How to motivate the hubby

[Jewels]

Hey girls.. I'm not expecting anyone else to have this problem, and I'm not sure if it's even going to be a problem because we haven't started TTC yet!

Me and my hubby are pretty lazy when it comes to sex. We love each other very much, but we usually do it every 1-2 weeks or so. If one of us is under stress it can be less. I think part of the reason is that I had been on an antidepressant for several months which totally took away any sex drive I had. I'm now off that, and I hear my sex drive will return when I come off my BCPs.

However, I am just trying to figure out how I'm going to get hubby in the groove of every other day at O time. I have a tendency to worry too much about stuff and things end up turning out better in the end. I'm just worried he's going to feel too pressured. I would like to try and make it enjoyable for both of us, and I just don't know how I'm going to do this!

I will definitely be trying the lingerie method, but any other ideas?

 

[lozzy21]

Battery powerd toys may help, it may make it seem more like fun hehehehe

 

[jen1604]

The more you have it the more you'll want it.Thats an actual fact.So you just need to start jumping on him more often.
The lingerie idea is always a good one along with dressing up in other sexy outfits,you could try watching dirty movies together,doesnt have to be porn it can just be anything that either of you finds sexy or anything that has sex in it.
You could try getting into the habit of getting in the bath/shower together every morning/evening.Most guys will get turned on just by having their naked girlfriend near them,lol!
xxx

 

[artypants2008]

I found that not telling him I was ovulating was a good thing as it seemed to take the pressure off him and he didn't feel like he was being forced into it. You could try text flirting to get him thinking about it before he gets home then pounce.

 

[nadupoi]

Most guys will get turned on just by having their naked girlfriend near them,lol!
xxx

I definitely agree!! Been there. Done THAT! Lots of fun.
I bet you can come up with some great ideas that make it interesting. If he's like any other guy, having his girlfriend/wife come onto him directly is a turn on. Text him or call him or whisper to him (whatever you'd like) and say something about how you want sexy time and you want it NOW! Guys love it.

 

[Jewels]

Great ideas girls! I'm definitely going to try some of these! My thought was that I probably will not announce that it's O time, but he may wonder when I've jumped him every other night for several days.. Hopefully he'll get in on the action and jump me back!

 

[Seity]

If you come up with any good ideas, let me know. Seems like nothing I've tried really works. Your every 1-2 weeks sounds nice to me. We're more like once a month when things are good. I'm taking my guy on vacation to try and get him in the mood for