How long realistically does it take to conceive?

[KendraNoell]

I wonder what these stats are based on, I wish they were more specific. For instance, is it people just BD'ing throughout the month that it takes a year for, in which case people pulling out all the stops should fall quicker? Do we assume they don't have LP defects, PCOS, sperm problems? I'm using opk's pre-seed, charting, both dh and I taking herbs and vits and drinking grapefruit juice. If I have no luck after 8 cycles I'm going to get an online sperm test, after 9 I'm off to the docs. Good luck to all you ladies x

Maybe you're trying too hard???? I hope that doesn't come off harsh but that's a lot of different things you're doing just in the beginning. Nature conceives on its own as well, have you two just tried to enjoy it and be relaxed and stress free? Stress is going to be one of the keys to having a healthy and happy pregnancy, you can't be dwelling on every little thing. *hugs* and hope you get your BFP soon.

Girls can I just say THANK YOU for all of your replies. The wisdom is what I so need today. I am not close to my own mom and dad passed away when I was little so I have been so looking forward to starting a family of my own.
Its taken me some time to get my head around the idea - financially etc and now that we are finally in a place to start, the setbacks make me regret that we didnt start this journey sooner
we just werent ready. Now I know for certain how much I want our own family. I always knew ttc wasnt easy but you always think 'oh, we'll be different!'.... 'it will happen straight away'...
I really appreciate all the posts on how long it does actually take, it makes me kick myself out of this stupid mood Ive been in all day. Four months is nothing .. in the scale of things.. but I think the thing that makes this SO hard is all the friends/acquaintances who seem to have fallen preg within a few months of marriage... and here we are starting in Dec after a yr and a half of marriage when we prob should have started sooner. But, onwards and upwards I suppose.
Thanks girls for the support... I couldnt 'talk' out how Im feeling right now to anybody x

Four months really isn't that long of a time but I do hate it when people talk about how fast they got pregnant or even the ones who complain about it. Don't beat yourself up over not doing it sooner, I've been with my husband over 2 years and we waited til we were married almost a year before we started trying. If you waited until the "perfect time" to have a kid you will never be ready! lol!

Almost 9 years for us!

Thank you for making me realize I shouldn't be stressing about trying for 8 months. I honestly think if I was in your shoes I would have given up by now. You are an incredibly strong woman!

 

[MrsPTTC]

I found this on fertility friend "It is generally recommended to begin investigations after one year of trying without conceiving or six cycles of trying with “fertility focused” intercourse" see link below https://www.fertilityfriend.com/Faqs/What-are-the-chances-of-conceiving-beyond-age-35.html. I know the title is beyond 35 but it appears that particular sentence is for anyone as it then goes on to say "Women who are beyond their mid-thirties, however, may want to consult their physicians earlier if they suspect any potential fertility issues or if they are concerned that conception is not happening as quickly as they hoped." x

 

[MrsPTTC]

I wonder what these stats are based on, I wish they were more specific. For instance, is it people just BD'ing throughout the month that it takes a year for, in which case people pulling out all the stops should fall quicker? Do we assume they don't have LP defects, PCOS, sperm problems? I'm using opk's pre-seed, charting, both dh and I taking herbs and vits and drinking grapefruit juice. If I have no luck after 8 cycles I'm going to get an online sperm test, after 9 I'm off to the docs. Good luck to all you ladies x

Maybe you're trying too hard???? I hope that doesn't come off harsh but that's a lot of different things you're doing just in the beginning. Nature conceives on its own as well, have you two just tried to enjoy it and be relaxed and stress free? Stress is going to be one of the keys to having a healthy and happy pregnancy, you can't be dwelling on every little thing. *hugs* and hope you get your BFP soon.

Thanks, I appreciate what you're saying but noticed a short lp in first few months and I've had spotting for days before AF (poss progesterone problem) for months which is now under control thanks to the herbs. It took me years to convince DH to try for a baby so I wanted it to happen straight away and I've got loads of friends that's fell pregnant the first month or by accident, they are so lucky. At least the doctor can't say I'm not trying and to go back and try other things! x

 

[monalisa81]

14 months and still TTC #1.
hang in there, we'll all have our turn