How do we agree/compromise on a name? Adalynn vs. Peyton

[adr75050]

My husband and I are having a little girl. This is our first pregnancy. We have a 9 year old daughter named Anna. We adopted her and kept the first name she was given by her biological mother. Neither of us got to name her so we never dealt with this conflict before. Now, we are faced with picking a name for this baby, whom will likely be our last. We did 6 rounds of IVF to conceive and I don't think we want or can go through all that again. All this to say, I can't propose that he let me name this baby and he gets the next one. He wants to name her Peyton ( after Peyton Manning) and doesn't really care what the middle name is. I dont particularly like the name bc I feel it is very common ( it just wouldn't be my first pick). If we did go with it, it would be Peyton Noelle. However, my pick would be Adalynn (middle name still up for grabs ), maybe Adalynn wren. I love the idea of having an Anna and an Addie!

plus I think Anna and Adalynn are both old fashioned names. some have suggested we combine the two but I think they sound bad together- Adalynn Peyton or Peyton Adalynn.

any other ideas on how to resolve this?

 

[BrittRashel]

I will say that Adalynn is growing very quickly in popularity as well. I know about 5 people that are pregnant or just had babies and are naming their daughters Adalynn. So, if you are trying to find a name that's not common (I'm assuming since you pointed out the Peyton was very common), I don't think Adalynn will be it. This was also my choice for a baby girl until we decided that if this baby is a girl, she will named after DH's grandmother. Lucille, Lucy for short.

We had this issue with our boy name though. DH was set on Colin, I was set on Conner. Neither of us wanted the other's name so we scrapped both names and landed on Callum, a name that both of us really like.

 

[adr75050]

I was afraid of that. Anna is supposedly very common too ( always on the top name lists) yet, I have only met one other child named Anna. Never met an Adalynn but May daughter has a classmate named Peyton, our neighbors kid before we moved was Peyton, and he had two other girls in her grade level named Peyton. We have moved now so the name may not be as popular out here but idk. We moved from Dallas area to Houston area.

 

[staralfur]

Adalynn ages better, and it has nickname options. I think all in all it's a more complete, classy name. It also goes much better with Anna as Anna is classic and feminine and doesn't really jive with a trendy unisex name IMO.

I think a name after an athlete is definitely more suited as a middle name. Adalynn Peyton sounds fine to me.

I've personally never met/heard of any Adalynns but I know of two little Peytons, so Peyton definitely strikes me as being more trendy.

 

[Quartz]

I think you have four options:

1) Scrap both names and find a name you both like. Do you both want a name that you both like or do you want one that one of you loves. Then have both names as a middle name (Noelle Peyton Adalynn perhaps)

2) Write down the reasons you love your name and arent sure about the other and tell to the other see if that changes your mind. We did this with DD and OH reasons for his name (samantha) were stronger than mine and I decided she deserved a name that one of her parents always wanted to name a daughter

3) Ask your daughter what she thinks either of the two names or if she has any suggestions - its how we found charlie for our son

4) all else fails flip a coin/pick name out of a hat

I will say neither name has hit the uk so cant help with popularity

 

[adr75050]

I am willing to scrap both names and look at others. In fact I threw out 50+ names for my husband to consider and he immediately shot them all down. He on the other hand, came up with only one name suggestion and it was Peyton. He hasn't considered any other name at all, just this one. Which is stubborn and unrealistic. I'm willing to consider other names but he is being unreasonable. Giving me one name to consider and that is it. Our daughter likes Adalynn better then Peyton because it is an "a" name. I guess the thing that infuriates me the most I his unwillingness to compromise at all.

 

[Quartz]

then I would say to him he needs to do number 2 sell the name to you. Tell you his reasons for really wanting the name and not considering any other. And see what they are and if there are more sentimential reasons then just naming them after an american footballer.

Then if it is just the american footballer say does he really want to name his daughter after his current sporting hero, what happens when next one comes and he is replaced in his affections. Your name fits in with your other daughter and tell him the reasons that you like it. Then I would say how about Adalynn Peyton Wren so she knows how much he liked Peyton Manning when she was born and he can explain it to her without her being stuck with it.

 

[love.peace]

Personally I prefer Adalynn. If I'm being honest (without sounding too mean) I basically told my husband that unless he really hated my choices then I would be having the final say because I was carrying the baby and going to give birth. Having said that he didn't give me any suggestions either. I think if he'd been extra keen on a name we could have used it as a middle name but he wasn't too bothered. I'd also had my names picked out for a very long time as it took us a while to conceive. I'm in the UK and have never heard of Adalynn but know 2 little girls called Peyton.

 

[cherrylips100]

Hmm that's a tough one.
If neither of you really like the other name then the logical thing to do is write them both off and try to find an alternative (I know its hard when you love a name)
Or you raise the 'I'm carrying this baby' point but I know not all men will let that slide (I've tried this)
Maybe try and come up with a name that has meaning to both of you instead.

 

[babydustcass]

If neither myself or husband loved a name we'd scrap it and find something we loved. I'm always the one mentioning to husband names I like or love, if he likes them to I take note and if he doesn't they are scrapped. I think the only way to resolve this is to keep looking. Explain to your husband Peyton can't be her first name and you both have to agree so will keep searching. It could be encorporated into a middle name if it suits. I don't like Peyton all that much either

 

[kksy9b]

I'm not a fan of Peyton, but because most people won't pronounce it Pay-ton but Pay-in, without the 'T' sound and it personally bugs me. I do know a couple Adalynns nn Addie of little girls now. I do think it ages well though.

I agree with pp, if you both can't agree on a name, scrap it and keep looking. My DH and I know a girls name for the next one but no clue on a boys. We just keep tossing ideas back and forth creating a short liat of potentials....but we both have to love or its out

 

[Milalacht]

I think peyton sounds a bit like a boy's name, so i think Adalynn is nicer.

 

[adr75050]

My husband finally said, "I have resolved myself to the fact that I am probBly not going to get to pick the first name but I at least want the middle." So although I don't like the way it sounds together, I get what I want (which is the first name) and he gets what he wants ( Peyton used somewhere). So I think we are going to go with Adalynn Peyton Bellard. Not the middle name I would pick, but how often will we really be using it? I'm content since I get the first name.

 

[HappyAnjeL]

I know someone obsessed with the Giants, their sons name is Eli, their daughter has LT for initials, dog is big blue, and cat is Cruz.. seriously.

I wanted to use Adalynn for my daughter, but MIL made a huge deal that DHs niece named her daughter Adalynn.. Which wouldn't have bothered me as I have never met her, but it bothered DH and MIL so there went that dream
I live in the Northeast, so may be different, but I know about 5 peyton/peightons.. and never met an Adalynn and only have heard of the one.

 

[mommie2be]

I love Adalynn. We're actually naming our little one Adalyn Gray, I've never met an Adalyn before but I know a few Peytons. I'm glad you got the name you wanted !!

 

[Moma Ali]

why dont you use both, then its fair to both of you and you said you dont mind about middle name

Adalynn Peyton is a very cute name and offers classic femininity or more modern edge depending on her personality as an adult

thats what we did with DS, I dont love the name OH picked but it doesnt effect anything and it made everyone happy

 

[Moma Ali]

oh ive just seen you update... good choice