'd just tell him hon xx

 

[smileyfaces]

I would just say that the kids slipped up and said its a camera and just explain that with the money he spent on the camera he could have gotten you the things you asked for. Explain you love your current camera and definitely arent being ungrateful, you would just rather him get you something you actually want and will appreciate xxx

 

[GHPBWoman]

I went through this when DH and I first got together. I am not a girlie girl and don't wear jewelry, but he kept getting me jewelry for holidays. I did my best to be grateful, but he could tell it wasn't what I wanted and I hardly ever wear any of it. He still grumbled about it from time to time but has finally started listening to what I say I want. It was an expensive lesson for him!

 

[Baby France]

I'm with the others and just tell him....but I'd have a replacement of options ready.

That way you're pouring water on his fire, but at the same time opening his options.

I'd be upset if the present I'd specifically bought wasn't right, but giving an alternative would get me thinking instead.

I know my DH wanted to buy me Ugg boots....erm....no thanks, get me wallpaper for the front room thanks

 

[cbass929]

I had to get my Sony camera out and charge it because my dad is graduating from paramedic school on Monday so I need it to take pictures! He asked when the last time I used it which was back in August when my son started school (as I said I mainly use my phone camera now). He said oh well it's a nice camera. I said yea I love it, it takes amazing great pictures its just more convinent to use my phone for most things.
Well then a few minutes later he's like "I really want to go ahead and give you your present, I hope you like it. It's such a upgrade." I said "well I have no idea what it could be as I dont need or want anything that could be a upgrade from target. I have everything and had to give you a list of a few things that I would like to have and they were only $10 movies".
Then he says "well I hope you like it but f you don't I guess we could take it back". So then of course I started feel guilty.

But me personally I see no point at all getting another camera when mine isn't that old and it works great!! It's a complete waste and mine as it is sits 90% of the year! That one would just sit just as much, if not more...
He knows I want the back massager... Bad... But it isn't a "good gift" as he says! Well it's what I want, i would use it more then a camera any day!

It might sound bad but I'm a little disappointed that he asks what I want and then gets something I have told him for months and months and months that I have a camera and dont need a new one.

I mean its not like I could sale it for anything, or whatever...

Haven't told him yet... Trying to see if he takes the freaking hints and of course he isn't! Should I tell him now or wait til I have opened the darn thing?

Men...

 

[GHPBWoman]

I would try to talk about it now while he has the opportunity to purchase something else before Christmas morning. As disappointing as the conversation might be for him, it will be much less of a let down than seeing you aren't happy Christmas day.

 

[Bevziibubble]

I would bring it up now before Christmas. He might be in a mood for a bit but I'm sure he will be glad on Christmas Day seeing how happy you are with another camera

 

[cbass929]

This sucks... If he would just listen...