How do I tell my ex boyfriend I'm pregnant?

[mi rezo]

I'm 5 weeks along and I have my first doctor's appointment next Tuesday. I have yet to tell my boyfriend that I'm pregnant.

We broke up around Christmas. We were together for three years. In September, I moved to a different state across the country for a job. No matter how much we tried, the distance was an issue and we decided to break up. Recently, however, I was offered a job in the same city where my ex lives. I took the job (we were still together at the time and trying to work it out) and will be moving back in a few weeks. Then, last week I found out I was pregnant.

I don't know how to tell my ex about the pregnancy. I don't know how he will react. We were not TTC, though I know that he has always dreamed of being a father. Also, I don't know when to tell him. Do I tell him now? Do I tell him after the first doctor's appointment? Do I wait until after the 12 weeks when the chances of MC are significantly lower?

Please help. This is my first pregnancy and I feel so alone.

 

[Ambermichelle]

Aww sweetie, I'm so sorry! I'm kind of going through something similar (bf broke up with me after I told him I'm preggo and wants nothing to do with me or the baby).

Honestly, tell him now. And in person, if you can. The sooner, the better. He defiantly deserves to know and you wouldn't want to take that away from him. He may be so happy!

If you ever want to talk, I'm here. I'm not much further along then you

 

[imogenwanted]

Hi this should be an exciting time for you xx I would tell him now if you where together three years you should know him we'll enough I'm hoping he will be really pleased for you both, you will then know if your going to try as a couple or prepare to bring the baby up as parents and friends xxxxxx good luck xx

 

[lowblow1]

Send him this:

Hey, we were dating
And this is crazy
But we had sex and
I'm having your baby

I'm kidding wanted to make you smile. It's tough but talk to him xxxx

 

[Ellieluv]

You're not alone. This community is great for that! Honestly...we are all together in our pregnancies and you can make some great friends here. Aw I am sorry you're having a difficult time though! I do want to say congratulations on the baby. I would definitely tell him and I'd do that in person. You guys were together a long time so hopefully the conversation will be a good one...especially because he wants to be a father in the future. Either way...no matter what happens...you won't have that to worry about because everything will be on the table. I'll be praying for you!

 

[mi rezo]

Thank you so much for your advice and kind words. I'm going to tell him. I can't tell him in person though because we're still living in different cities, more than 3,000 miles apart! I'm going to be moving back to his city in March, but I think it's best to tell him before then.

Since I can't tell him in person, I'm contemplating calling him or writing him a letter. Any ideas what would be better?

This is the most terrifying and beautiful time of my life, all at the same time.

Good thoughts and prayers to those of you who are going through something similar.

 

[Yo_Yo]

I'd call him now, and just tell him.

It's better to get it out in the open now, than worry about it.

 

[dream.angel]

I agree with yo yo .. I would call him right away and tell him ... ! & honey don't stress your self or feel lonely we are here for u xx

 

[Kittycat155]

I would tell now or soon BUT if you think he may flip out and cause you stress or say the A word/try to pressure you into that then wait.

If your going to need help look into what is available before telling him(housing/daycare/...) I would try to tell one friend just so if it goes bad you have that personal support.

 

[Kittycat155]

I would call! If he does not answer text saying you need to talk it is important.

 

[xforuiholdonx]

I would call him for sure. Its very important, regardless of how he is going to react that he knows. I know my husband would be very pissed if I had waited to tell him about our first oregnancy until 12 weeks, just because he was 3000 miles away when I found out we had concieved on his leave Lol.

 

[Kristle]

I think you should do what you want to do either way good luck sweetie.

 

[mi rezo]

I'm 5 weeks along and I have my first doctor's appointment next Tuesday. I have yet to tell my boyfriend that I'm pregnant.

We broke up around Christmas. We were together for three years. In September, I moved to a different state across the country for a job. No matter how much we tried, the distance was an issue and we decided to break up. Recently, however, I was offered a job in the same city where my ex lives. I took the job (we were still together at the time and trying to work it out) and will be moving back in a few weeks. Then, last week I found out I was pregnant.

I don't know how to tell my ex about the pregnancy. I don't know how he will react. We were not TTC, though I know that he has always dreamed of being a father. Also, I don't know when to tell him. Do I tell him now? Do I tell him after the first doctor's appointment? Do I wait until after the 12 weeks when the chances of MC are significantly lower?

Please help. This is my first pregnancy and I feel so alone.

Hello, just wanted to update you on what's going on. I told my partner and we decided to get back together and go through the pregnancy and raise the baby as a family. Thank you all for providing such great advice and for helping me get through last week's uncertainty.

 

[foxiechick1]

Aw that's wonderful news congrats! Very pleased for you! X

 

[RaspberryK]

Hey that's lovely news xx

 

[eris]

That's awesome. Glad you let him know now instead of waiting. Good luck to you both!

 

[babyfeva]

Oh great news! Wishing you and your family all the best!

 

[pearlsandbows]

Aww I have only just read this thread, glad you are working it out, really good luck
xo.

 

[dream.angel]

Thats awesome congratz have a happy and healthy peegnancy..

 

[karat85]

i just read this thread and i am so happy for you. I wish you and your boyfriend all the very best. Let the good times roll x