Has anyone's husband backed out of trying, and if so, how long did it go on for, and what was the end result? Weve been together almost 7 years and married 3. I've been in ready for kids now mode and he in someday mode for more than a year. We've set start trying dates five times since then, and hes backed out each time. Each time he does, the next starting time he proposes gets further out and for reasons more vague than the last.
We bought a house with what the shared intention of starting a family. We discussed which room was going to be the nursery and went to a pre-conception consultation together at my ob/gyn. That was a year ago, and he now avoids having sex with me for fear of getting me pregnant. He recently told me hes far from being ready and doesnt know when he will be, but hinted at years from now. I feel led on. Its gotten difficult to trust that hell ever be ready, and at times, I find myself not even liking him, which I know sounds terrible. He acknowledges how difficult this must be for me, but he doesnt show a sincere interest in getting to where he needs to be to feel ready.
We dont know anyone with kids who live nearby, so getting him on board via exposure isnt an option. Im scared he might put me through this until Im unable to have children. Im also scared that even if we do have kids, I will have a lot of anger and resentment for him that will affect our marriage quality. I wish very badly that I could relax and wait it out, but my distrust for him has caused me a lot of anxiety and makes it difficult to enjoy time with him anymore.
We bought a house with what the shared intention of starting a family. We discussed which room was going to be the nursery and went to a pre-conception consultation together at my ob/gyn. That was a year ago, and he now avoids having sex with me for fear of getting me pregnant. He recently told me hes far from being ready and doesnt know when he will be, but hinted at years from now. I feel led on. Its gotten difficult to trust that hell ever be ready, and at times, I find myself not even liking him, which I know sounds terrible. He acknowledges how difficult this must be for me, but he doesnt show a sincere interest in getting to where he needs to be to feel ready.
We dont know anyone with kids who live nearby, so getting him on board via exposure isnt an option. Im scared he might put me through this until Im unable to have children. Im also scared that even if we do have kids, I will have a lot of anger and resentment for him that will affect our marriage quality. I wish very badly that I could relax and wait it out, but my distrust for him has caused me a lot of anxiety and makes it difficult to enjoy time with him anymore.