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DizzyMoo
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You might want a cuppa n a comfy chair for this one . * sigh *
Hi ladies my son is 3 1/2 yr old , The last i'd say 3 poss 4 wks he has become naughty everyday, he is generally well behaved & of course plays up every now & then but his actions/attitude at mo are totally out of character for him.
He has started to answer back constantly, or when i ask something he just point blank says " no " , or he'll say " i said i want .. " etc etc demanding things or when i make him something to eat he'll argue he dont want that & say " i told you not to make that " .. he sulks , throws his arms about & when i try to tell him no or that he is being naughty , or that if he does it again he gets no sweets, pennies or whatever he just laughs in my face , or starts to to say " dont tell me that word " . I know most 3 yr olds go through a phase but how long for? how do i deal with it? im finding it so hard & difficult im losing my rag & the easiest way at mo is to send him to his room as soon as he even starts i dont lose my rag as quick which i admit i have virtually no patience.
The other thing is where as he's always been polite, and although very active he's always been pleasant & done as he's told, he's a cuddly mummies boy & has never been the type to hit others or cause trouble. BUT at nursery lately their telling me he's being naughty all of a sudden & usually its general kiddyness like talking during quiet story time or not sitting when asked, ya know silly little things that dont exactly bother me..but a few wks ago he pushed a little boy who landed on something cutting his head they couldnt work out what had happened but when i got josh home i sat him down & asked why he did it he said this boy pushed him & stole his toy. Now my problem is because josh is quiet & has always been shown play nicely he knows no diff so when ppl are nasty with him he doesnt understand or how to react so used to accept it, i started telling him if boys hit you & hurt you then you hit back. I'm not having him bullied/picked on or scared & i know some of you will say hes only 3 BUT this is where it starts. Ive always said you dont hit ppl you tell the wrkr etc & try to tell him its not nice to hit or snatch toys, so now im confused. But aswell as that incident... hes pushed somebody else & when asked why this other boy actually sent my son flying over an outside toy so josh got up & pushed him back..but do i discipline or not?
Another incident was yesterday when i was picking him up from nursery he was in the play yard & just as i got there i saw josh & another boy holding a boy by the collar & shaking him back & forth if ya get me, This is just so unlike josh it upset me , i shouted of josh & told him we dont do that,asked why he was doing it & told him to apologise, i had hold of him by the wrist & he started to try pull away saying get off me, then tried pushing my hand off him & trying to get past me into nursery away from the situ, i was so angry with him for his behaviour. So we left & when we got home i sent him straight upstairs, i spoke to him later & told him he was naughty & that he must apologise today to the little boy or we get no puppy. he understands & said sorry to me & that he will say sorry to the boy.
Ive noticed some of the boys at nursery are bullying & are always either in the naughty corner or are being spoken to by the staff about their behaviour. I cant praise the staff enough they are lovely but is this just a stage he is going through? Or is it something thats setting it off? Could it be hes just copying other boys? Its beginning to really upset me now as this is just not like him at all & i dont know what to do, Its just so much out of character you wouldnt believe . At home or with other family children he is superb & plays great , apart from the attitude he has with me.
Help me before i give up
Sorry this is lengthy thanks for reading .
ps tried the naughty step time out thing but it hasnt worked & he now takes himself there tut
Hi ladies my son is 3 1/2 yr old , The last i'd say 3 poss 4 wks he has become naughty everyday, he is generally well behaved & of course plays up every now & then but his actions/attitude at mo are totally out of character for him.
He has started to answer back constantly, or when i ask something he just point blank says " no " , or he'll say " i said i want .. " etc etc demanding things or when i make him something to eat he'll argue he dont want that & say " i told you not to make that " .. he sulks , throws his arms about & when i try to tell him no or that he is being naughty , or that if he does it again he gets no sweets, pennies or whatever he just laughs in my face , or starts to to say " dont tell me that word " . I know most 3 yr olds go through a phase but how long for? how do i deal with it? im finding it so hard & difficult im losing my rag & the easiest way at mo is to send him to his room as soon as he even starts i dont lose my rag as quick which i admit i have virtually no patience.
The other thing is where as he's always been polite, and although very active he's always been pleasant & done as he's told, he's a cuddly mummies boy & has never been the type to hit others or cause trouble. BUT at nursery lately their telling me he's being naughty all of a sudden & usually its general kiddyness like talking during quiet story time or not sitting when asked, ya know silly little things that dont exactly bother me..but a few wks ago he pushed a little boy who landed on something cutting his head they couldnt work out what had happened but when i got josh home i sat him down & asked why he did it he said this boy pushed him & stole his toy. Now my problem is because josh is quiet & has always been shown play nicely he knows no diff so when ppl are nasty with him he doesnt understand or how to react so used to accept it, i started telling him if boys hit you & hurt you then you hit back. I'm not having him bullied/picked on or scared & i know some of you will say hes only 3 BUT this is where it starts. Ive always said you dont hit ppl you tell the wrkr etc & try to tell him its not nice to hit or snatch toys, so now im confused. But aswell as that incident... hes pushed somebody else & when asked why this other boy actually sent my son flying over an outside toy so josh got up & pushed him back..but do i discipline or not?
Another incident was yesterday when i was picking him up from nursery he was in the play yard & just as i got there i saw josh & another boy holding a boy by the collar & shaking him back & forth if ya get me, This is just so unlike josh it upset me , i shouted of josh & told him we dont do that,asked why he was doing it & told him to apologise, i had hold of him by the wrist & he started to try pull away saying get off me, then tried pushing my hand off him & trying to get past me into nursery away from the situ, i was so angry with him for his behaviour. So we left & when we got home i sent him straight upstairs, i spoke to him later & told him he was naughty & that he must apologise today to the little boy or we get no puppy. he understands & said sorry to me & that he will say sorry to the boy.
Ive noticed some of the boys at nursery are bullying & are always either in the naughty corner or are being spoken to by the staff about their behaviour. I cant praise the staff enough they are lovely but is this just a stage he is going through? Or is it something thats setting it off? Could it be hes just copying other boys? Its beginning to really upset me now as this is just not like him at all & i dont know what to do, Its just so much out of character you wouldnt believe . At home or with other family children he is superb & plays great , apart from the attitude he has with me.
Help me before i give up
Sorry this is lengthy thanks for reading .
ps tried the naughty step time out thing but it hasnt worked & he now takes himself there tut