I wouldn't donate my eggs if I were you, I don't encourage this at all..no matter how much someone wants a baby, no matter how much they have suffered, for the sake of the child, but to answer your question, I doubt you're pregnant.
Wow, that was... Blunt. I'm curious as to why you think it's not a good idea?
It's moot anyway, turns out me and the would be father both have the CF carrier gene so I'm not allowed to have children with him, which has been a tragic blow to all three of us. But if I could do it all over again I would in a heartbeat.
How would it be for the sake of the child not to give it life and a mother and father who went through hell and back to give it life? Very strange opinion I'll be honest...
And as others pointed out, nothing to do with what I asked about...
I will answer because you asked. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but this is not really about infertility, this is about the children created through this process. I never really thought about gamete donation until it was suggested to me 4 years ago that I use an egg donor. I read a lot about it and did not pay much attention to the people who had used donor eggs or sperm, but I read up on the children who then turned to teenagers and then turned adults and their feelings etc. Many donor children feel that they have been wronged and if you read their stories and look at things from their point of view they have. Gamete donation severs children from their genetic family and this is very hurtful to many of the people born this way. It's easy to say that genetic ties do not matter but many donor conceived children do not feel this way. If genetics don't matter, then why don't they just hand out babies at random in the hospitals? If you found out that the person working in the office across from yours was actually your half brother or sister, would you just continue life as if they were just another person at the office? I can offer you many situations like this.
Saying the child was wanted is not an excuse. And really, who would use donor eggs or sperm if they could reproduce with their own? Would it be a first choice or the very last resort? So because of that a lot of donor conceived children feel that when others say they were " so wanted" that it is very insulting.
I know there are many children all over the world that do not know their parents, but usually this is not premeditated like donor conception. All over the world, donor conceived people are moving to stop others from doing this. If anyone has a say on whether or not this is right, it's them.
No system should exist to provide people with children who want them unless it's a medical procedure helping people reproduce with their own gametes. Children are not for sale and they are not painkillers for someone else's unfortunate situation. In reality I probably would think this was ok if it wasn't anonymous and places like the UK and others European countries have made anonymous donations illegal. People with more power that are smarter than me have clearly figured out there is something wrong with this otherwise they would not have changed the
laws. But many donor conceived children do not feel this is right regardless. Even if they love the people that loved them very much so. Read a website called anonymous us. When you see that hundreds of stories written by donor conceived people you would be heartbroken. I could not use donor eggs because I could never be responsible for making someone feel like this. Many of them genuinely are tormented with this. Like I said, even if they love the people that raised them very much. I could go on and on about this but I won't. I know this will be an unpopular opinion ( for those that need to use this to have a child or to those that know someone else who has to use this) but I am not saying these things to be mean. I know the pain of infertility so it's not like I can't relate. But should I pass my pain off to another human being? Because with donor conception a lot of the times the pain of the infertile couple is just passed onto the donor conceived person and that's not fair.
I didn't come up with these arguments by myself to hurt others. This is what I have discovered to be true for so many donor conceived people after extensive research over the last 4 years. Repeating what I have known to be true from the very people born of this practice is not cold and cruel and rude.
I don't feel like anyone is entitled to a child that is not theirs at the expense of that's child's identity. I'm sorry if this is hurtful it's just the truth. In the eyes of the people who have the most right to speak on this subject.
To all the others commenting on how horrible I am for giving her my opinion, this is a public forum. When you post things on a public forum like this, you are going to get opinions and advice even if it wasn't asked for. That's the nature of the internet.