hyperemesis sufferers unite!

[NIfirsttimer]

awh katy thats so horrible of them to put this on you! its all you need!
luckily my work were really good about it all. they did request my medical notes from gp & hosp to prove it was all legit, but as soon as they got those i was fine...
my understanding of it is that your employer has the right to force your maternity leave early if you are absent from work in the 4 weeks prior to your baby's due date, with a pregnancy related condition. so i think you are right in what you say about 36 weeks.
anything prior to that should be considered as normal sick leave.
this might help...
https://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parent...ilies/Pregnancyandmaternityrights/DG_10039631

 

[Dream.A.Dream]

That's what I thought too. To be honest I intended to go on maternity leave at 36 weeks anyway, because I know that I'll prob still be being sick so it'll auto start anyway, and I think have about 3 or 4 weeks of annual leave to take before then, so really I would have been leaving at 32 weeks anyway. So it's only 3 weeks i guess, it's just if they force me onto maternity at 29 weeks I can't take those holidays so I'll be on half pay about 3 months sooner than expected xx

ETA: Apparently she's coming out to do a home visit because I've been off ill for a while so I'll just have to talk to her about it then and hopefully will manage not to get upset. xx

 

[NIfirsttimer]

just get upset if you need to hun. theres no point hiding it, they need to see that theres no way you are fit for work!
re your holidays.. i THINK that you are entitled to take any annual leave immediatly before or after your maternity, regardless of when your mat leave actually starts, so its worth checking that out too....

 

[NIfirsttimer]

just get upset if you need to hun. theres no point hiding it, they need to see that theres no way you are fit for work!
re your holidays.. i THINK that you are entitled to take any annual leave immediatly before or after your maternity, regardless of when your mat leave actually starts, so its worth checking that out too....

 

[NIfirsttimer]

oops.. double post ;-D

 

[neverknew50]

evening all,
just reading through this thread its so helpful to know these thoughts are normal. im worried bout the effects on bubs so reassured by your comments. katy- id check with your HR dept hun, they should give you all the info you need. x

 

[craftymum]

Craftymum and NIfirsttimer I was hoping you might be able to give me some advice. My work called me today, and my boss has said that if I am still off sick they can forcibly start my maternity leave at 29 weeks. According to everything I've read they can only do this after 36 weeks. Do you have any advice for me? I just got a new sick note from the docs yesterday for another 3 weeks, taking me up to 25 weeks and so now I'm worried. OH is currently jobless and if they're gonna forcibly start my maternity at 29 weeks I'm screwed. I will probably be homeless by the time bubs arrives if they do this xx

katy I think they used to be able to force you to take mat leave at 29 weeks but it's all changed now and they can force you to start your leave at 36 weeks and not 29 which is good as you want as much time as you can with your baby after. Just keep going to your Doctor for a new sick line, I had to get a new one every 4 weeks right from the end of Feb until I started my maternity leave in September

 

[teal]

Katy I hope your home visit goes well

 

[Dream.A.Dream]

Having a really bad today, can't stop being sick. xx

 

[NIfirsttimer]

awkk katy.. does nothing help?

lying totally still on your side?
wee bits of cracker?
lime juice?

have you been able to keep any fluids down at all hun?
i really feel for you

 

[Dream.A.Dream]

Managing to keep down the cup of tea I'm drinking so far, not a lot else though. No food seems to want to stay put today xx

 

[NIfirsttimer]

just stick with the liquids then... they are the important bit!
big hugs.. hang in there xxxx

 

[craftymum]

aww Katy big hugs, it's really awful isn't it. I found for a while the only fluid I could drink was fizzy lime and I had to sip it really slowly through a straw but I then got to a point where all I could drink was really hot tea and nothing else. Try as much as you can to get some fluids into you even if it's sucking on ice pops or lollies.

 

[NIfirsttimer]

warm water used to work for me.... not hot just warm.

 

[BumpyCake]

Well, you can officially count me in as a hyperemesis sufferer. So far, I spent one night in the hospital getting fluids and a second time I was there getting only one bag so it was a quicker visit.

In addition, since I throw up so violently, I pulled a muscle somewhere and it restricts my breathing. Luckily, I have a very understanding doctor who is willing to offer me whatever I need to feel a little more normal. Therefore, I take Reglan and Phenergen for nausea and Flexeril for a a muscle relaxer.

I haven't had solid food in days and don't get out because the more mobile I am, the more sick I feel.

I sure hope this goes away after first tri like so many have said. Keeping my fingers crossed. Hope everyone else feels better too.

 

[NIfirsttimer]

awhh hun sorry to hear you are suffering.. its not much fun at all is it
hope you start to feel better soon. Do you find the meds helping? not a lot worked for me med wise, although i too was lucky to have an understanding GP who tried lots to help me... it makes a big difference to have someone taking it seriously!

 

[Dream.A.Dream]

Hope your's goes away soon for you. Good that you have a supportive doctor. I think my doctor would say there was nothing they could do even if I walked in with my head hanging off lol xx

 

[Kitty23]

Can I join? Got diagnosed by my lovely doctor on friday, and bleugh I don't know how I am coping with this. Its horrid isnt it. Horrid isnt even the bloody word. My GP has given me some anti sickness tabs called M something but they have been no help so I'm going back tomorrow to get some new tablets. I've lost 2 stone in a month so far . I'm off work this week on holiday and I don't know how I am going to cope going back. All day I am being violently sick , pulling my muscles and just blah I hope it stops soon
xxxx

 

[NIfirsttimer]

oh girls.. you all have my sympathies. i still havent forgotten how horrible it is!
i was sick every day (except one or two) from 6th november to 9th July, sometimes 50+times a day. its SO hard just to fuction isnt it!

kitty... are your tablets metclorpromide? or maxalon?

if your dr is helpful, ask about cyclazine (sometimes branded as valoid) they worked best for me, the didnt take it away, but eased it a little, worth a try

have any of you tried the sickness wristbands? i wore mine for months, not sure how much they helped, but again, worth a try!

 

[NIfirsttimer]

and OMG its triplets!!!! amazing!!! congrats ;-)