how to tell others?

[purple_kiwi]

i know this sounds kind of mean but i dont want any one around on christmas. i just want it to be the 3 of us. last year we got draged to OH grandparents and i dont want to this year. i just want to be home christmas morning and see Kailee open her gifts and play all day. not be shuffled around. and OH mom is always saying i buy Kailee to much so she prob make snotty comments like i got Kailee to much or somthing. so how do we tell them? because we are already getting bugged about what we are doing.

 

[buttons1]

We decided the best way was to just be blunt and said outright we are spending our first Christmas as a family on our own just the 3 of us and will spend the day after boxing day with family

 

[Laura2919]

I would just tell them that you really just want to spend Christmas alone.
I love going to the families houses at Christmas because I love having loads of people around me but some people just really want a small Christmas and there is nothing wrong with that so just tell them how it is and agree to go there another day.

 

[bobsiesgal]

Just be blunt and tell them that you would like to spend christmas day as just the 3 of you, maybe you could arrange to see them on Xmas eve instead? or on boxing day? that way they still get to see you and have a family day and you still get christmas to yourselves

 

[embojet]

I agree just tell them! They may not like it but it's the only way to get what you want, and why shouldn't you!

 

[MummyToAmberx]

When we were asked if we were going over we just said ' no thank you were spending it at home with the girls ' we will pop around for an hour later on in the evening.

 

[Vickie]

I think you just have to be blunt about it. Can you maybe compromise and say go there the day before or day after Christmas but stay at your own home on Christmas day?

 

[sjminimac]

i was in the same boat as i have mum and stepdad, dad and stepmum and the inlaws! With it being munks' first christmas i wanted to spend it at home but oh wasn't keen. I gave in a little bit (he's only going to be 4 months old so i'll get my own way next year when he knows what's going on a bit more!). So we're seeing my family christmas eve, going home bath present (pyjamas and slippers) and early night christmas eve, up early just us 3 christmas morning for presents, breakfast and a play then inlaws for dinner. Next year it'll just be us on christmas day, all day. My one thing i was adamant about was that we're not staying out, we wake up here on christmas morning as a family every year. Maybe you could do similar? Otherwise just tell them outright which i'll be doing next year! Xx

 

[xxHollaxx88]

hope it goes well telling them x

 

[RHR]

We've told everyone we're having Christmas day by ourselves as it'll be our first one as a family. I've told my mum we'll go over to see her and my dad on boxing day for a few hours.

To be fair, she did say to me that that was she thought we'd be doing. But yes I'd be blunt about it so everyone understands what's going to happen.

 

[Rah]

Our routine is go to his parents 11-1 with all his sisters and brother so we can see the kids and give their presents (9 neices its easier to go) then my parents 1-3 and then we say no visitors its our time together

We only really go out to get the presents to the kids

 

[honey08]

i wud just say "see ya boxing day "

 

[special_kala]

i wouldnt make a big deal out of it just when they ask say "oh weve decided to do this year at home just the 3 of us but we'll make sure to see everyone over the holiday"