how to make this day work.

[hayz_baby]

Ds1 has to have a minor operation in a couple of weeks. It's a day admission so in first thing and should be done by the end of the day.

Ofc I want to not leave his side for the whole day, but im currntly bf ds3. We are still early doors andand i don't know if I will b able to express enough and continously pump that day. I know its only one day but I was only ever able to pump a small amount for ds2 and it was never enough for him.
I asked if ds3 is allowed on the Ward as I'm bf and he is still very young but they have said no.
Oh should Hopefully get the day off so Ds1 will have someone there the whole day but I just dont know if I can b there. It sounds awful. I can ask my dad if he can take the day off as well to help with trips to and from hospital so I can check in as I dont drive. I don't think he will be able to look after ds2 and ds3 by himself anyway and I dont think anyone else will have any holiday to take. Maybe mil but I'm not sure.
Anyone have any tips or ideas? It sounds awful that his mum wont be there doesnt it.

 

[Tattoo]

Tricky situation! I do feel for you.
At three weeks, I don't think trying to express for your newborn is a viable option. Your supply is still sorting itself out, your body may not respond adequately to pumping, and there's always a small risk of baby either refusing the bottle or ending up with nipple confusion.
I'm not sure what could be the best option for you. It sucks that you can't take baby with you. I hope your partner is able to get the time off!

 

[Cattia]

I'm really shocked that they won't let you take baby with you. I would be inclined to call again and tell then that you have no childcare and will have to bring the baby with you.

 

[catty]

I think I'd ask again. They should be able to make exceptions for breastfed babies especially such a tiny little one

 

[zorak]

Tbh I'm not surprised about not being allowed to bring a baby in. It'll be to do with the risk of infection. It's a tough situation, not sure what to advise.

 

[lau86]

Maybe I'm heartless but in your situation I wouldn't feel bad. They've said no to bringing the baby in, which would be the ideal thing. Ds1 will have his dad with him and you are at home with baby. Personally my milk supply is always really precarious so that would be no. 1 in my mind, but everyone is different.
I don't think it sounds awful that you won't be there, once you have more than one child it gets more difficult to just drop everything doesn't it. I'm sure they won't even bat an eyelid

 

[purdy82]

I would ring and ask to speak with the Ward Manager/Sister and explain your situation.
With regards to infection risk that will/should not be any issue. I'm an infection control nurse (who covered the paediatric department of my hospital for a few years) and would never see this as any issue. Although healthy & safety might be a stumbling block.

 

[LoveCakes]

I thought it would be more about a very young baby crying and disturbing other sick kids.

Could you and your hubby both go and use a family room for feeding? So you can be there when not feeding but nearby if baby gets hungry? It would leave only one child to get looked after

If that's not practical unless he really prefers you to his dad the important thing is a parent there. Maybe I'm modern but dads can comfort really well too.

Hope all goes well!

 

[LoveCakes]

Also I'd prefer to keep the baby off the ward to save them catching something rather than spreading infection

 

[hayz_baby]

Thanks everyone, I might check again and ask as I only asked the pre assessment nurse. Oh has got the day off which was the most important thing and Ds1 and oh are peas in a pod and oh used to be a sahd for the most part of his life so I'm not worried about that iykwim. They will probably spend the most part of the day playing Mario part on their Ds

II think we might work it so I can drop in during the day at various points, see him before he goes in and when he comes out. Not to sure.

 

[hayz_baby]

Ds1 had his op and was very brave. Just oh went and I stayed at home. Ds1 was very excited to play Mario kart with him.
As he recovered well he was discharged and was home by 2 so that was better then I thought. As it was on his foot he's all bandaged up so I'm now stuck in the house until next week. He's only allowed minimal walking but it doesnt seem to be bothering him too much so he keeps running around etc. I feel hair being pulled out already!
Oh isn't working this weekend so we have decided to go to the kiddies viewing in the cinema as he should stay off his feet but it's a special kids screen so room to run for ds2. I figured this was a good plan to get out of the house without too much

 

[lau86]

Aww glad it went well!