how often do you get a break?

[LTEx]

morning everyone

Just wondering how often you get a break, or if you get one at all? My son goes to his dads once a week for 4 or 6 hours. When he's gone i tidy the house top to bottom, do all the chores then by time i've done he's home.

I never go out on a night, never go out to cinema or anything like that. The only thing i do do is my best mate is a registered childminder & she loves having jayden for an hour or 2 once every fortnight. I don't mind him going as it gives me abit of time to myself but it feels as if whenever he goes i'm getting questioned on why i need a break :/

Anyone else get a break? How often? Am i being selfish by lettin him go to my mates house to play with herr son just so i can have an hour to myself?

 

[Crumbsx]

On a weekday, I get a hour break everyday and I use it to have a bath my dad looks after my daughter in that hour.

Then on a weekend, I'm obviously at home. And I go out with my dad and family, so they all help out but I still do nearly all the caring and it's not actually a break lol.

Your not selfish atall, everyone needs a little break. And what's wrong with taking him there? He gets to play with his friend and you get some time to yourself. A win win situation

 

[LTEx]

I feel guiltyy for lettingg hhim go i dunno whyy lol ive got a weird way of thinkin, i cause problems when theyy're not even there lloll x

 

[Crumbsx]

Lol your just a good mum it's normal to be like that.
But it does him good to play with other children

 

[LTEx]

I know & its only once a fortnight just everytime he goes i get a few family members moaning at me

 

[Crumbsx]

Dont listen to them!
There probably just jelous you havent asked them
You need time to yourself as does he with people who's a similar age.
And once a fortnight is hardly every day! So don't worry

 

[LTEx]

I know thankyou he's stopping at his dads this weekend its 2nd time time he's gone for the weekend & i hated it last time .. Suppose its good for the little one though

 

[Crumbsx]

Aw it must be hard for you
But at least you get time to yourself and he gets to bond with his dad.
Hopefully it will get easier does your son enjoy it?

 

[LTEx]

Hes just got used to going once a week for a few hours but he had him for a weekend (fri night to suun morn) about 4-5 months back & he said he didnt settle at night, kept asking for me but he's always with me & has a better bond with me so thats understandable for the 1st time. Just upsets me when he's away for that long even though i know he needs 2 parrents. Think its just cos i know what his dads like lol

 

[Crumbsx]

Thats understandable

 

[Laura2919]

Yep. I get every other weekend and a day during the week. If his day falls on a Thursday he won't have them overnight Wednesday cos he does football but if it's any other day he has them the night before..

It's the first thing we discussed. I love my children but I think it makes me be the best I can because I get some me time and they get time with their dad.
I'm happy how it works and I am grateful I get that time because I know there are people that don't get it.

I think you try and do the best you can. Even though I get all that time I have only ever been out twice in the past 5 months and I haven't really met anyone who I think it would work with.

 

[Snowball]

I have 4 children and I never get a break when all of them are out and I have some time. Their dad has acted very irresponsibly and tried to get our youngest aborted and that(and other stuff I won't go into), has created a massive distrust.

My parents have the older 2 everyother weekend and Ozzie with them every 4th weekend. I always have Louie, I struggle to be apart from him after all that happened. I've even thought recently about asking his dad if I could just raise him as my own... to stop the hurt and rejection he's going to feel about his dad as he gets older. It's a really sad situation.

I am knackered and I do feel desperate for a break at times so I totally understand

 

[LTEx]

Sorry to hear that snowball must be awfull for you! I'm in a similar situation with my ex (absolute waste of space) & i've often thought about tellin him i want to raise him on my own but i'm gonna wait till jaydens older so he can make his own decision

Hope youu manage to sort the situation out with your ex and your LO

 

[1sttimemom08]

The only type of "break" I get is after she's in bed and I'm off of work. And that is all spent doing school work. Every couple of months my parents will watch her for a little bit, but since all of my old friends ditched me when I got pregnant, then it's not like I have anywhere except for the store or my sister's house to go to. lol I don't mind it so much, but I do wish I could get out sometimes. Luckily my parents just watched my little girl last night so that my sister could take me out for a birthday dinner. I feel like I never get a real break between Zee, school, and work. (douchey, as I like to call 'him', has not been involved since day one... and tried to bribe me with $2500 to abort at 11 weeks pregnant... I love being the only one to raise her, and the only one that can take the credit for her accomplishments)

 

[LTEx]

I shouldn't actually say this cos he's his dad (but i hate his guts) but i'd love to be the only 1 bringing LO up lol sounds selfish cos i know he enjoys time with his dad but he's such a useless pilloc i just wished he'd f**k off & leave me & LO on our own!

Least you got rid of him hun, sounds a complete waste of space especially offeringg you money for abortion!

 

[v2007]

The ex takes the baby at least once a week.

Mollie as well.

But he lost his job two weeks ago so he took her Friday and Saturday.

I was so bored i was in bed by 10

V xxx

 

[LTEx]

The ex takes the baby at least once a week.

Mollie as well.

But he lost his job two weeks ago so he took her Friday and Saturday.

I was so bored i was in bed by 10

V xxx

I know how you feel jaydens only ever staayed out one weekend & that was about 5 months back yet his dad has asked if he can have him fri-sun this weekend i hate it when he's away that long as he very rarely sleeps out as it is but cant really say no with it being his dad i'll probably be in bed earlier than 10 so i'm in same boat. xx

 

[1sttimemom08]

Yes, I'm glad I'm rid of him. Long story short, he was harassing some of my family members and threatening their safety. We called the cops on him (and they say "we can't do anything about it except tell him to stop, sorry! no restraining order!"), and he hasn't been heard from since I consider myself lucky to not have to deal with him or his family...

 

[ilove3baby]

I never get a break...Lol...I use to get a break every other weekend but now that I moved and we still havent worked out visitation since i live so far i have absolutley no breaks...whhaaah. lol.

 

[teal]

The only break I get is when he's in bed at night, or when I'm at work