Mrs.R
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Hey hun, sounds like a sucky situation to be in . What I will say is (and not downplaying his feelings or anything) but I think a lot of men, even if they are excited about having another child can't quite 'feel it' when we are pregnant. They don't feel the baby move every day, they don't think about the baby all day, they don't mentally prepare as much as we do. My husband was really excited for our first little boy, even then, he didn't want to talk about it all the time, and only once he was born did I see the absolute love, devotion and understanding that this new little person had entered our lives once he was here.
This time round he is the same, but I am way less stressed and excited so it kind of feels like we are on par. We'll have days where we are excited and days where we are just normal and forget about it. Some days out of the blue my husband will say 'I can't wait to see her face for the first time', and I get taken aback because he obviously had been thinking of her but I didn't realise. They are much more internal than us.
That being said, once baby is here, keep an eye on him. More likely than not he will cherish the baby but if you feel like he is withdrawing or resenting the baby I would go see a doctor. Perinatal depression is very real, even in men.
This time round he is the same, but I am way less stressed and excited so it kind of feels like we are on par. We'll have days where we are excited and days where we are just normal and forget about it. Some days out of the blue my husband will say 'I can't wait to see her face for the first time', and I get taken aback because he obviously had been thinking of her but I didn't realise. They are much more internal than us.
That being said, once baby is here, keep an eye on him. More likely than not he will cherish the baby but if you feel like he is withdrawing or resenting the baby I would go see a doctor. Perinatal depression is very real, even in men.