how would you go about home insemination???

[wrightywales]

hello ladies

Ive just had a failed ivf (my 1 and only nhs funded 1) i have 9 embryos in the freezer ready for a FET in september hopefully if they defrsot ok but have started to think of other options. OH and i cant afford to go private for any more IVF cycles so been thinking about home insemination and just wondered if you could answer these question as though you were going to do it

how you would go about it if you chose to do it?
how would you go about finding a donor?
would you ask a friend?

if you have done this please share some info of how you arranged it all

any info to help me work out what to do will be a big help

have had a few offers but off close friends and im feeling really strange about it all as we are really close

thanks in advanced for any replies

xxxxxx

 

[CurlySue]

To be honest, the best way of doing it would be through a friend who you know 100%. Otherwise it would be insemination through sperm donor and that would cost you a fair bit of money. Unless it's a friend donating their sperm, a friend who you trust completely and know inside out, OR its through the NHS database then I wouldn't do it. The reason for this is that if you were to get donor sperm through NHS you'd at least know it had been tested thoroughly for infection, genetic problems, damage, etc. If you get it from a friend who you know inside out, you at least know they have no health problems. If you get it from anyone else? Well, it'd just be dangerous.

There are websites online that advertise sperm donors but it would be down to you to make sure they've disclosed just about every inch of their life. It'd take medical testing which would cost you money, and they always recommend that you go through a reputable clinic to get this testing done. They reckon that if you're going through a sperm donor it ends up costing you a fair bit unless you know the person.

So....either a close friend or a sperm donor from a reputable source who you know for a fact has been tested. I've read stories from people who 'advertised' for sperm donors and inseminated without even checking their medical histories and it just seemed terribly irresponsible.

 

[rachelle1975]

Hey Wrightwales

Sorry to hear your cycle wasn't successful.
Have you looked into doing an egg-donation scheme that would give you free IVF in return?
DH and i were also concerned about the cost but the clinic in London offered free IVF in exchange for half your eggs - you just have to pay for the ICSI part??

good luck xx

 

[wrightywales]

Hey Wrightwales

Sorry to hear your cycle wasn't successful.
Have you looked into doing an egg-donation scheme that would give you free IVF in return?
DH and i were also concerned about the cost but the clinic in London offered free IVF in exchange for half your eggs - you just have to pay for the ICSI part??

good luck xx

thanks i will have to look into that more

 

[CurlySue]

Hey Wrightwales

Sorry to hear your cycle wasn't successful.
Have you looked into doing an egg-donation scheme that would give you free IVF in return?
DH and i were also concerned about the cost but the clinic in London offered free IVF in exchange for half your eggs - you just have to pay for the ICSI part??

good luck xx

thanks i will have to look into that more

They do it at the womens. Works out at about a grand and a half including drugs. Few little added extras along the way but it's way less than 2 grand.

 

[Kelly9]

I wonder if they do that here in canada, I would totally do that! We are worried that our IUI won't work and that we can't afford IVF/ICSI cause it's not covered here.

If you do home insemination do you mean like IUI through a professional or are you actually taking the donor sperm and injecting it your self inside you? Cause if you do that you need to know that it is super dangerous to put it directly in the uterus it can cause your uterus to collapse and can be fatal. So the most you could do is what regular sex does which is to just place it inside the vagina and not the uterus. I hope I am not way off base here and sounding silly! haha.

 

[CurlySue]

I wonder if they do that here in canada, I would totally do that! We are worried that our IUI won't work and that we can't afford IVF/ICSI cause it's not covered here.

If you do home insemination do you mean like IUI through a professional or are you actually taking the donor sperm and injecting it your self inside you? Cause if you do that you need to know that it is super dangerous to put it directly in the uterus it can cause your uterus to collapse and can be fatal. So the most you could do is what regular sex does which is to just place it inside the vagina and not the uterus. I hope I am not way off base here and sounding silly! haha.

This is what most 'turkey baster' techniques do, just put it in as though it were coming from a sexual act. If the problem is with the husband's sperm then this might work coming from someone else. I always worried about the legal issues, though. Would the husband not then have to adopt the child? What if the sperm donor changed his mind and decided he wanted to be 'the father'? Since this is not a legal 'transaction' for lack of a better word, then surely he'd have rights to the child?

When you do it through registered sperm donors or the NHS then there is paperwork drawn up to prevent this kind of thing from happening. If you're doing a DIY job then that's not the case. You could trust a person with your life but once they saw that kid, what would be the guarantees any more? That's also something that I think would need to be looked at.

Edit: Found this: -

Pros of Sperm Banks:

* They require donors to give up any parental rights. There is no danger of the donor seeking custody or visitation of your child.
* The child, upon turning 18, will have the legal right to apply to the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority for the identity of the father.
* They test semen for diseases and collect health and genetic information from donors.

Cons of Sperm Banks:

* They can be expensive and most insurance plans do not cover the cost.
* Although you can choose certain characteristics of the donor, you will never meet him, so his personality will remain unknown.
* They freeze the semen. This makes it less vigorous, so it may take longer to get pregnant.

Pros of Known Donors:

* You know who he is: his family history, physical and mental health, characteristics and personality.
* He might be open to being involved in the child’s life.
* You don’t have to pay for the sperm, although you may have to pay a doctor for the insemination.
* However, depending on the method of insemination, using a known donor carries risks as well.

If the insemination is carried out at a licensed fertility clinic, you can minimise the donor’s legal claim to parenting rights. Firstly, he would have to enter into an agreement explicitly stating that the treatment is not a joint undertaking. You would then need to receive the treatment under legal guidance, so that you do not undermine this agreement. Finally, he mustn’t be named on the birth certificate.

If you choose to inseminate at home, there are further risks.
Cons of Home Insemination:

* He is the legal father (even, in fact, if the donor was ‘anonymous&#8217 and may sue for visitation or custody of the child.
* There is a risk of HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases.
* The donor may choose to stay involved in the child’s life, causing dispute (If your partner adopts the child, the father ceases to have legal responsibility).