How often do you see your oh is ratio to how often he sees his mates?

[Laura--x]

If that makes sense..

How many times a week are you with your oh, and how many times a week is he with his friends?

x

 

[kellysays2u]

I am living with my oh so i guess this doesn't really count but before I moved in it was a LOT less time then he spent hanging out with his friends. Now that I see him all the time I can't really compare it but I think he still sees his friends the same amount of time. They just normally come over here now lol.

 

[Blah11]

I stay with my OH so everyday. He doesn't go out with friends anymore at all really although I wouldn't mind if he did. He says he prefers spending his time with me as I'm his best friend

 

[mrsholmes]

he sees his friend twice a week for football ( we are 26) was 3-4 times when we were in uni.

 

[Laura--x]

I see my oh like this ;

Sunday,Monday,Wednesday,Thursday. He comes down at 7pm becaue he has college in the day, by the time he comes down, i cook us dinner, and all we do is watch tele with my mum and dad. Im knackered so go to bed by 11pm latest, then he wakes up at 7am and leaves for college.

Used to see him everyweekend but now, he goes to his friends about 12pm friday, spends all friday,all saturday and half sunday with them, so i never see him weekends anymore apart from sunday nights.

Would you be upset if you only saw him this much? Would you want to spend weekends with him too? Is it bad for me to ask him to not see his friends and see me weekends?

 

[beau_belle]

no its not bad at all. you just need to tell him that youd like to do some things together at weekends, like shopping to get ready for the baby and stuff.

My and my OH where only together 2 months before he moved in, but before that i saw him practially everyday. Because we were really good friends and inseperable lol. Because before he moved in he lived a 40 minute train journy from me i used to finish work at 5 get the train straight from work to his and then get the last train home. Sometimes he would even stay at mine.

Now he sees his mates 2-3 times a week or they just come to our house.

Talk to your OH about how you feel and say you need more support from him with the baby.

 

[Luhweez]

My 'OH' lives with 4 of his friends and then another group of 5 of our friends live together a couple of houses down, so he sees them pretty much..4 days a week, then i get the other 3 with him and lexi, though he dosent spend all that time with them as he works 9 hour shifts and just chills out with them in the evenings so i know he's not up to no good, would like to think i scared him out of all that stuff.

And no its not bad at all for you to want him to yourself! its comfort for you and him both, plus as important as it is to have your friends, your relationship is more important in my opinion, especially at the moment i know when i was still pregnant and 'oh' was out with his friends i got paranoid about what he might be doing..

 

[LilFlower08]

Me n OH are living together, and we've pretty much always spent all our time together, we're really inseperable because we miss each other (How silly!) and we like to share all our days!
But before we moved in my rents used to tell me that we spent too much time together so when i tried to distance it we just rowed cos we missed eachother!
x

 

[Laura--x]

before i fell pregnant we spent all of our time together, but now its as if he can't wait to get away.

 

[Beth_18]

aww hun hope it gets better for you and dont feel bad for asking for some of his time
x x x

 

[LongRoadAhead]

Hun I think its just your hormones! You've got to let him see his friends. Im not meaning this horrible atall but I think maybe there a little jelousy that hes out doing things being busy with his friends and your not. So you feel like you want him all to yourself and be with him all the time. Iv been there before and it may seem hard but you gotta let him have a life without you too sweets or it will push him away
Xxxxx
I didnt mean to offend you or anything,Just speaking from experience

 

[tasha41]

My boyfriend probably spends one or two nights per week with his friends, then I usually work one or two nights until 11pm, so I see him three or four times a week.

I see him more than his friends, I still get mad at him for going out sometimes though because I rarely see my friends anymore.. we all work at different places and go to school and have busy lives.. and when they get together they just always drink! I guess it's jealousy that makes me get mad at him or something.

I guess I also get mad when he goes out and parties but deems the environment unsafe for me because I turned 19 (legal age here) on Friday and haven't gotten to go out dancing or anything I used to like doing and I am dying to go out and have fun with my friends..

 

[mrscookie]

i live with my hubby, im 23 he is 25 and he sees his mates every thursday night when he goes to rugby training and then every saturday for the game, occasionally out on the town after, but im always invited when he wants to go out on the town which is lovely, but I hardly want to go out anymore due to pregnancy
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[mrsholmes]

u prob need to talk to him and comprise, maybe see u once on the weekend on a saturday?

 

[heather91]

Me and my OH live together. He moved down to live with me (he lived quite far before) so he doesn't see his mates anymore. Sometimes I go out at weekends and he goes to the pub with my dad or something 'cause he's not really into shopping, but we spend most of our time together. We miss eachother too much when we're apart! I don't think it's right that your OH spends the weekends away from you, especially when it's the time of the week when you'd have all day together. Bring it up with him - you're definitely not in the wrong! x

 

[QueenMummyToBe]

My OH and I live about an hour & a half away from each other so I see him once during the week and every weekend, it isn't ideal but it is better than never seeing him.
Just talk to him and ask to see him some weekends, compromise.. if you want to see him on a weekend, he could make plans with his friends during the week?

 

[DiddyDons]

i used to see my dp all the time, we used to have certain days that we would see each other, but after getting jobs we just tried to see each other whe we could fit it in etc...
Now after loosing our precious little girl, the grief has consumed me and is making him more depressed than he was so he likes to spend more time with his mates than with me as he can foget it all and im not as much fun as i used to be, but that is expected after you loose a child. thing is, is that because hes out a lot with his mates, i get jelous because he never goes anywhere with me or invites me out so i get all crappy on him and annoyed, which just makes him want to go out more, which then makes me angry again etc etc so its a big horrible circle..

i just need him there for me through this hard time but im sure we will get there
(p.s weve been together 4years and we are both 21)

have a talk with him hun and see what he says xxxx

 

[Novbaby08]

lol....well last time I saw him...in person...I was like 16 weeks and it was from a distance, he avoided eye contact with me and walked off LOL what a dumbass, I don't know why he bothers, hes the one who lost out, not me, I get a little girl out of it. He got nothing but making himself look like a douche lol

 

[PixieKitty]

I spend pretty much all my time with OH... unless a friend's coming round, which only happens around once a fortnight, or if he's working (once or twice a week)
He see's his friends with me, and works with his best mate.
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[pinkmac85]

Me n OH are living together, and we've pretty much always spent all our time together, we're really inseperable because we miss each other (How silly!) and we like to share all our days!
But before we moved in my rents used to tell me that we spent too much time together so when i tried to distance it we just rowed cos we missed eachother!
x

Exactly the same for us!
I am 23 and OH is turning 28 so it helps to that he is past the stage of wanting to go out with guys and getting drunk and such! Our idea of a nice time out with friends is dinner and then bowling (yah losers we are lol)
We have all the same friends too so we all just go out bowling or curling together rather then one going out and the other stuck at home alone.