Thanks ladies, as ever.
I deal with bereaved people also, as part of my job, and I tend to get people crying and getting upset during interviews, so I know I need to be emotionally a lot stronger than I am at the moment.
Yesterday I wanted to go in to work just to sit in the back office and see my colleagues again, who have been lovely, sending flowers and cards and texts, but I sat outside with my mum in the car and cried. I just couldn't go in. And I have started to get upset seeing pregnant women and babies. I thought, and hoped, I wouldn't feel like that, and I didn't at first, but all of a sudden it's hit me.
I hope this isn't going to get worse...so much of me wants normality, but at the same time slotting back into my old life is going to feel so empty and wrong.[/QUOT
I lost my Emma on a Friday (bearly after midnight) and was sent home from the hospital , upon my request and once I got home I went to the stupid store to buy nursing pads, my milk had came in and was leaking already : ( BUT I can't believe I actually went to the store!! Everyone was telling me to just go home and get in bed but I couldn't.... Now, I know I was in SHOCK ...big time but at the time, I thought... "Hm, I can handle this" ...
Whew! Was I wrong! Once shock wore off, I was 100% miserable... So depressed I couldn't leave the house without having a melt down & crying , ecspecially seeing every freakin' pregnant woman or baby.. and man, there was a ton of them all of a sudden! I just hid... I asked my friends to please give me time, I pushed them all away, not sure if that was the smartest thing but I needed time, and time for my body to heal as well... after all, I did just give birth, just like everyone else but I didn't get to bring mine home
But here I sit, 6 months down the road and I am NOT gonna sugar coat things or make it seem all roses cuz it's not... It is better but no where near like I was... You will have your days babe ... Some good and some bad...I think the thing I say the most is " I miss the old Kelly" but then everyone including myself reminds me, I am still Kelly, just a new version and I'll never be the old me again ... I have to learn to be ok with that and so do my friends... I used to be a social butterfly, first one out the door, ready to just go, do anything , but now, I catch myself staying home more, I never wanna visit friends, so they have a lot of getting accustomed to as well, and trust me, not all of them was patient, and we no longer speak.... but it's all ok ...
These last few months I have learned so much and changed a ton but guess that is just part of life ... You just keep rolling with what you've been given .. That's what I keep reminding myself ..
You are truly a strong, brave woman... and never forget that!!
I just know all of our lil ones will be playing together today!!