Yo_Yo
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I'm feeling really upset right now. My husband was talking about work, and just mentioned his boss was attractive which struck a raw nerve with me as we haven't been intimate much, and the only time we have was after a long talk initiated by me over the lack of it.
So, mentioning innocently his boss was attractive hurt.
I then asked again why he wasn't interested in sex and he again gets super defensive and we end up having another tense conversation about it. He then said to me he doesn't find me attractive. He then made out after he saw my reaction (crying) that he meant that he didn't find me very attractive during this arguement, and there are periods he doesn't find me attractive and that I probably have periods or moments I don't find him attractive either-not true! I never asked if he found me attractive-he just came out with it. I always find him attractive
it doesn't just switch on/off does it?
I'm absolutely devastated and feel ugly-my confidence was low when I brought up the lack of intimacy. It takes me a lot of courage to bring it up, and it gets met with unkind unloving co menus that make me clam up and not want to talk. So I shut down then
Who would even say they didn't find their spouse attractive even if they thought it? Your partner is meant to make you feel good about yourself and build you up, not knock you down with hurtful words
I am doing my best to hold in my tears, but I feel different towards him for saying this to me. I'm 38 weeks pregnant and already feeling unattractive without being told by my husband.
I don't even know what to do-he makes it so hard to talk to him and I always end up feeling worse than when I bottle it up.
I guess I brought up the conversation too as I was needing some reasuranxe he finds me attractive, but instead I feel worse
Am I overreacting? Not sure how to handle this
So, mentioning innocently his boss was attractive hurt.
I then asked again why he wasn't interested in sex and he again gets super defensive and we end up having another tense conversation about it. He then said to me he doesn't find me attractive. He then made out after he saw my reaction (crying) that he meant that he didn't find me very attractive during this arguement, and there are periods he doesn't find me attractive and that I probably have periods or moments I don't find him attractive either-not true! I never asked if he found me attractive-he just came out with it. I always find him attractive

I'm absolutely devastated and feel ugly-my confidence was low when I brought up the lack of intimacy. It takes me a lot of courage to bring it up, and it gets met with unkind unloving co menus that make me clam up and not want to talk. So I shut down then
Who would even say they didn't find their spouse attractive even if they thought it? Your partner is meant to make you feel good about yourself and build you up, not knock you down with hurtful words

I am doing my best to hold in my tears, but I feel different towards him for saying this to me. I'm 38 weeks pregnant and already feeling unattractive without being told by my husband.
I don't even know what to do-he makes it so hard to talk to him and I always end up feeling worse than when I bottle it up.
I guess I brought up the conversation too as I was needing some reasuranxe he finds me attractive, but instead I feel worse
Am I overreacting? Not sure how to handle this
