husband said i abused ds

[Breezy]

I am sure I have said similar. And last night LO woke up at 1am and didn't go back to bed til 3am and was crying the whole time and I probably said it last night! That is NOT abuse!! Not like you smacked him......

 

[MizzDeeDee]

Instead of judging you so unfairly he might try to do something productive to help.. like get his lazy ass out of bed and take over so you can regain your composure.

Your actions are far from abusive.

 

[mrsthomas623]

Perhaps you need to show your DH what real abuse really is!


please know you are an amazing mommy! There have been many a times I have told Nolan not to be a jerk and to go back to sleep...

 

[amygwen]

I don't have much else to add then what's already been said, but definitely not abuse in the slightest. Really sad your husband would say something so disgusting when he doesn't even help!

 

[Seity]

Oh please, I threatened to toss my son out the window on some of the worst nights.
Of course I never actually meant it, but it sure made me feel better to say it and it's not as if my LO understood anything I was saying at the time.
Your OH needs to get his arse up out of bed and help out, not criticize.

 

[tinkerbellkj]

Wow, if that is abuse I don't think I know ANY non-abusive mothers!! What you said was actually NICE, compared to things I have said to my boy on the worst of nights. Guess what, he doesn't even react. He has NO clue what I am saying and just carrys on with himself. EVERYONE gets frustrated!!

 

[bigbetty]

I think you need to "accidentally" leave the computer on this page and walk away so he can be nosey and read what we think of his ridiculous comments!

 

[sj22]

Am sure i've said a lot worse in the middle of the night! Like others have said if he was that concerned he would have got out of bed xx

 

[KittenKat]

If this will make you feel any better....apparently at bout 2am this morning I gave Kara her bottle, she didn't really want it and I led back down in bed and muttered/growled "bitch" under my breath.

Now I have no recollection of this, I don't even remember waking up/getting up, OH found it mildly amusing and teased me with it, he found it even funnier that I couldnt remember it. I think that is far worse than what you said and I feel terrible about it

 

[Gwizz]

Oh please, I threatened to toss my son out the window on some of the worst nights.
Of course I never actually meant it, but it sure made me feel better to say it and it's not as if my LO understood anything I was saying at the time.
Your OH needs to get his arse up out of bed and help out, not criticize.

i totally agree!

Ive also threatened mine with a wheelie bin, to pick a colour cos hes going in it!

 

[minkymoo]

If that's abuse then I should've been locked up a long time ago for some of the God-awful things I have said to DD when I have been exhausted and stressed out of my mind.

Your OH is an eejit and needs a kick up the arse.

When I have 'lost it' as such my OH always feels bad for ME and worries if I am ok because he knows damn well I would NEVER hurt my baby.

Fecking men.

 

[KittyVentura]

Oh please, I threatened to toss my son out the window on some of the worst nights.

I say this frequently - in a light hearted way. When he's playing "WHinge at teh stairgate" or "post balls through the stairgate" and I'm just chattering away he'll often get a good humoured "Finlay James Croton, put one more ball through that stairgate and you're going out the window".

I also grab him, turn in himside down, pretend to smack his bum and carry him around yelling "Penny a smaaaack... peeeenny a smack".

I hope the neighbours understand my humour lol.

Krissy dear - How are you feeling today? Have you given that hubby what for? I'd throw HIM out of a window.... or throw a discus at him for you.

I hope you're feeling better. Been thinking of and worried about you xxxx

 

[Faffalina]

When my little girl was just a couple of weeks old, I got up one time too many and swore at her I felt bad enough about it, and my OH said I had gone too far. Remember feeling guilty for ages. We all get worked up sometimes, esp at night! You did not abuse your son. Sometimes we just have to vent a little, as much as we all want to be the perfect calm mother!

 

[krissy1984]

Oh please, I threatened to toss my son out the window on some of the worst nights.

I say this frequently - in a light hearted way. When he's playing "WHinge at teh stairgate" or "post balls through the stairgate" and I'm just chattering away he'll often get a good humoured "Finlay James Croton, put one more ball through that stairgate and you're going out the window".

I also grab him, turn in himside down, pretend to smack his bum and carry him around yelling "Penny a smaaaack... peeeenny a smack".

I hope the neighbours understand my humour lol.

Krissy dear - How are you feeling today? Have you given that hubby what for? I'd throw HIM out of a window.... or throw a discus at him for you.

I hope you're feeling better. Been thinking of and worried about you xxxx

that made me laugh, when Kellan does something he shouldn't (like try and get the TV) I always call him by his full name! I have no idea why!!

I'm feeling better thank you, especially since hes now at work and me and my boy can play, I did shout at my husband, he still thinks hes right but he can do one

He always says things jokingly,, like when LO has a bruise or red mark from where he plays and falls over my husband always says to him 'oh has mummy been abusing you again?' Although that hurts I can brush it off as he doesn't mean it but he meant it yesterday

Thanks for thinking of me, congratulations again on your pregnancy! Oh and your cupcakes looks amazing!

Thank you all for your kind words xxxx

j ,k,mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmyyyyy, - Kellans thank you xx

 

[krissy1984]

If this will make you feel any better....apparently at bout 2am this morning I gave Kara her bottle, she didn't really want it and I led back down in bed and muttered/growled "bitch" under my breath.

Now I have no recollection of this, I don't even remember waking up/getting up, OH found it mildly amusing and teased me with it, he found it even funnier that I couldnt remember it. I think that is far worse than what you said and I feel terrible about it

oh sweetie, please don't feel terrible about it, you didn't mean it at all, it was just one of those things, we all do it. Your little girl won't remember it at all xx

 

[KittenKat]

If this will make you feel any better....apparently at bout 2am this morning I gave Kara her bottle, she didn't really want it and I led back down in bed and muttered/growled "bitch" under my breath.

Now I have no recollection of this, I don't even remember waking up/getting up, OH found it mildly amusing and teased me with it, he found it even funnier that I couldnt remember it. I think that is far worse than what you said and I feel terrible about it

oh sweetie, please don't feel terrible about it, you didn't mean it at all, it was just one of those things, we all do it. Your little girl won't remember it at all xx

No she won't, and we have had lovely cuddles this morning and as she is full of giggles (between screeching fits and general grumpiness) I feel so much better, still can't believe I did it without knowing, if I could have remembered it it wouldnt have been so bad, as she is currently (we think( teething so is being a right ole lil poo bag about going to sleep and having her bottle, and has learnt that screeching is great fun....for her not us

 

[bellablue]

no when he gets up all nite long he will be asking him to lol!