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I would love to have my bfp again in Jan, but know the chance of it happening is very slim. So won't get my hopes up too much.
how long did it take for your hormones to show negative
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Angelbaby - so sorry for your loss. I wish you the very best.... No one should have to go through that, let alone twice 
Sig- fingers still crossed for you...
Just on quickly on my phone in the car on the way to breakfast. But I got my blazing +opk this morning so think I will ovulate tomorrow
fingers crossed...
Sig- fingers still crossed for you...
Just on quickly on my phone in the car on the way to breakfast. But I got my blazing +opk this morning so think I will ovulate tomorrow
fingers crossed...
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Angel baby im so very sorry for your loss hun. X
Sorry for your losses Angelbaby. Take your time and as said by sig76 when you are ready. It's an emotional time for you and being scared will be natural to feel. Sending you big
.Hi everyone. im new to this forum. I posted my first thread the other day but not had any replies yet. It was about a miscarriage i had and the hospital told me i wasn't pregnant when i was. can post on here if anyone is interested? 
hi janalis22 here is my original post
Hi all. I'm new to forums and new to this site so don't know any abbreviations! I am pregnant now for the 5th time but have always been bothered about an unresolved issue in my 3rd pregnancy, 7 years ago. To summarise, I had a miscarriage after pregnancy symptoms and 2 - 3 positive pregnancy tests, but as i started miscarrying the nurses at the hospital told me i wasn't pregnant. heres my story.
I was having unprotected sex with my partner and was about a week late for my period that month. I took a pregnancy test and was negative. I threw the test in the bin but later on that evening i thought id have another look (as im sure alot of us have!) and saw what i thought was a very faint line. I studied it with my partner and he agreed there was a possible very faint line but we were both unsure to whether it was our mind playing tricks on us or not! Anyway, a few days later i got my period so that cleared that up (for now).
The following month i was about 2 weeks late for my period and had very obvious pregnancy symptoms for a week, ( being pregnant twice before i recognised them well) feeling nautious constantly, saw breasts (which i never get pre-menstrualy) fatigue and headaches. I took two pregnancy tests, 1 on 1 day the other the next day and both came back clear positives. My best friend was there with me when i did this.
There was alot of stress with the family around this time and an event that happened which i think may have contributed to the miscarriage, but id rather not go in to details on that.
Anyway several days later i started having really bad cramping pains and could barely walk. When i got back to my house i went to the toilet and saw blood. At this point i obviously freaked out and thought i was miscarrying but was praying i wasn't. My partner phoned the doctor and we had to go to the nearest a&e which is 10 miles away,where they have an out of hours doctor, as it was evening and i think a sunday. I got to the doctors and immediately went to the toilet again (another pregnancy symptom of constantly needing to urinate). Iwent to the doctors and explained and he said not to worry too much yet as bleeding can happen and it might all be ok. He said id like to take another pregnancy test but sometimes even after miscarrying it can still show up as positive so it wouldn't confirm anything and he'd like to send me to the hospital for a scan to check. I said im going to have to drink some water before i can give you a urine sample because i just went for a wee and he gave me a glass and showed me to the water machine so i got started! THE DOCTOR GAVE ME A SEALED ENVELOPE WITH A LETTER INSIDE FOR THE HOSPITAL EXPLAINING DETAILS AND SAYING PREGNANCY TEST NOT DONE.Now keep in mind, this is about 12 midmight and id just drunk a ton of water and as we all know pregnancy tests are supposed to be done first thing in the morning for accuracy. The doctor took the sample and my partner and i waited in the waiting area outside his office with the envelope to give the hospital. At this point which was a crucial moment for me i now realise, was that my partners phone goes off (sorting out transportation to hospital) and he steps outside to take it. As he stewps outside the doctor comes over to me and says ' right, the pregnancy test still says positive but i'd like you to go to hospital to have a scan just to check everythings ok anyway to be on the safe side'. My partner comes back in 5 mins later and i tell him what the doctor said (feeling slightly more positive about it being ok). By the time i was seen in hospital (30 odd miles away from where the doc was) it was 2am. The nurse opens my letter and says 'the doctor hasn't written anything next to pregnancy test result'. I said, 'no he took one after he filled that out because i couldnt pee straight away and it came back positive. She said well i'll just have to take another one. So AGAIN i had to drink some water and wait to produice another sample. Her test came back negative. I said it must be wrong, do another one and it came back negative too. She then tells me that our minds can make us think we are pregnant sometimes when we wern't and i was so upset and angry with her. I was crying you have to give me a scan! i know theres a baby in there, that's what iv'e been sent here for a scan!! iv'e had 3 positive pregnancy tests, one of which was done an hour and a half ago, im really late for my period and have all the symptoms!! And she said no you can't have a scan and that it was all in my mind. I said please phone the doctor so he can tell you about the test. And she said the doctor was at home in bed and she couldn't disturb him. So there i was, infront of my boyfriend and his mum being told i was basically a liar and had made the whole thing up. The most the nurse would do was to take a blood test and she said that would definately confirm whether i was pregnant or not because there would still be hcg in my system if id been pregnant recently. I have looked on the internet and seen many people have negative blood tests and urine tests when they are pregnant. Which i am shocked to find out and wish id known sooner. The hospital phoned the next morning and told me the blood test was negative for pregnancy. I was so gutted. The next few days i cramped and bled alot and was distraught. Several days later when i went to the toilet i noticed alot of clots. There was one large clot so i had a look at it. There it was, my baby. I studied it for a minute thinking, it couldn't be, surely. It was nearly about the size of my thumb (nearly 2 inches ish) it had tiny webbed toes and feet. My heart felt like it stopped and i felt a million emotions all at once. My instant reaction after id seen the hands and feet was to flush it down the toilet. Afterwards i didn't know if id done the right thing. It was only a long time after that i started thinking about it in a different way. I read that the size of baby the sixe of what i saw would have meant i was about 10 weeks pregnant. Which is what i would have been if i worked it back to the first test i had with the maybe faint line and period afterwards. I also have got more and more mad over the years about the way i was treated in hospital and how i could have ended up getting an infection if uterus didn't expel everything properly which could have ended in infertility or in the worse case fatality. How the doctor should have written me another letter, how my boyfriends phone had to ring at that moment, how i should have found out how to get hold of the doctor and called him the next day. how i should have kept the baby to show the doctor/hospital, how the nurse made me look like a liar in front of my family. To this day i still don't know if they believed i was pregnant. The only person that knows for fact other than myself is my best friend who was there when i took the test. It still bothers me to this day. Iv'e just had a positive pregnancy test done at the doctors so they have it on their own record if anything should go wrong, but i really hope that won't happen to me again. [post edited - please read the forum rules]
Has anyone had a similar experience to this? being told a blood test was negative when urine was positive? or being told you weren't pregnant then miscarried? Id really like to hear your story if you have and have been considering writing a letter of complaint to the hospital even though it was 7 years ago. People get badly treated and misdiagnosed all the time because of people not doing their jobs properly. It feels good to write this all down anyway. Sorry i know it's a long story!
Hi all. I'm new to forums and new to this site so don't know any abbreviations! I am pregnant now for the 5th time but have always been bothered about an unresolved issue in my 3rd pregnancy, 7 years ago. To summarise, I had a miscarriage after pregnancy symptoms and 2 - 3 positive pregnancy tests, but as i started miscarrying the nurses at the hospital told me i wasn't pregnant. heres my story.
I was having unprotected sex with my partner and was about a week late for my period that month. I took a pregnancy test and was negative. I threw the test in the bin but later on that evening i thought id have another look (as im sure alot of us have!) and saw what i thought was a very faint line. I studied it with my partner and he agreed there was a possible very faint line but we were both unsure to whether it was our mind playing tricks on us or not! Anyway, a few days later i got my period so that cleared that up (for now).
The following month i was about 2 weeks late for my period and had very obvious pregnancy symptoms for a week, ( being pregnant twice before i recognised them well) feeling nautious constantly, saw breasts (which i never get pre-menstrualy) fatigue and headaches. I took two pregnancy tests, 1 on 1 day the other the next day and both came back clear positives. My best friend was there with me when i did this.
There was alot of stress with the family around this time and an event that happened which i think may have contributed to the miscarriage, but id rather not go in to details on that.
Anyway several days later i started having really bad cramping pains and could barely walk. When i got back to my house i went to the toilet and saw blood. At this point i obviously freaked out and thought i was miscarrying but was praying i wasn't. My partner phoned the doctor and we had to go to the nearest a&e which is 10 miles away,where they have an out of hours doctor, as it was evening and i think a sunday. I got to the doctors and immediately went to the toilet again (another pregnancy symptom of constantly needing to urinate). Iwent to the doctors and explained and he said not to worry too much yet as bleeding can happen and it might all be ok. He said id like to take another pregnancy test but sometimes even after miscarrying it can still show up as positive so it wouldn't confirm anything and he'd like to send me to the hospital for a scan to check. I said im going to have to drink some water before i can give you a urine sample because i just went for a wee and he gave me a glass and showed me to the water machine so i got started! THE DOCTOR GAVE ME A SEALED ENVELOPE WITH A LETTER INSIDE FOR THE HOSPITAL EXPLAINING DETAILS AND SAYING PREGNANCY TEST NOT DONE.Now keep in mind, this is about 12 midmight and id just drunk a ton of water and as we all know pregnancy tests are supposed to be done first thing in the morning for accuracy. The doctor took the sample and my partner and i waited in the waiting area outside his office with the envelope to give the hospital. At this point which was a crucial moment for me i now realise, was that my partners phone goes off (sorting out transportation to hospital) and he steps outside to take it. As he stewps outside the doctor comes over to me and says ' right, the pregnancy test still says positive but i'd like you to go to hospital to have a scan just to check everythings ok anyway to be on the safe side'. My partner comes back in 5 mins later and i tell him what the doctor said (feeling slightly more positive about it being ok). By the time i was seen in hospital (30 odd miles away from where the doc was) it was 2am. The nurse opens my letter and says 'the doctor hasn't written anything next to pregnancy test result'. I said, 'no he took one after he filled that out because i couldnt pee straight away and it came back positive. She said well i'll just have to take another one. So AGAIN i had to drink some water and wait to produice another sample. Her test came back negative. I said it must be wrong, do another one and it came back negative too. She then tells me that our minds can make us think we are pregnant sometimes when we wern't and i was so upset and angry with her. I was crying you have to give me a scan! i know theres a baby in there, that's what iv'e been sent here for a scan!! iv'e had 3 positive pregnancy tests, one of which was done an hour and a half ago, im really late for my period and have all the symptoms!! And she said no you can't have a scan and that it was all in my mind. I said please phone the doctor so he can tell you about the test. And she said the doctor was at home in bed and she couldn't disturb him. So there i was, infront of my boyfriend and his mum being told i was basically a liar and had made the whole thing up. The most the nurse would do was to take a blood test and she said that would definately confirm whether i was pregnant or not because there would still be hcg in my system if id been pregnant recently. I have looked on the internet and seen many people have negative blood tests and urine tests when they are pregnant. Which i am shocked to find out and wish id known sooner. The hospital phoned the next morning and told me the blood test was negative for pregnancy. I was so gutted. The next few days i cramped and bled alot and was distraught. Several days later when i went to the toilet i noticed alot of clots. There was one large clot so i had a look at it. There it was, my baby. I studied it for a minute thinking, it couldn't be, surely. It was nearly about the size of my thumb (nearly 2 inches ish) it had tiny webbed toes and feet. My heart felt like it stopped and i felt a million emotions all at once. My instant reaction after id seen the hands and feet was to flush it down the toilet. Afterwards i didn't know if id done the right thing. It was only a long time after that i started thinking about it in a different way. I read that the size of baby the sixe of what i saw would have meant i was about 10 weeks pregnant. Which is what i would have been if i worked it back to the first test i had with the maybe faint line and period afterwards. I also have got more and more mad over the years about the way i was treated in hospital and how i could have ended up getting an infection if uterus didn't expel everything properly which could have ended in infertility or in the worse case fatality. How the doctor should have written me another letter, how my boyfriends phone had to ring at that moment, how i should have found out how to get hold of the doctor and called him the next day. how i should have kept the baby to show the doctor/hospital, how the nurse made me look like a liar in front of my family. To this day i still don't know if they believed i was pregnant. The only person that knows for fact other than myself is my best friend who was there when i took the test. It still bothers me to this day. Iv'e just had a positive pregnancy test done at the doctors so they have it on their own record if anything should go wrong, but i really hope that won't happen to me again. [post edited - please read the forum rules]
Has anyone had a similar experience to this? being told a blood test was negative when urine was positive? or being told you weren't pregnant then miscarried? Id really like to hear your story if you have and have been considering writing a letter of complaint to the hospital even though it was 7 years ago. People get badly treated and misdiagnosed all the time because of people not doing their jobs properly. It feels good to write this all down anyway. Sorry i know it's a long story!
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Im sorry for what youve been throug smirkle...im sure the dr that got the positive result was right but not the second time u went to the hospital....she should of checked u no matter what...ive had only 1 miscarriage recently and as soon as i told them i was bleeding they rushed me to get a scan/sonogram. I even had positive tests results after the miscarriage as there was still HCG in my system but slowly went away and now im already menstruating barely. It really hurts alot loosing a baby but for me it was a life experience that not everything turns out the way you wanted it to be sometimes. I really wouldnt know if for you to do a complaint since it was 7 yrs ago right now theres probably different nurses and drs. But whatever your gut feels like its the right thing to do, do it.
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Hi Smirkle,
I'm so sorry about your miscarriage. What a scary thing to see the baby without realizing you were pregnant. It is odd that your test came back negative. But, it could have been that the baby stopped developing and your hcg levels dropped well before you actually miscarried? It does sound like you had a very frustrating experience with the hospital!!
I'm so sorry about your miscarriage. What a scary thing to see the baby without realizing you were pregnant. It is odd that your test came back negative. But, it could have been that the baby stopped developing and your hcg levels dropped well before you actually miscarried? It does sound like you had a very frustrating experience with the hospital!!
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Smirkle I think what you went through was really unfortunate , it must of been really frustrating for them not to believe you.
I haven't had the exact same experience but with my miscarriage the hospital monitored me regular and did a few scans but they missed the sac on the last scan which I passed 3 months later so I could of got an infection. I'm annoyed but they did look after me. I just wish they would of done a d&c when I asked.
I hope this pregnancy is successful!
I haven't had the exact same experience but with my miscarriage the hospital monitored me regular and did a few scans but they missed the sac on the last scan which I passed 3 months later so I could of got an infection. I'm annoyed but they did look after me. I just wish they would of done a d&c when I asked.
I hope this pregnancy is successful!
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Update from me.. For about a week iv been getting negative internet cheappy tests, but backed it up today with expensive test and defo negative tests phew!! So i dont have to go back to hospital seems all must be clear mc definately over!
I think i may have ovulated Friday as had EWCM which i told on here and just wanted to say slg76 your sleeping naked idea so when OH got home late from work i wouldn't miss ovulation, that worked a treat lmao!! So hopefully i was ovulating and fingers crossed i will have a amazing Christmas BFP! Xxx
And smirkle i am so very sorry for your awful experience and your sad loss
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I think i may have ovulated Friday as had EWCM which i told on here and just wanted to say slg76 your sleeping naked idea so when OH got home late from work i wouldn't miss ovulation, that worked a treat lmao!! So hopefully i was ovulating and fingers crossed i will have a amazing Christmas BFP! Xxx
And smirkle i am so very sorry for your awful experience and your sad loss
xxxxthank you everyone for your kind words. it was a long time ago and i am emotionally over it, i think it's just playing on my mind recently as i am currently pregnant again. This time the doctor has the pregnancy on record so i feel i would be seen to more appropriately if anything was to go wrong. had a lot of pain on my left (ovary area) side last night and was tempted to get an early scan but i think im just over worrying like we all do. Everyone just wants to know their baby is doing well don't they. It's probably best not to do early scans as they can add more worry than putting your mind at ease. xx
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Smirkle I am sorry to hear your story... what an ordeal. Congratulations on the new pregnancy however, I have all my fingers and toes crossed for a healthy and happy 9 months for you xx
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Update from me.. For about a week iv been getting negative internet cheappy tests, but backed it up today with expensive test and defo negative tests phew!! So i dont have to go back to hospital seems all must be clear mc definately over!
I think i may have ovulated Friday as had EWCM which i told on here and just wanted to say slg76 your sleeping naked idea so when OH got home late from work i wouldn't miss ovulation, that worked a treat lmao!! So hopefully i was ovulating and fingers crossed i will have a amazing Christmas BFP! Xxx
And smirkle i am so very sorry for your awful experience and your sad loss
Hiya Charlie! Whoop on the O!! I see you used Sara's trick for a late night BD lol... good for you!
FX for an Xmas BFP for you hun
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Hi girls! Hope your weekends went well.. I am CD8 today.. boring!! haha.. I will start my OPK's tomorrow but I don't expect my positive until about Sunday, as AF is due around the 29th/30th. I'll keep you posted on my OPK's this week. We have BD the last 5 days though lol so hopefully we keep it up on the special days too haha!
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Good luck hun hope u get a second line xxx
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good luck sig!!
charlie - congrats on the negative, may that be the last time you ever hope for a BFN!
Petzy - I hope the boring part goes quickly for you. I'm not sure which is worse, the waiting to O or the TWW... hm.. I'd usually say TWW but waiting for O this cycle was a little nerve wracking post-M/C!
AFM I think O was Sunday, my temp was up .4 (F) today, and my chart looks amazingly similar to last month at O (last month was my first month temping). That is just mind boggling to me that your body can do the same little hormone dance month after month. Anyway! So I'm hoping temp's up again tomorrow too Come on little eggy... 
charlie - congrats on the negative, may that be the last time you ever hope for a BFN!
Petzy - I hope the boring part goes quickly for you. I'm not sure which is worse, the waiting to O or the TWW... hm.. I'd usually say TWW but waiting for O this cycle was a little nerve wracking post-M/C!
AFM I think O was Sunday, my temp was up .4 (F) today, and my chart looks amazingly similar to last month at O (last month was my first month temping). That is just mind boggling to me that your body can do the same little hormone dance month after month. Anyway! So I'm hoping temp's up again tomorrow too
Come on little eggy...
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Hi everyone,
Petzy I hope u Get a nice clear ovulation and catch the egg!
Qwk- I'm with you on the 2ww I got positive opk last Wednesday I'm trying so hard not to think about it but it so hard lol
Petzy I hope u Get a nice clear ovulation and catch the egg!
Qwk- I'm with you on the 2ww I got positive opk last Wednesday I'm trying so hard not to think about it but it so hard lol
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