How do you not drive yourself insane?

[Baronessgogo]

I had a MMC in June this year, and have known i was pregnant for 3 weeks, in that time i have had spotting, and convinced myself that the baby had gone, and had a scan to find everything is ok, but how on earth do i not drive myself insane by worrying all the time.

I feel a bit better this time because I actually have some morning sickness, which i didn't get last time, but then again i saw the heartbeat last time too and it ended.

Im just torturing myself with these thoughts, i wish i knew how to stop worrying.

 

[Mizze]

You make a conscious choice - that sounds flippant doesnt it, but I mean it and i am not suggesting for a second its an easy thing to do but that and relying on PMA is how you get through it - one hour, one day at a time. Worrying will always happen but worrying until you are stressed, sick and insane is something you need to try and stop.

Stress is bad for you - therefore its not good for the baby (focus on that) therefore I WILL not be stressed. Find some relaxation techniques and physically calm yourself down. It was the only way I could do it - although after 2 MMC's I had the help of a stress counsellor - if you can get one of those I thoroughly recommend them

HTH a bit
Mizze xx

 

[Baronessgogo]

TThat does help, thank you very much

 

[hb1]

Yes - it is a one day/week/milestone at a time sort of a thing.

I worried a lot more at the beginning - would be fine then would have a wobble and imagine all sorts of things. Now the balance is shifting as time goes on but I still have my moments....

When you do get a point where you are happy do enjoy it though - I have loved the bits when I'm just rubbing my bump and smiling and feeling positive - it's very important to enjoy it too - you can't undo the past and your experiences but you can work beyond them.

hx

 

[SugarKisses]

All we can do is take one day at a time. I set myself little goals to reach....that arent too far away, like I set goals for every hosp app I have-I have them weekly. I set goals for every time I turn another week and then again every time I get half way through the week because by that point, im closer to the next week rather than the week im in-does that make sense?

Lots of love xx

 

[Tulip]

Welcome to PAL sweetie - I'm so glad to hear that Sam has sent you another bean I can't really add to what the girls have said. Just keep telling yourself that you ARE pregnant. Every single day is a success, one step closer to holding your little one safely in your arms. You have precious little control over what happens now, except to try and stay calm and look after yourself xxx

 

[Lynsay]

I wonder the same thing everyday too! The thing holding me together the most is ladies like Sugarkisses up above, who have been through still born or worse. I have so much respect and admiration for you ladies, a loss at any stage is difficult to get through but I can't imagine anything worse than that

We just have to take is slow...one day at a time, and thank goodness for us having the pleasure of being pregnant.

I kinda broke down at work earlier thinking about negative things, but these feelings come and go...lets all just pray for a happy and very healthy nine months xx

 

[Misty]

Glad I'm not the only one a bit crazy!

It's 4W6D here. I'm just hanging onto the fact I'm not bleeding or in pain, and I feel sick!

I am going for a scan at the beginning of next week (I can self refer to EPU). Any ideas for how to fast forward one week?!

((((hugs)))) girls.

 

[Baronessgogo]

Im losing hope already, all my symptoms have disappeared I have a scan in two weeks and i will wait until then if there is no bleeding but i just know it will be bad news

 

[Mizze]

Symptoms come and go hon - they do honestly, doesnt mean its all over. Try and stay positive.

losts of sticky dust to you.

Mizze xx

 

[goddess25]

I think all you can do is take it one day at a time really. I just read that your symptoms have gone... when your so early they come and go and does not necessarily mean that something bad has happened. Till I was about 8 weeks mine came and went. I feel better as time goes on but you still have your moments and right now all I am concentrating on is 2 more weeks until viability day.

Hope everything is ok and its important to point out that we all feel the same.