How long realistically does it take to conceive?

[hereitgoes]

Well af arrived after an 11 day LP *(hope thats not bad)
This is our 4th cycle ttc...
How long realistically does it take girls? This is heartbreaking living from af to ov to af every month. .
Me 30, DH 32.. Dont smoke and are relatively healthy. My bloods came back fine. No pcos.. DH going for SA on thurs ...

 

[karla1]

medically they say anything up to 12 months is normal

we have been trying for 16 months now and are getting help from fertility specialist but i am 27 all bloods ultrasounds hsg and everyother test they have done have come back normal

OH is 31 and SA is better than average

even with all that its still over the "normal" time frame for us

 

[Camlet]

I've always been told anywhere up to 12 months is classed as 'normal' good luck & hope you get your bfp soon xx

 

[deafgal01]

Several couples should conceive within 6 months of trying, and many more get it within 12 months. I plan to ask the dr for some help after I've reached the 6th cycle mark (in June) unless I get the before then.

to ya! Hope you won't have to wait much longer. 11 LP is good... I still haven't figured out mine yet (and it's already going past what would be considered normal for me).

 

[silverbell]

I've read that anything up to 12 months is perfectly normal. We will be starting cycle 8 TTC in a week or so. You're right ... it is indeed heartbreaking, especially when so many other ladies seem to be so lucky and get their BFPs so easily and quickly.

I have an average 11 day luteal phase and have done a lot of research on it. 11 days is fine. 10 is OK at a push, but anything under 10 needs investigating.

 

[Waitin4astork]

It took us 7 cycles, with a few cycles of NTNP before then. Doctor wouldn't even consider seeing us until it had been well over a year.

 

[bluelilly72]

iv got 11 lp took me 3 months and 1st month now getting lines on my test not the cheap ones this time 2month but i getting cramps af due today and feel sick i hope you get your

 

[mooncake76]

I like this thread. I'm on cycle 6 of 'trying' with several months NTNP before that (but sporadic ones really, I even avoided day 14 the month before my wedding) I'm going to the doctors today. I know I'm still within the realms of 'normal', just about, but I don't feel normal when everyone else I know has got preggers in month 1 or 2 of trying. It really broke my heart last month, it was the first time I felt floored by the whole thing. I've ditched charting this month and ov testing just for a bit of headspace. It would be nice to keep this thread going and spread some PMA! God knows I need some!

 

[lol2811]

I am on cycle 7. Going for blood test this morning and DH has also gone for SA. I am not overly hopeful this monrth so will be due to go onto cycle 8 in a week.

 

[LaRockera]

It can actually take up to two years for a healthy couple to conceive, depending on age of course.

I've read in more than one places that the average time for a couple in their thirties is about 9 months.

I'll be entering my 12th cycle tomorrow (temp dropped today). So far all my bloods have come back clear. So have hubby's SAs. I'm now preparing to go for a lap and dye, and hope for the best.

I do have to say that four months isn't that long at all. Enjoy the journey, really. Forget the ifs. They will cause you greater heartbreak if you obsess about them.

Trust me. I know.

 

[honey08]

11mth ttc2 , 9mth ttc morgan going thro tests etc, wanting a lap and dye but seems impossible to get one

 

[readyformore]

15-25% in each cycle
40% in 3 months
70%in 6 months
85% in 1 year

my first was 19 months
my second was 1 month (which is great, but considering the first, they average to 10 months)
my third was 7 months
now I'm ttc cycle #9

So, I'm not super fertile. Honestly, I don't know of a single person that has consistently taken longer than 4 months. I know what the statistics say, but I still ridiculously feel resentful of all those lucky gals that get pregnant in the first couple of months.

 

[BabyBoyle]

As most have mentioned, 12 months is normal the Drs reckon. took me 6 months trying after being on implanon for 4 years..!!! Im on cycle 1 after a loss, and hoping this month i get a sticky bean xx

 

[karentia]

well with my ex husband i concieved quickly , 1st bfp took 3months , 2nd bfp ntnp an we only bd 1 time !! 3rd around 3months again unfortunatley i misscarried all 3 . my last bfp with my new partner took 11 months !!! i thought something must b wrong with him cause it was taking so long lol

 

[MrsPTTC]

I wonder what these stats are based on, I wish they were more specific. For instance, is it people just BD'ing throughout the month that it takes a year for, in which case people pulling out all the stops should fall quicker? Do we assume they don't have LP defects, PCOS, sperm problems? I'm using opk's pre-seed, charting, both dh and I taking herbs and vits and drinking grapefruit juice. If I have no luck after 8 cycles I'm going to get an online sperm test, after 9 I'm off to the docs. Good luck to all you ladies x

 

[LaRockera]

So, I'm not super fertile. Honestly, I don't know of a single person that has consistently taken longer than 4 months. I know what the statistics say, but I still ridiculously feel resentful of all those lucky gals that get pregnant in the first couple of months.

I know plenty of people that took them well over a year. In fact most of the people I know had to try for more than eight months. I used to focus only on those that managed to conceive straight away, but then realised how, not just unhelpful, but also untrue such perspective was.

And honestly, you've had three children. That sounds pretty fertile to me. Time of conceiving does not indicate fertility, unless there's something getting in the way. It's primarily a matter of chance, and age.

Sorry, I'm not ranting against you, not at all. But I do hear women bragging about being 'super-fertile' because they conceived first or second try, and it makes me want to bang my head on the wall. Like I said, if you are in good reproductive health, you'll inevitably be part of the statistics. That's about it.

And you know what? Your history gives me more courage than you think. I'm entering my 12th cycle, and looking at your numbers, not only does it make you look perfectly healthy, but gives me hope I'm perfectly healthy too. Fingers crossed. Because I'm shit-scared at the moment.

To the OP: The disappointment is, unfortunately, part of the game. And what an unpleasant game this can be at times. Still, one day, next month, soon, it will result to the greatest joy for you. Don't fight your emotions, but do remain hopeful. Next month is your month.

 

[Rivetkitten]

You only have a 20/30% chance of conceiving each month. It's a very small window and the older you get the less fertile you are.

I've only ever managed to get a positive pregnancy test once in nearly 6 years of not using protection. So even with fertility problems there are still chances. But 4 months isn't very long and most people I know take at least 3-4 months to conceive anyway. Most around 8/10 months.

In the last 20 months of TTC I've watched a lot of people come and go. I've watched people come, go, and come again.

 

[hereitgoes]

Girls can I just say THANK YOU for all of your replies. The wisdom is what I so need today. I am not close to my own mom and dad passed away when I was little so I have been so looking forward to starting a family of my own.
Its taken me some time to get my head around the idea - financially etc and now that we are finally in a place to start, the setbacks make me regret that we didnt start this journey sooner
we just werent ready. Now I know for certain how much I want our own family. I always knew ttc wasnt easy but you always think 'oh, we'll be different!'.... 'it will happen straight away'...
I really appreciate all the posts on how long it does actually take, it makes me kick myself out of this stupid mood Ive been in all day. Four months is nothing .. in the scale of things.. but I think the thing that makes this SO hard is all the friends/acquaintances who seem to have fallen preg within a few months of marriage... and here we are starting in Dec after a yr and a half of marriage when we prob should have started sooner. But, onwards and upwards I suppose.
Thanks girls for the support... I couldnt 'talk' out how Im feeling right now to anybody x

 

[babyboo1258]

doc told us upto 12 months is normal, some wont usually help before that, i had bloods done quite early on in TTc told the doc a little fib, anything to get the ball rolling. its taken us nearly a year my OH send his off on friday to get tested

 

[kelsey111]

weve been trying for over 8months now, with no luck were doing it stress free so no charting no temping, i just no when im due for and we try to every other night, both of us are healthy dont smoke hardly ever drink, OH did a at home male fertilty test and that came back fine, so i guess were just unlucky atm.. good luck ladies xx